My 11 year old son has ADHD and real bad behavior that he repeats on a daily bases.HELP???

Natalie - posted on 10/10/2012

I am sitting here with tears in my eyes, I am going through so much the same with my son of 10. He treats me time after time with no respect, does things constantly that he know he should not do. Then he gets this I'm so sorry for myself attitude, yesterday we had a huge fight and he hits back at me "sorry that I was ever born" that hurt so much, now today everytime I point out to him something that he should not do or try and do he "see I do everything wrong" He isn't on meds. We have tried to take him to speak to somebody but he just shouts that we will be wasting our time and money that he won't speak to anybody. I am now myself going to go for some counseling because I just cant handle the stress anymore and am becoming more and more depressed. Just know I will be thinking and praying for you and I know exactly what you are going through.

Jessica - posted on 09/14/2012

11 yrs old

Vicki - posted on 09/12/2012

Put a lock on your bedroom door! Figure out what your boundaries are what you will tolerate and what you wont dont allow him to cross the line! Hard I know but totally doable!

How old is your son?

Jessica - posted on 09/12/2012

Someone asked me if I thought my son had some sort of Autism. Sometimes i think he may, then some I don't...I am just so confused...He done it again last night..Every night it is the same thing...I can hide his systems, hide sweets, or whatever else and he still finds it....My other child tries to talk to him and nothing works...I don't know what to do.

Vicki - posted on 09/11/2012

I know what you mean though my son was giving me trouble since 2 as well, I spoke to the doctore and all they would say is its terrible two's donnt worry it will pass they would say! I would leave the office thinking no i think theres more going on, its just a feeling you get in the bottom of the stomach you know? As he aged it was very difficult to keep him calm and his behavour in check. All through school we had problems constant phone calls, sometimes i wanted to just hide just to catch a break! When he got to grade 6 he had a teacher who use to work with kids who had add adhd anxiet etc etc. so he use to show my son some tecneques that he use to do with his students. He would get my son palying with play dough every morning, he would squish it roll it around. He would have him do this for 10 min. I was amazed with how he was alm after and ready to start learning. The teacher would do this first thing in the morning after recess and after lunch break. After recess and lunch break he would behave like a wild animal! Another thing that works well with kids like this is a list. They are very visual people especially boys! the teacher would write down the schedule for the day what he was to be doing and when. I have to say that was the best school year we had as parents and he had as a student. More teachers should be trained to deal with kids like this as its very common that these kids are in our classrooms. As for the video games maybe limit his amount of time to paly it and if you do end up grounding him from playing physically remove it and lock it up somewhere. I have noticed that i have to go that extra mile with my son compared with my othr kids, its exhausting but worth it! Good luck to you!

Vicki - posted on 09/11/2012

Wow! Regardless of his meds he still has adhd! Maybe try another councellor?

Jessica - posted on 09/11/2012

they didnt think anything was wrong since he was behaved in the room...I told her well duh, he is on 2 different meds to make him like that

Vicki - posted on 09/10/2012

Why didnt the councelling turn out well?

Jessica - posted on 09/10/2012

he has been on meds since he was 4. we tried counseling but it didnt turn out to good..

Vicki - posted on 09/10/2012

Has he been medicated for the adhd? And is he in councelling to learn ways of dealing with adhd?