Kelly - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 36 moms have responded )
I have tried everything from ignoring her bad behavior to taking things away and even spanking, but she continues to be mean and just hateful to everyone. She is the worst toward me, next it is her brother (8 y.o.) and then her dad. My husband (her dad) and I are married and we have a decent relationship...not perfect but pretty good. We try to support each other so the kids don't "play" us and we try to make sure we are on the same page when it comes to parenting. Lately it seems my daughter is just getting worse and worse. Everything she says comes with attitude. She could care less that we take things away and send her to her room. When we do that the bad behaviors seem to get worse along with the mouth. She acts like I OWE her a cell phone or a new shirt or whatever it is that she wants for the day. I have tried to be sicking sweet and let her do what she wants but that didn't work. I have tried taking things away from her, she didn't care. As a matter of fact when I took her DS and her cell phone, she called 911. They HAD to send a cop to make sure I wasn't beating her or anything!! Lucky for me the cop saw right thru her little attitude and told her how wrong it is to call 911 when there is not an emergency. (which she has been told before) Now we are on the spanking program...I hate that I feel like that is all I do is spank her and scream at her. It is certainly not making things any better. She blames me for most of her problems. If she trips over her shoes that are laying in the middle of the floor it is my fault because I didn't pick them up, not because she left them lay in the middle of the floor. I have told her several time that I am her mother not her maid, but she acts like it is my job to pick up after her. She has been in counseling in the past for similar reasons. It was like she did what they wanted until couselors said she is fine and then it stated all over again. I don't want to counseling again because it is very expensive. Our insurance won't cover it and we make too much money to qualify for a discounted rate, but not enough money to afford to pay $100.00 per session. I am looking for ANY advise. I just don't know what else to do. I don't know where I dropped the ball here and I don't know how to pick that ball up and handle it again. By the way her 8 y.o. brother is starting to pick up her bad attitude and general mean behavior.