MY 11 YEAR OLD WONT DO HOMEWORK DOING BAD WITH SCHOOL WORK

Joyce - posted on 12/06/2009

we all must learn to crawl before we walk. I would unground her and let her know that you will try a different step with homework. I would talk to teacher and let her know that u are there for help!!. Also i would start a reward board for homework., Maybe some sort of ticket reward. after so many she will be able to do something that she really enjoys. But in return if she falls short then you must take away the bonus, 1 ticket at a time. Hopefully this will work for you!!!

Amy - posted on 12/04/2009

Jessice, I am so sorry to you are having school problems. I kid you not, I have been dealing with school work problems with my daughter since she was in Kindergarten! She is now in 5th grade. Every year I hear, "you have a smart daughter if she would apply herself". We tried rewards, punishment, tutor, EVERYTHING! My daughter just doesnt want to do the work. She can make an F on grading period & straight A's the next. I know how frusterated you are.
Finally this year she has teachers that are very exciting & she was moved to advanced classes. Good luck

Cammie - posted on 12/04/2009

My girls are 8 and 11. We had the same problem of motivation and what has worked for us is making the girls sit down and do homework the minute they get home from school. Nothing but a snack while they do their homework until it is finished, then they can go out to play or watch TV or do whatever they want. It may sound mean, but I think when they get home from school they are still in the mind-set of doing schoolwork and the option is to sit there all night and stare at it or do it and get it done and do something fun. It's worked for us, I hope this helps, fighting over homework can be a very fustrating scenario to go through everynight.

Sharon - posted on 12/04/2009

To Brice: Sounds like you've made a good decision by wiping the slate clean and I like the fact that you teamed up with her teacher. I have experienced this issue to a lesser degree with my 12 yr old son. I believe keeping communication going - not just waiting for it to happen from a teacher, but initiating it ourselves is such a benefit in helping our kids do well in school. Mine hates it if he thinks I'm going to talk to his teacher, so I usually don't tell him I am going to unless I really have to but having her to bounce ideas off of and get input from and feeling like she and I are working together not only helps me not get discouraged but it also opens up a lot of opportunity for ideas on how to improve and help my son. Keep up the great work!! :)

Brice - posted on 12/03/2009

WOW! Sounds just like my Daughter. But I am hearing that 11 is too young for kids to be starting this. After trying SOOOO many ways dicipline/motivation. Right now we gave her ALL of her privledges back and teamed up w/ her teacher and told her to wipe her slate clean and start fresh. Tuesday she came home happier that I have ever seen her. Did her required reading set by the teacher, tested on a book 1 day b4 due date and scored 80% (only missing 2). Only been a couple of days but so far she is showing to be on track....now if she will stay there. It is tough. Expecially when there is nothing left to take away and after enought time laps they don't care to miss it. Good luck and keep trying tactics. You will find one.

Tina - posted on 12/03/2009

i,m having a similer problem with my son, he goes to school gets ther late,, even that he leaves early in the morning,, he bunks classes,, hes also grounded at the min for stealing money out of my handbag,, i,m at my wits end,, ,, never had any problem in his last school till he moved to this one,,

Ada - posted on 12/02/2009

i have the same problem with my eleven year old son-- went to the school parent coordinator and she suggested me to sign him up on the PAL -- Police athlectic league -- i made the call today and left message for them to call me -- i hope this helps -- is it possible to get your daughter involved in baking - like a start up business? or tutoring/reading to younger kids in the library? that is what i am going to do with my son -- i will let you know if it helps and please let me know if this helped you - much love and hugs