Let's bring back modesty for our girls

Melanie - posted on 11/20/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Ladies, I don't know about you but I am so sick and tried of seeing young girls trying to be all sexy and provocative. At such young ages anymore. I say it time for a change. Lets teach are little girls how to dress conservative and still look modern and cool. Now I'm not saying we should put our girls in turtle necks and skirts to the floor. I'm just saying lets have our daughter know that you don't have to show cleavage or show your crack to get a boys attention. Lets show them them how to respect themselves and there bodies. Lets bring back modesty for our girl.

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Candi - posted on 08/19/2010

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I have two daughters, aged 10 and 5. Do you know how hard it is to find a 1 piece bathing suit? After endless hours of searching, we thought we found one until we looked at it closer....it was backless!!! These are clothes for a child for crying out loud!! I have taught my girls from birth how to dress, sit, and respect themselves. The only way these girls will ever be treated with respect is to give it to themselves first. My husband and I get so disgusted when we see young girls, 12 or 13 years old walking around with shorts on that are smaller than most underwear and a skin tight shirt. What makes it worse is when they are with their parents; meaning they approve of it! I don't dress my girls in burlap sacks and turtle necks, but they do cover their YOUNG bodies!! They are children. They will have planty of time to show more skin when they move away...My oldest daughter has a booty, so the last thing my husband wants is to have more attention drawn to it by having words on the back of her pants. For Christmas one yr, our son bought my daughter some pajama pants that had "soccer" written across the booty and my husband had a fit. They are pajamas and she only wears them in the house..Thats how strongly he feels about that! Its rediculous. Lets teach our girls how to be little girls, then ladies. Now I don't put bows and pig tails on my 10 yr old, but she needs to be a little girls for a while longer. She is only 10!!! Girls do not need boyfriends in elementary school or facebook or cell phones...I am so glad there are others who agree with me. Its so hard to find normal people out there who don't want to see little girls dress like hookers!!!

Amy - posted on 11/30/2009

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Thank you. I agree. I am so tired of trying to buy my daughter clothes & everything is trashy. When did this become ok. Why is it ok for stores to sale pants for little girls that say things on the butt. I dont want anyone looking at my 10 year old daughter's butt.

Ruth - posted on 11/30/2009

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my daughter has a few skirts that go to the floor they are the kind that look like a flower when you spinn around. and all her dresses go past her knee, they are pretty and moderen. just long so that she isnt exposed. she also wears pants on her hips so that her bottem is covered. her shirst allways fall below her front pocket of her pants. she also wears tank tops over her tee shirts so she can wear them with out me asking her if she needs a ride to the street corner. i know thats mean but i wanted her to know what she was selling herself as with nonthing under them, she has never left the house in a plan tank top because of that one question. little girls should be little girls and dress like them, not like street corner workers.

Melanie - posted on 11/27/2009

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I totally agree that our daughter's react to the way we dress and it great that everyone here agrees and/or already taking actions to covering are girl's and ourselves up. My husband and I were watching a old western based love story and I turned to him and said I wish we still dressed like that. This move did have the salon seen. It was all high collard dresses to the floor type. I feel that the rate of teen pregnancy would go down if we just covered up a little bit more. Thank you to everyone to for the support.

Annette - posted on 11/21/2009

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I totally agree! Let our girls be girls, enjoy their childhood, and play! it's time for the "sexing" of our young children in this country to stop!

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Julie - posted on 08/22/2010

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unfortunately while the age of music videos and concerts is upon us our little girls will be subjected to it. i agree that our girls are not being taught a good example by such things and the lyrics of some songs are terrible. my son liked eminem but i wouldnt have it played in the house because of his foul language. our girls are taught to be provocative and our boys are taught to be hooligans. it is time for a change and if there was an easy solution i would be the one on the soap box preaching but i doubt anyone would listen.

Julie - posted on 08/22/2010

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I remember one time I came out dressed to go out with girl friends.. I was 15...My dad said...very calmly " are you trying to look attractive or available?" I turned around and changed.. I carried that with me my entire life ... "do I look attractive or do I look available?"

Ramona - posted on 08/21/2010

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I have the 4 B rule. The B's may not show, no butts, bellies, backs or boobs. Dd is 16 now, and I have not had any real issues. She had one dress that had sort of open back, but dh and I agreed, it was not totally open, so he approved.

Lisa - posted on 08/20/2010

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I have been raising my girls somewhat like that. I can only do my best to have them not dress provocative. I tell them there's a time and a place for all different kinds of dress wear... and when you're young you won't be wearing sexy clothes to school. Wear what is comfortable, but appropriate. They know how I feel, and thankfully respect my wishes, to a point. Stick to your standards, and hopefully they will follow. They'll grow up before they know it... they'll have all the time in the world to dress the way they want after they graduate and move out.

Julie - posted on 08/19/2010

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My girls were watching the Miss America Pageant and they were talking about the racy lingerie photos some of the girls had on white men's shirts while some had on bras and teddies Elizabeth quipped I guess the good girls wore the white shirts and Maggie said No the good girls walked out the door!
I was so relived!
Most the time I have to buy the girls shorts in the boys section so they are long enough! We need to quit buying the clothes that are minature grown up clothes! and say bring back childhood!!!

Brieana - posted on 12/01/2009

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Good post! I totally agree. You can have style without showing skin. Why do boys need to look at my 10 year olds belly? Uh, they don't. I don't let her read the teen magazines or anything. I don't dress skanky, and don't want my kids to either. And yes good point Amy W. Why are they putting words on the butts of our children?

Michelle - posted on 11/30/2009

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We so agree....I don't want my 10 Year (almost 11) dressing like she is 18, but I don't want her dressing like her 6 year old sister either. There needs to be somewhere in between. I am so thankful that she knows what is appropriate and whats not. She can't stand low cut shirts, and if she has one she wears a tank top under it.



I want little girls to look like little girls. My daughter (the oldest) knows we have to approve what what she picks out. And most of the time we have her try it on first, and she usually decides against it. We have this rule until she moves out.

Dannielle - posted on 11/29/2009

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Nice to hear all of these responses...I thought I was a lone ranger in my opinion of modesty!

Rene - posted on 11/26/2009

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Moms need to remeber to lead by example even when they say they hate us they'er still watching us and how we dress to look nice or go out how much make up we wear its not all tv some of it is and my girls and i disscue what they see and how they would feel to see me or grandma walking in there school wear the same thing it helps alot my girls are 11- 13 and im proud to say that there bums bellys and cleavage are covered and im very proud of that

Laura - posted on 11/24/2009

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All of you who have replied so for, Thank You!!! I couldn't agree more. It's nice to know that I am not the only mom left who feels this way. I have tried to instill in my daughter the notion that if you have to flash alot of skin to get a boy's attention, all you will get is the wrong kind of attention.

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We are a very conservative Christian family. We believe in modest dress. All of our girls (7 of them) dress as I do. Long skirts and modest tops. I am like you, I cannot stand when girls (of any age) dress slutty. It reduces them in everyones eyes.

Jessica - posted on 11/21/2009

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my daughter is 11 years old and she dont even like when girls dress like that it is so true the moms and dads need to bring the girls up to respect them selves enouph to know they dont have to shake anything or show anything to get someone to look at them.

Melanie - posted on 11/20/2009

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I was born in 1985 so I don't remember much of the 80's but I totally agree with not being able to let our children watch TV unsupervised. Just a couple hours ago they were showing Mylie Cyrus poll dancing at one of her concerts with her parents in the front row. It's absolutely ridiculous. I would have been embarrassed watching my child do that. Anyways thanks for your support.

MsD - posted on 11/20/2009

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Hi! I am new to the boards but a mother of three daughters (all 7 yrs apart) as well as pregnant with my fourth. I totally agree with your sentiments. I never thought that I would turn into my mother...but here goes :) The media is so largely responsible for how much input and impression they give to our children. Back in the 80's, when I was growing up, my mom used to freak out about the Teen Beat and Bop magazines that I would bring home, wondering if they were bad influences on style & body image. Like any young pre-teen, I was a huge fan of MTV and MuchMusic...back when videos were just videos. I think the "raciest" one may have been Whitesnake's vid with Tawny Kitean sprawled all over the sports car. What I would do to have something so minor now! It would be great to see some music videos with women actually wearing clothes and not gyrating for a change.

Gone are the days where you could do your dishes and let your kids watch half an hour's worth of cartoons....even a lot of those have terrible premises behind them.

Great post and I'll join your brigade! More is more attractive simply by being dignified!!

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