mood swings? for an 11 year old

Dixie - posted on 05/06/2012

I'm also new to this group--but I'm strugging myself with my soon to be 11 year old daughter..I have 4 girls 18, 17 almost 11 and almost 8 and this particular daughter has ALWAYS been very laid back but also VERY sensitive so now going through all these new emotions is throwing her life into a whirlwind of crying/laughing/smiling to I hate my life! I don't remember this with the older two so am really struggling with these emotions myself:( And feeling my poor little girl is pulling away from me. It makes me sooo sad for her and of course wondering if I'm handling it the right way. We've all been very open--

Tammie - posted on 04/29/2009

hi priscilla

my eldest daughter is now 16 and has been going through it since she was 10 (no it dosnt get any easier) i have tryed to spend more time with her ignored the mood swings and lavished her in attention when shes not having a mood swing. we have built up some good memorys. i could have seen us falling into the trap i had with my mother where we couldnt agree on any thing and i hated to be in the house. good luck and try and enjoy your time with her she is still your little girl inside she is just struggling to be free

Collette - posted on 04/28/2009

great question precilla i feel so much better now my boy is nearly 11 and gets these mood swings i find myself watching what i say incase he gets in a mood anyway i feel now im not alone and he is a completley normal pre teen thatnks guys xxx ps so there with you all WHERE DID MY BABY BOY GO xx

Chris - posted on 04/20/2009

Hi Priscilla. I have a 10 year old that does this. I printed off ALOT of material from the web and took it in her room to have a talk to her about changes in her body and mood. I talked to her for a long time and gfave her the chance to ask questions. I wanted her to know I went through this and so did every woman alive. Be open with her. Allow her the chance to vent, cry, talk or whatever she needs to do. Let her know you are there for her and make sure she knows the facts of what is happening in her body. I went to several websites and made sure I had information about physical changes, mood changes, taste changes, etc. Be prepared and know what you are talking about before you try to talk to her. Remember, you went through this but you are new to it too. You never had a daughter go through it. So be real and honest. She will appreciate it more as she gets older.

Holly - posted on 04/20/2009

Hi! My son is 11 and we have the same problem!! I never went threw this with my daughters(both adult, and out on their own) to me its all new, and I want my lil boy back! I know it has a lot to do with middle school, and he feels 'lost" in his huge school. It has gotten to the point where we have him seeing a therapist, who is wonderful, and really helping.

Josie - posted on 04/17/2009

I have a pre-teen too,She turned 12 in Nov. Same thing. )Oh my gosh where did my little girl go?) Well, it got better. Do fun things with her. Take her to get a pedicure. It will make her feel like a "big kid" but more importantly it will give you some one on one alone time with her. They seem to talk more when there is no pressure. Let her bring up the big stuff. Just try to enjoy her.



BTW this is my 2nd pre-teen girl. My oldest is 16 now and we have a wonderful relationship. Good luck. :O)

Priscilla - posted on 04/15/2009

thank you Beverly,
it helps to know Im not alone im really trying to remind myself that its her hormones:) Thanks again for your wise words of wisdom its greatly appreciated!!

Beverly - posted on 04/14/2009

Hi, my suaghte is 11 too 12 in June so therefore I know excactly waht you mean by the mood swings..  She started middle school this year (new croud of kids) s of curse learning all the "NEW" bad habbits etc. of other kids her age.  Also tis age is preteen where one is still a kid BUT the hormone thing is approaching adulthood. Try NOT to take it to heart (as hard as it may be) it's just her hormones acting up--- bet sometimes she's not even sure why she reacts that way.  Do your best to grin and bare it , because it's unfortunaltely one of those stages things we all have to do our best to get through.  GOOD LUCK through it all. Take care.