Terri - posted on 08/07/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
Right now we have a temporary order granting shared physical and legal custody of our son, and he has been week-on, week-off now for the past two years since our divorce. Lately my son has been outright refusing to visit his dad, (adopted father not biological), and most recently he told me that he found marijuana in a vase at dad's house. Dad has always been a heavy marijuana smoker, and it appears he still is.
My son doesn't want to go, he says that the house reeks of cigarettes and now I have to wonder if of pot too, His dad is a mental manipulator and lays guilt trips on him if he states he wants to be with me more often.
I know the right thing to do, but this man is volatile, used to be physically abusive to me and my oldest boy, and I am so afraid of a court battle because he lies so much he would say anything about me to "win" custody. I am tired of having to force him to go to dad's and now that I know there are drugs in the house I feel I have a ground to stand on.