just wondering what anyone else would do with a very mean ( to his brother) and defiante 10 year old, who thinks he knows it all,cant seem to make any friends even though he tries really hard?
Julie - posted on 01/23/2009
If you haven't already, try getting him involved in something that will help build his confidence and self-esteem, like a favorite sport, martial arts, after-school clubs, things like that which will also help him meet other kids with common interests. I'm a big fan of the Boy Scouts - they teach teamwork, self-sufficiency, promote good values and have a very structured reward/recognition system which can help bolster a boy's sense of self-pride. I would also talk to his teacher and school conselors, if you tryst their input.
Angela - posted on 01/23/2009
ask the school to keep an eye on him is he being mean at school. has he always been like this if so ask dr for some help and advise. i have a son with oppositinal defiant disorde and adhd hes sticks out like a sore thumb at school so hopefully school may help
Sarah - posted on 01/18/2009
What do you mean by mean?? My son is 11yrs old. He can be defiant. I think that's the age. He doesn't have a lot of friends, he says he's picked on a lot, but i've seen him be a huge antagonist to the situation. He is not mean to his brother though. have you thought of going to a counsellor, to give him someone to talk to. there is such a thing as oppositional defiance disorder. or he could just be angry with something and not sure how to deal with it. He could be under developed with his social skills. Kids at this age don't have a lot of the coping skills we think they should have. They have to be taught. It's hard and tiring, but it can be done if we're diligent and get help when needed.
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