my 11 year old son does not want to visit his father anymore.

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2012

if there are court orders in place and you dont deliver your son, you can be in serious trouble yourself. you need to take the issue back to court. i'd be calling the cops and reporting what your son has told you, and also ring childrens services to investigate.

Jodi - posted on 08/20/2012

When you let your love for your children out weight you fear of the ex then you will find the strength to trust your instincts and go forward.

There are two motivating sources in life........fear and love; which will you have win out?

Sherri - posted on 08/14/2012

The only thing you can do is take him back to court and have the child visitation order changed.

Sally - posted on 08/11/2012

Don't send him. Go back to court. Your son is old enough to speak up and they will listen to him. Other than that call the police report drugs and have the house checked. Do what you have so that your both safe

Jess - posted on 08/07/2012

Dear Terri:

If your instincts tell you that your son is in any danger, then you should not send him with his Dad anymore. Your son himself does not want to go, so why make him? And I know you dont want to go to court and put yourself or your son through a battle, but in the end, isn't it about what's best for your son? Tell your lawyer or judge that you are concerned that there may be some drug activity and volatile behavior at Dad's and you are afraid of any consequences your son may suffer due to his problems. I myself have gone through a separation, and my son did not want to see his Dad either (he would spank alot) and I wouldnt make him go see his Dad if I know he is scared. You are the Mother, and you will feel better knowing that your son isn't being subjected to potentially harmful behavior from a supposed parental figure.

Good luck to you.