my 11 year old daughter is turning into a teeneger!

Vicki - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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shes a beautiful girl but she has started developing, and with that has already come the door slamming sulcking in her room iif we say no wich isnt very often!. ive brought up 2 teenage girls already and it was hard has anyone any tips on how to get through the next few years smoothly as possible please all advice gratefull.

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Amy - posted on 01/23/2010

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We've started a letter chain with my 11 year old. My mother did this with me growing up and it helped alot. Start by writing her a letter and putting it on her pillow to find. You can include anything you want from how proud you are of her to how hard you know the next few years are going to be. Then encourage her to write a letter back. Let her explain her mood swings, friend problems anything she wants to talk about. It's a great way to open up conversations between the two of you without her feeling pressured at a stessful point in her day. Remember these are the years that you need conversation the most. Hope it helps.

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Izzy - posted on 07/10/2012

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1. That was so insanely stereotyped.
2. No big deal, she's probably just hormonal.
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3. Just calm down and think about when you were her age. It will be easier if you try and she it from her point of view.

Cheryl - posted on 04/12/2012

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So true! My youngest daughter is 11 and my oldest daughter is 17. My 11 year old I have NO IDEA WHO THIS KID IS (LOL) right now. I experienced a little of this with my oldest ,but not to this magnatitude. I will say that there have been moe life changes recently that may have attributed to her new found feelings. It will work it's way out eventually though.

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My daughter is now 13 and all I can say is, welcome to the club! From what I have seen, all girls everywhere go through this. I run a volleyball club for girls 12-14 and I see all of them with the attitude changes and things, and I see their moms trying to cope. We have a saying that during this time of their lives, we will always love them, but we don't like them very much! My advice is to roll with the punches everyday, because she will come back around to that sweet girl you once knew. I see glimpses of her in my daughter. Just because she is mad at you doesn't mean she will always feel that way, and it doesn't mean you are a bad mom!

Tracy - posted on 01/23/2010

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i'm also a mother to a 11 year old girl so i know what you are going through.parenting just gets harder don't you think?i try to listen alot more now than i used to do.i find this helps.we also compromise on most things so she feels valued and i still stay in control even tho she thinks she is.she also earns things like later bed times for not answering back etc.hpoe this helps

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