My 11 year old daughter wants to get rid of her underarm hair, what should I do? I don't want her to shave it's only going to grow thicker and be even more disgusting!
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Susan - posted on 07/21/2013
My daughter is just 11 years old, and she wants to shave hrt underarms. The thing is, she really NEEDS to shave! I have gotten one of the strongest anti-perspirants, and when she sweats, she reeks. I don't want her smelling so badly at school!I'm not sure what to do. I even have her wash her ubderarms during the day, and it still happens. Not really sure on what to do here...I'd like to make this decision before school starts. Kids her age, (actually all kids) can be so mean and cruel! I surely would like to avoid that entirely!!
Shell - posted on 05/15/2012
Nair it, that's what I did with my daughter and it grows back soft and you only have it do it about once a month, and it doesn't hurt and it only takes 3 mins and wipe it off and it's not harmful to your daughter and delays shaving for several years. Hope this helps!
Cecilia - posted on 12/27/2012
let her shave. She came to you seeking your approval. she wants you to be part of her growing up. Teach her how to do it right. (which when it comes to shaving you go with the hair not against.. so armpit would be to shave downwards, this will prevent ingrown hairs)
It does not grow in thicker, that is an old wives tale.. And even if it did, she'll be shaving it so why does it matter?
My daughter asked me if she could shave her legs and i took her to the store let her pick out which foam she wanted, bought a good razor (only 2 blades) got a nice lotion and a cute box to store it in. We went home and i took her into the bathroom and showed her how to use it, what to do if she cuts herself, ect. It was a nice mommy daughter moment. She hugged me and said "thank you for helping me learn"
Rachel - posted on 05/06/2014
Ok. I am 12 (girl). Having hair under your arms is NOT fun! I feel so embarressed and can't wear tank tops or anything like that cause people will see the hair. Dot put your daughter through this if she has the hair then let her shave it. Confidence is a big factor at our age and this can really knock you down. Just let her you know you can like "bond" and teach her how. Have a nice girly weekend and teach her then. I just need to have the courage to ask my mum cause I don't really talk about this kinda thing... Any help with that?
Patricia - posted on 12/28/2012
I agree that it is a myth that the hair grows back thicker and darker. It only looks and feels that way because of how the hair is cut off at an angle and when it grows back out it feels rough and looks darker.
I would let her go ahead and shave or wax it off. I know most kids can't take the pain so let her shave until she can take the pain on her own of waxing or better yet permanant hair removal which I had done about 5 years ago. No more shaving for me.
Sarah - posted on 12/27/2012
you should do it for her or just let her do it beacause you wanted to shave when you were little didnt you i know i did. and it is part of life called puberty when it gets about a centameter long let her shave or wait till she gets her period
Charlie - posted on 04/27/2012
I say let her shave them because when I was that age and wanted to my mother would not let me. I was always very self conscious about it and it caused me to not want to dress certain ways or do certain things like going swimming because I was uncomfortable in a swimsuit. I think it is important for her self confidence.
Amy - posted on 04/27/2012
Let her do it! Teach her how to shave. It won't come in thicker. Go to the store and get her a good razor. The newer ones are very safe. Get her some good-smelling foam gel and teach her how to use it. This is normal. And it's OK. You can shave her underarms for her the first time or two. You can also make it a special mom-daughter time. By being open to her needs and her feelings/desires to fit in NOW - you will be paving the way for continued closeness as the teen years approach. Believe me - you want to set the stage NOW!
Amy Sluss, RN, author and family-life specialist
mom of Kelsey, 25, Lisa 23, Noah 17
Diana - posted on 04/27/2012
the pros: your daughter will feel comfortable, she'll feel confident in that the hair won't show, she'll feel a bit more 'grown up.
the cons: mom will be happy/sad .... her baby is growing.
Let this one go. You're about to enter the time with your daugher of bigger decisions :)
Charmain - posted on 04/12/2012
I agree with everyone on here, I let my oldest daughter use the Veet hair remover b/c it's good for sensitive skin. I think it keeps her from knicking herself. The more hair under her pits the sweatier she'll get and that embarassing for a girl ;-).
Robyn - posted on 04/11/2012
My daughter is about to turn 10 in a month, and she has hair under her arm. She hasn't said much about it (maybe she dont see it). I havn't said anything either, however this summer other children will see it, and possibly taunt her. So, I think it would be better for her to start now. The legs is where I'm not sure when its appropriate?!!
Denikka - posted on 04/10/2012
I agree with the others. Let her start shaving.
I would HIGHLY recommend against a product like Nair though. I've tried it on my legs a few times (the stuff that's supposed to be for sensitive skin, even tried the facial stuff once) and after half the *recommended* time, I had to go wash it off and ended up with nasty, red, and SORE patches where the skin had been burnt off. I would definitely NEVER use it on a sensitive area like under the arms.
Michelle is right. Shaving doesn't make hair come in thicker or darker. It's just what's in your genes.
Good luck :)
Alicia - posted on 03/31/2012
I have let my girls 10 & 12 start shaving their under arm hair and their legs (below the knee). My 10 year old is maturing faster than my 12 yr old. I told them once they started getting under arm hair we would start shaving it but we talked about the responsibility that came with it too.
I let my girls start shaving their arm pits when it became uncomfortable for them to have it be seen. I think they were both in the 11th year somewhere. It is a myth that hair grows thicker or darker because of shaving. Hair can only grow thicker or longer if that is what is in your DNA. So, whatever thickness and darkness of hair your daughter ends up with is because she was meant to have it like that, not because of shaving. Nair and other similar items are full of nasty chemicals that literally burn the hair off. It is uncomfortable, sting and burns, smells awful, and takes more patience than either of my girls ever had.
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