My 11 year old is lying to my face!

Lisa - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 11 year old has lied to me 3 times in the past week. I grounded her from all electronics for a month, and she still lied again. How do I get her to stop????

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Liz - posted on 10/04/2009

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My 10 yr old got in such a habit of lying even when she knew she was going to get caught and about such dumb stuff too. Ridiculous. I made it very clear it was trust issue and someday it may cost her , her life or that of some one else' life because no one would believe her when she said there was danger. Then I started verifying everything that she said. Even if it embarrassed her. If she said her teacher said something regarding homework, for example, I didnot take her word for it. I walked into the classroom next day with her in tow, and asked the teacher myself. Afew times of that kind of thing, and she soon got the point and earned out trust again and stopped the lying. Good luck.

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Louise Smith - posted on 03/30/2013

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my 11 year old has been lying from being about 6years old the lies are not as big .but its like she likes doing it . i have taken her things away from her and made her put toys in the bin and grounding her ..i have explaned what happens when people and kids tell lies .nothing i do helps ...now she says i will tell u what u want 2 hear ... i dont know what 2 do ..she is all the top sets at school allways as been

Pamela - posted on 09/25/2009

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My 10 year old boys have been busted for lying. When they lie they get their bottoms tore up. I then explain that I may not like what they did wrong and they may get into trouble, but the punishment will be less severe if they will tell me the truth on the front end. This has really worked. It hurts to have to spank them, and I always make sure they know that I love them. Lying is just not tolerable.

Carly - posted on 09/24/2009

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my son got into the habbit pretty bad last year. about little unimportant things even! we finaly came up with the 10 minute rule. if a lie popped out, he had 10 minutes to come back and tell us the truth without getting in trouble for lying. if we found out later he was lying and didnt fess up, it was writing sentences time. it took a while, but he did finaly get out of the habbitt.

Shea - posted on 09/24/2009

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Cheers to Tanya! I totally agree! My son would get so frazzled by the idea of the outcome of what he initially did wrong that he would just lie..through his teeth..lol not funny..but funny. Not thinking of course of "double trouble' so to speak. I did the same thing, approached it rationally. My mom used to say 'hey you'll be in trouble, but not as much if you tell me the truth.' she opened the lines of communication. I knew even if I was dead wrong I could go to her fess up & we'd work it out. anyway my son doesn't lie like that anymore..he never did with me but with Vic..lol so I stepped in and handled things. Anyway it takes time all things do. I laugh a lot, to think they really think they are fooling us! lol

Michka - posted on 09/24/2009

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Mines to. I use to talk to him but it didn't work, what I do now is punish him with all the good stuff. For example this year: no soccer!!!!!!!!!!!

Temi - posted on 09/23/2009

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I know it's hard when you cant trust your kids, I Have a child who olso do this, and I keep telling her that if she want me to trust her she has to tell me the truth regarles, if that will get her in trouble, but it was better to tell the truth and keep telling her that is part of being, you want people to trust you. to belive in you.

Dana - posted on 09/22/2009

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Tell me about it My son is 11 and he has mastered the art of lying I have tried grounding him making him write apologies etc he just does not seem to care if he lies so if u find something that works let me know thanks

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Hi there, I find that they lie because they dont find me to be approachable so i changed the way in that i reacted .



when they told me something that i didn't like,rather then get angry i had chosen to stay calm, but say how i didnt like that and would preffer that it didn't happen again..



If your daughter is not scared of your reaction she may be honest with you...maybe give that a try and see if in the future she will be honest ,best it gets sorted out before the teenage years 2..I wish you all the very best hope this helped..:-)

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