My 12 year old daughter is trying to be emo.

Lisa - posted on 10/02/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 12 year old daughter is trying to fit in at middle school. I can see she is trying to be emo. I am not sure what emo is. If anyone has dealt with this I would like to know.

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Amber - posted on 01/03/2013

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Hey, No i'm not a mum, but I am 12 years old aswell (13 in September) so I may be able to help you.

Emo is basically a type of music thats quite emotional, however most people like to label themselves as 'Emo'. Emo's tend to wear dark clothing (Mainly black and red) - This may mean they are depressed or they just like the style of wearing dark clothing. Most emo's listen to every type of music their is, but mainly emo. One emo/scene band is The Black Veil Brides (If you want to hear what emo music is like)

People say that emos are always unhappy and that emos cut themselves. This is NOT always true. Lots of emo's Don't Cut.

Don't worry about your daughter, Im in High School too! Its just a phase. She will get over it. I hoped this helped, If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask me;)

Anastasia - posted on 11/13/2012

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Being "emo" may be a stage for your daughter it may not and it does not mean your daughter will cut herself. Honestly my best advice is to run with it if she wants to dye her hair a funny color put a highlight in your hair of the same color it will draw you closer and hopefully she will grow out of it. If she wants to get a piercing LET HER (holes will close typically within a year of taking the ring out) but make her take on responsibilities to pay for the cost of getting it done if you dont she may try to do it on her own or with a friend this can lead to infections or worse. Usually being "emo" is a sign that they are having alot of social issues and throwing them into a sport is the worst thing to do. Please take my advice as someone who went through a goth phase in high school and had a mother who fought me every step. The fact that she has become emo is a chance for you to either alienate your daughter or embrace her and make sure to be supportive but make sure to tell her the risks as well

Masallah - posted on 11/11/2012

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be careful trying to be emo can lead to bad things.. kids that are emo usually wear all black.. its kinda like goths. they inflict pain on themselves.. their considered out casts.. try and sign her up for sports its a good way to have her fit in with a better crowd

Josselyn - posted on 10/08/2012

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Been through this. My daughter who is 13 has always been such a girly girl! But when she was 11 she was trying to be "different" when you are "emo" you are trying to be different and stand out from the crowd. So it's less of trying to fit in and more of trying to stand out. My daughter asked me to put blonde in her bangs and she dressed more dark but added like neon colors to it. It was so weird because nobody in my family was ever into that. Especially since we are Mexican! Since when were Mexicans emo? It was weird but she grew out of that stage fast. Trust me your daughter will. She's just young and is trying to find herself.

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Lisa - posted on 10/26/2012

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Wow!! Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate you informing me of the difference. I did not know that information. I will look for the signs.



Thank you again :)

Lisa

Cece - posted on 10/20/2012

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Well you should be careful because if she is fake emo she will just try to dye her hair blue and wear black and do stuff luke that. Real emo people cut themselves.. I dont wanna scare you but just be careful. im 12the same age so your daughter could probably know what it is especially if she is in social networking sites. But since she only wants to fit in she probably wouldnt cut becuase emo people usually have to be depressed and feel ”pain”

Lisa - posted on 10/09/2012

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Hi,

Thank you for your reply, I will try to talk to her more. Your right maybe lunch would be a nice place to start.



Thank you,

Lisa

Lisa - posted on 10/09/2012

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Hi,

Thank you for your reply. I do not know where this is comming from. I have three girls and my older girls were not like this. I am hoping this phase passes soon.



Thank you,

Lisa

Patricia - posted on 10/03/2012

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I have an almost 14 year old daughter. I am not sure what or who emo is either, but just plan a nice lunch or a movie or walk in the park or mall and talk to your daughter about what she is into and what her fears and thoughts are with regard to school.



When I share my own stories of middle school and high school, my daughter lights up and wants to hear more; we laugh and talk and I am very honest with her, even when my stories are a little mature, like trying cigarettes at 13 for the first time and getting sick and my Mom caught me and had a fit. Our kids need us to share our own "12 year old stories" that are buried inside us.

Good luck.

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