my 12 year old was watching porn! is that wrong?

Diane - posted on 01/29/2013

Please shut this stream down

Diane - posted on 01/29/2013

Could someone in charge of this web site please moniter this stream!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 01/22/2013

You shouldn't push him to hard because if you ask him to much about the porn then he will become distant irritated and ashamed. You should just let it pass. It might just be a phase and he will soon get over it. Every boy does this at some point.

Hope - posted on 01/16/2013

Your child is going to experience this at some point. It would be awkward if he asked you what porn was when he is older, so it is good that he knows what it is. You may feel that porn is something you don't want him to see, but it only means he's curious. Another reason he might be watching is maybe he has an emotional or social problem. Ask him if there is anything wrong. You should also ask him why is he so interested in porn, and how he learned about it. Try these. I hope you get through to him.:)

Hasafr - posted on 01/06/2013

your son will inderstant what he is doing

Cari - posted on 12/30/2012

parenting!!!!!! I have a 31 year old. and he never did NOT AT THAT AGE..... there is an age for all and it is parenting. my god!!! where did he get the porn in the first place.!!!??? ask yourself that.. .. awful and good LUck.!

Cari - posted on 12/30/2012

no is not fine.. wake up.. !!!!!!! good luck.

Lisa - posted on 12/29/2012

it is fine

Lisa - posted on 12/29/2012

it is fine

Anthony - posted on 12/05/2012

No it is not bad

Verity - posted on 12/04/2012

Its part of growing up, Sometimes when daughter did it i knew she was afraid of never getting a guy to do it with,shes always alone and never stops..Your kids will get MORE upset and have a bigger chance of looking up porn when ever they can,if they have a dsi they can do it on that.

There just alone,Dont lock the computer.

Suzy - posted on 12/04/2012

a talk maybe but not showing them his 12 mom going into it to much may embarrass him

Jan - posted on 12/03/2012

No, Moms need to show them about intercourse.

Patricia - posted on 12/01/2012

Great idea Suzy

Suzy - posted on 12/01/2012

parental controls, there built into many if its windows 7 or vista, just blcok the adult sites, then he can still have the freedom of net but you know anything xrated can not be viewed. my son is 13 dont knwo if he has tried to view them but no he definately has not as parental controls wont let him access them.

Gilbert - posted on 12/01/2012

His hormones are raging honey just let him do his thang and don't think about it

Gilbert - posted on 12/01/2012

His hormones are raging honey just let him do his thang

Patricia - posted on 11/26/2012

I agree totally Very well said Darrell

Kathy - posted on 11/25/2012

Wow, this is hard but youre right to explode. I would as how he felt about it and where he found out about it. I have a 12 yr old grandson I am raising, if I discovered him doing this I would ask why, how he knew, and try to figure out if is going on in his circle of friends and approach it that way. How long has he been doing this. I feel this is serious, I would ask mu family doctor about this and see what he recommends. Good luck

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2012

Well, in my opinion, we are all humans right? He may be young to be in heat, but im not saying thats the case. It is natural to explore the body even in such a young age. Porn might be a little too over doing it, but I guess you could just get him some magazines or something, or put a lock on his dorr, or when you walk in his room knock first and if he yells "JUST A SECONED MOM" be sure to wait a sec.

Ryan - posted on 11/09/2012

Hi, I think that you should not allow him to watch porn and to ask him not to watch porn again. He is a kid and he will find a way to watch it if he truly has the desire to. Also, you should tell him to not let you catch him or he will be in trouble next time. That's what my dad and mom did with me. Im not a mom (i'm 13) but i thought you could use the advice. also give him a good sex ed.

It's important. If you are a single mom you should talk to him but try to get his dad to.



Hope everything works out well,

Ryan

Heather - posted on 11/04/2012

every 12 year old (13 year old) go through this phase so talk to him.

Pamela - posted on 11/01/2012

How do you ipods and smart phones? I found pornn sites on both, I took them both away for now but ,that stuff is toxic. I worry about or youth and what they have to deal with.ugh

Rachel - posted on 10/31/2012

I do feel like 12 is a little too young to have access to wherever he wants to go on the internet.

I have a 14 year old and he's only allowed on certain sites. We have parental controls that help us track what sites he's going to and it won't allow him into any adult sites.

Honestly, I would rather my son looked at porn and masturbated than to have sex. I would just tell him that real sex isn't anything like what he sees in porn.

Ashley - posted on 10/26/2012

I have a 14 yr son and knows he masturbates constantly. Boys will be boys. My husband and I love to watch porn so I am understanding that a horny boy or girl will want to watch it too. He knows that is something he does here at home and not anywhere else.

Patricia - posted on 10/25/2012

I believe in protecting my kids from running of with any partner be they a boy or girl i am only talking from personal experience i love my husband and only want him and don't look at any one else or think about or want any one else and i think that that is the way it should be if you love each other and are commited to each other not rather be with porn i am bringing my children up to respect them selves and other people and there is more to life than that smut alot of those poor girls and boys are under age as well to so it would be kiddy porn that's extremely bad there is nothing wrong with making to your partner in private yes ii do believein being faithful to one person and i have to really trust someone before i get into any type of relationship with them because i usually end up getting betrayed and extremely heart broken worst of all it is the affect it has on the children

Thomas - posted on 10/25/2012

You know good and well there is nothing wrong with pron. You also know good and well that the question: is it right or is it wrong? Can only be answered with an opinion not fact. The facts are simple: I and a very single one of my male friends looked at porn as early as they could possibly discover it. We started talking a bout these things and looking for eye candy the almost the very minute puberty kicked in. Before you try to blame boys I'll have you know the girls in my life before puberty tired to get me to act sooner then my body was ready, so think again before pointing the finger at boys. You maybe believe some thing is right or wrong, but thats your beliefs not facts. When answering the question with real life facts, you will see that biologically and mentally it is not sexual acts or pornography that is dangerous for the youth. It is whether or not they develop a negative or positive out look on sexuality. A positive outlooks doesn't necessarily mean your outlook ether. We all know what the positive out look is! If they are not putting them selves in dangerous situation, they are screening sex partners, they are using contraceptives, they are getting medical checkups, they know the difference between love and lust, etc. Deep down we all know that right or wrong with sex or sexuality is not black and white. The only time it becomes black and white is when? You know when! When you interject what it is exactly you want and negate what they want for themselves! What is it that we want as parents? To protect our children. When do we start doing the opposite? When we fail to recognize something that is natural for what it is, when we teach them to find shame in this natural part of themselves or we try or force them beyond obedience and into submission. for what reason do we make such a mistake, trying to protect, and doing the opposite? The answer is simple, or emotion and opinions get in the way of or judgment. what is our opinion on sex, pornography, and the youth? The opinion varies greatly, but the most commonly shared is that it is taboo to the max. What the opinion is really doesn't matter, we must be adult enough to recognize the difference between protecting our children from real physical realities, and forcing them to conform to the life style we choose for them.



Do you think if a teen has sex, masturbates, or looks at pornography they are a sinner? Well thats your opinion/belief not fact. Do you think that sex is dirty? Do you think that sex should only be in marriage? Do you believe in monogamy? If so, then such are your "beliefs."



If you child grows not to believe these same things same way you do, what is the only negative thing that would come out of it? The only negative repercussion of them not views sex in the same way as you, is that "they see thing differently then you." Get used to it!



Do you believe that the youth should not be allowed to run off with just any sexual partner and do anything they want, or put themselves is great danger? Well now that is a completely different story, with that story we then leave the realm of "blind/whimsical belief," and we enter the realm of belief based on real life fact.

Patricia - posted on 10/11/2012

my eldest 3 were never allowed porn and all 3 have normal healthy fullfilling relationships in every way

Ariana - posted on 10/03/2012

I would tell him that internet porn is not real and does not represent real sex or intimacy. There's nothing wrong with him liking what he saw but that it is not real.

Patricia - posted on 10/02/2012

you can be open and honest about sex with out them watching porn

Renata - posted on 09/30/2012

It is interesting subject..I have two boys.. I am trying to check in what they does on computers.. My problem that they have laptop each..it is not easy to get in to check..Passwords and etc... Trying to talk with them ...anyway.. came teenager time and we need to deal with it.. Good luck for all moms ! :)

Doting - posted on 09/25/2012

watching porn is part of growing up, just be aware that he will watch all types of sexual behaviour, including what we call deviant activities! You need to let him discover, and try knocking on his bedroom door and gve him some of his own space. My 14 yr old, when he was 12 said he couldnt understand why ladies had sex and when asked why his reply was because of the pain. there followed a lesson in sex, procreation and relationships. We think he got that from japanese hentia stuff.

Stop shying away and talk to him, unlock his pc but make him aware that he risks pc viruses etc off porn sites and he may end up with a useless pc. Tell him to stick to pornhub lol

Patricia - posted on 09/23/2012

he is to young and personally i would not encourage it

Nikki - posted on 09/20/2012

NOTHING is wrong for a guy/boy watching porn.. It is a natural thing. You shouldn't worry.. Just tell him to go in the bathroom or something or lock the door.

Diane - posted on 09/11/2012

Yes very suspicious indeed!!! Your absolutely right jacquietheodossis

Jacquietheodossis - posted on 09/11/2012

I didn't think 14 year old boys would be on the computer reading about mom issues! Very suspicious.

Jacquietheodossis - posted on 09/11/2012

I didn't think 14 year old boys would be on the computer reading about mom issues! Very suspicious.

Betty - posted on 09/10/2012

Well this is my oppinion Pornography is a very very very! addictive subject yes? well my advice would be to tell him that you are not upsett that he was watching porn but that it was ok to be curious and then tell him that it isnt a cool thing to do but that it was ok and if he is curious to ask you about questions he might have

Shss - posted on 09/08/2012

let hime be he is learning

Bob - posted on 09/06/2012

Ok, honestly I think you guys are over-reacting. I am 14 years old and a boy. I masturbate and watch porn about every 2 or 3 days. We know that it's not really realistic but if you start blocking things because you don't think he should be doing that kind of thing, your just going to make him mad at you and start fights etc. Let him do what he wants with that part of his life so that he doesn't become dishonest.

Garyfinkle - posted on 08/25/2012

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Tammy - posted on 08/23/2012

no its not and if u punish him or scold him u will be the bad guy

Cherith - posted on 08/20/2012

no no no ,there is other ways that he can "experiment "
Porn can become very very addictive ,most marriages fail because of porn as the husband is more on the 'net" than with his wife
Speak to your son regarding this matter and tell him that firstly he is to young to be even watching porn ,tell him that there is magzines if he really feels the need to look at these girls .
Tell him that you understand that he is getting older and reaching pubity but there are other ways to go about it
Im not one for porn to be honest ,because the porn of today is more about making "sex" than the actual "love making" ,it teaches your son also that he can sleep with 20 girls at a time (they have different partners ) ,they dont use protection ect ect
Please try something else besides porn

Sandra - posted on 08/19/2012

My son did the same thing a month ago he is also twelve. I told him it is ok as long as he knows no to do stuff like that with other girls and he was very understanding.

Jacquietheodossis - posted on 08/17/2012

Omg! I know how you feel. My son 11 is now doing that and I want to be te cool understanding Mom, but also get the point across that sex is still a grown up thing. Ugh! So frustrating, and frightening at the sametime.

Diane - posted on 07/30/2012

I am all for keeping the computer in a room that is common to all the house! When my boy is on the computer there is no privacy. If there is a school project to be done on it, help is given and he has computer time alone to study, but he knows I could walk by any time. I would never let him have a computer in his bedroom. If he was to get a lap top to go back and forth to school with --the same rules would apply.
I would explain to your son that just like what he see's in movies (things are exagerated and not exactly what real life is) that is also what happens in porn....These are movies to sell and make money on. They are not what real loving people do. They exploit and degrade women and this is not how a loving man treats a woman he loves. Difficult for a 12 year old to grasp, I know, but you have to try.....

Nobody - posted on 07/30/2012

hes 12!!! Give him some damn space hes not a kid treat him like a man. whats wrong with watching porn? hes going to grow up and understand everything you want him to understand.

Ada - posted on 07/09/2012

i'm 25 year old female…i remember trying to watch the fuzzy porn channel on our tv when i was 12 and finding porn on the computer and enjoying it at 12…it didn't rot my brain or confuse me or turn me into a sexual deviant…you feel horny and porn helps satiate those feelings…i remember being 12 (at a catholic school) and by that age, all the kids were talking about sex…i'd say block the porn just so your computer doesn't get a virus…he can still masturbate without visual aids

Ada - posted on 07/09/2012

i'm 25 year old female…i remember trying to watch the fuzzy porn channel on our tv when i was 12 and finding porn on the computer and enjoying it at 12…it didn't rot my brain or confuse me or turn me into a sexual deviant…you feel horny and porn helps satiate those feelings…i remember being 12 (at a catholic school) and by that age, all the kids were talking about sex…i'd say block the porn just so your computer doesn't get a virus…he can still masturbate without visual aids

Amy - posted on 06/08/2012

hiya i would talk to him and just don't be scared to say to him i mean you are his mum and he is your son so i would ask him.Also I would get him to come off the computer/laptop and get him in to doing somthing a bit more active, You could also sit beside him or cheak-up on him just to make sure he is not watching anything its just the stage of live that most boys&girls go threw he could of picked this site from one of his friend or have been learning about sexual heath in school because i know most schools do that if you dont feel comfurtable ask your partner-husband-boyfriend (A older man ) to talk to him i hope this helped

Love,Amy

P.S please tell me if you solved this problum

GOOD LUCK!!!