my 11 year old keeps getting bullied by a 14 year old,ive called the police and they do nothing,what

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Jenn - posted on 07/10/2011

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It is difficult when it comes to kids. You are dealing with juvenile laws & there's no easy answer. I would check with your local court juvenile counselors about taking out charges against the child if it has gotten to the point of being out of control. However, if it isn't & your son says he's fine, then I suggest it be left alone. There's always bullies. As parents we have to chain ourselves to a post to allow our children to learn from the experience. The times we need to step in are when it is out of hand and dangerous. I suggest you go to your school and advocate a teen-court. Many places are getting them going and very little is required to set up. It can be held in an afterschool location, similar to detention. Children who volunteer or are on the class councils should take the place of prosecutor, defense attorney, & judge. Juries should be selected ramdomly just like adults are. Supervision, law books, & guidance can be donated by a local law firm or recently graduated law students that are looking for some pro-bono work.

Shelly - posted on 08/31/2009

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I would enroll them in Karate or Tae Kwon Do, so they can build their own self confidence, and also know how to protect themselves. Also, have a talk with them that the bully has terrible problems and doesnt like themselves, that is why they attack other people.

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Cara - posted on 09/21/2013

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My son is 8 and he is bullied by kids in our neighborhood. The bullies age range is 9 - 13. Things have escalated to the point were my son has been chased with a butcher knife, hit in the head with a bottle and then today he was threatened at point blank range with a BB gun. I have called the police on every occasion and nothing is done. I am sick of this and scared for my son.

Suzanne - posted on 03/12/2012

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I think if the police and the school do nothing about it take it to the media, and be prepared to change schools if necessary! Every child has a right to receive an education without being threatened, bullied, or harmed in any way! You child 's rights are being infringed upon by far!.

Yalana - posted on 07/09/2011

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My 11-yr-old has been bullied by kids of all ages. Kids are just too cruel these days, because parents are too obsessed with work and money to pay attention to their own kids. I've tried to involve principals and teachers, but it did no good...usually, the teachers were the ones letting it happen in front of them and were sticking up for the bullies out of fear! My son's third grade school was the worst! The teacher even admitted that one particular child was bullying mine right in front of her! I had to involve the police when my son's assistant principal called me and said that my son was lying to him about getting beat up on the playground! I picked him up from school and got the police back to the school. The officer interviewed the 2 teachers, the asst. principal, and the students involved. The officer found out that the 2 teachers were not only witnesses to the students knocking my son down and punding on him, but that they were never interrogated by the asst. principal! The officer eventually came back out and found out the whole story and said the asst. principal agreed to "just give him in-school suspension". I went back in and demanded to know why the other students were not being punished if 2 teachers confirmed the beating. He said it wasn't my business...2 students beat my son, it's very much my business if he was letting them get away with it! It is a rare occasion if the principal and parents of the bully actually rectify the situation..most of them are involved and either try to place the blame on the victim or say that the victim was lying. I know my son is not perfect, but my son does not intentionally and maliciously hurt people because they are breathing his air. The best way is to make it known that YOU are not going to put up with it and be consistent.

Christy - posted on 09/07/2009

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When my step son was 9 he was walking home alone and another child was bothering him and hit him. My son told us that day and we went to the boys home and spoke directly to the mother. She apologized and then made her son come out and say sorry as well in front of everyone. The child never bothered our son again. We also taught our son from the first day of school about bullies and to never back down to them, that they are just insecure kids and have to pick on others to feel better. I think the more we teach our kids about bullies and why they do bully, our kids will stand up for themselvews and not be afraid to handle a certain situation. I would definitley go to the 14 year olds parents and let them know a "14" year old is bothering an 11 yr old.

Lea Anne - posted on 09/07/2009

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In our commmunity we as parents all sign a anti-bulling policy at school but that did nothing to protect my daugther. She was bullied by a group of four girls it got so bad that at one point my daugther was superglued to her chair in school. The police did nothing the school did nothing her guidence counsler did nothing my only saving grace was that one day her and i ran into the young women and her mother in the wawa when i approached the mother and started to talk to her i could see why the girl acted the way she did then my daughter started to feel sorry for her she was obviously being treating bad at home the following year when she went to the sr high school she started to blossom and began growing socially after she joined the band now she has a whole group of 11 th and 12 th graders who adore her and watch out for this girl. Sometimes things work out all by themselves i did file a complaint with the school board and with the state board of commissioners to increase the schools roll in the anti-bulling policy now they have a zero tolarance policy to along with it good luck with this and i hope it works out

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Bev is right, I'd even have a Letter sent to the school board and the school its self stating that they are not providing a safe learning envionment for your child and with the fact bullying is agains the law they are accountable for anything that happens ons school grounds. If it is contining off the property too it does become more problomatic for now it is harassment and borders stalking if he is looking for your child. I'd contact an attorney ASAP, no amount of money is too much to keep your child safe

Bianka - posted on 09/03/2009

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Its really difficult to get these things to stop,but if talking to the school principle and the child doesn't help enrol your child in some kind of self defence course.My oldest 2 boys had bullying problems when they were younger and I got them involved in kick boxing.In fact my oldest son was physically attacked after school but it only took 2 quick moves on my sons behalf to floor the other kid and from that day on no more problems.It was a great outcome but sad that those measures needed to be taken.Good luck.

Keturah - posted on 09/03/2009

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If the parents arnt worried about their kids action, take action of your and c how involvd they get then!! do u have any older nephews or a friend with an older kid if so take them to the school with u to pick ur kid up wait until u r off school grounds and c who gets SLAPPED UP!! then

Heather - posted on 09/03/2009

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Honestly the best thing that you can do for your child and the other child is to go to the other parents and speak with them about the situations that have happened. I would also let them know that you have gone to many lengths to protect your child and you are sure they would do the same if the circumstances were reversed. If this does not work you should enroll your child in self defense classes. All it takes is one time for your own child to stand up and guaranteed the other child will leave yours alone. But you must not punish your own child for defending him/herself because then this will tell them that they should have not done that. Hope this helps you. Been in your shoes

Sharon - posted on 09/02/2009

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Quoting Bev:

i say take the bull by the horns and go to your local school board if you get no satisfaction from your son's school administrators. you can also have your attorney send the parents of the bully a letter advising that if it keeps up you will file harassment charges. no one likes to get a letter from an attorney. ive been a legal secretary for 42 years and you HAVE RIGHTS!!!. with all the publicity now about bullying in schools and the consequence, you'd think they'd move fast on it??? or go to the media - last resort. don't be afraid to push back....good luck to you and your son and i hope he stays safe....



I couldn't agree with you more! Push back!  The parents wont care until it actually effects them and obviously neither will your local police.  It's truely amazing what a letter from an attorney will do. Bullying can not be tollerated.

Bev - posted on 09/01/2009

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i say take the bull by the horns and go to your local school board if you get no satisfaction from your son's school administrators. you can also have your attorney send the parents of the bully a letter advising that if it keeps up you will file harassment charges. no one likes to get a letter from an attorney. ive been a legal secretary for 42 years and you HAVE RIGHTS!!!. with all the publicity now about bullying in schools and the consequence, you'd think they'd move fast on it??? or go to the media - last resort. don't be afraid to push back....good luck to you and your son and i hope he stays safe....

Kelly - posted on 09/01/2009

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thanks for the thoughts ladies,but thats the problem I went to the schools,called the cops too many times,and the parents dont seem to care,my son is pretty confident in himself,but still the other kid keeps going,I wanted to charge him with assault,but the cop says THEY dont wanna do that to a 14 year old boy,yet their willing to let him beat mine everyday,I am so at a lose

Dianne - posted on 09/01/2009

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i agree , my daughter went thru the same thing no teacher wanted 2 help so i went 2 the kid & told her off ! she never did it again! & then my younger son went thru it & i went 2 the school & nothing happened! so i told the kid off & threaten 2 tell hes parents! im lucky both times it worked :)

Cheryl - posted on 08/30/2009

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I do understand, I have an 11 y.o. who is being bullied by her classmates. If they are on the same school, talk to the principal. If not talk to the child who bullied your kid. Tell him/her that I will talk to your parents if you will not quit what you are doing.

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