My 12 yr old daughter is out of control!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/10/2012

As for the piercing...eeek I wouldn't want to be in your shoes but I am sure I will be sooner or later. If you don't like it mama...don't let it happen. Later when she washes her own dirty underwear in her own house, she can pierce everything...I paid for ears for my girls, One hole in one ear. One hole in another ear...IMO thats plenty. Told my girls if they wanted to look like a jewelry rack at a department store, they could darn well wait till they were out of my house. I know my girls, two piercings would lead to three and then an eyebrow thingy and next thing I know the oldest would come home with gauged ears...Oh hell no. But thats me...

Just a note, belly button piercings get infected more than any other and they leave scars.. My best friend got one as an adult and got a staph infection that went to MRSA...Nearly impossible to be rid of (there is no cure) and her scars are just pitiful...all for a bit of bling.

Breea - posted on 07/10/2012

thank you so much Elizabeth you dont understand how much that helps. The only problem now is she wants her belly button pierced but thats a new thing all together. Thanks again. -Breea

Elizabeth - posted on 07/10/2012

tough one mama...I have a 15 year old son who has a friend that I think is a horrible influence on him. This boy needs groupies. Funny huh? But he always picks the quiet ones to be his friends while he is the MOUTH. He lies, he is a smooth talker, always redirecting blame from himself and getting my otherwise very good son to go right along with whatever he wants. Me and my son had a conversation about this just the other day. I told him what I thought and asked him to make a choice. Are you gonna please your friend, or your mama? because son, you gotta live with me. I asked him straight up to give an honest opinion of his friend. He said, hes full of it mom. then I knew my son "got it". My son is a follower...sigh ...I wish he was a leader, but at least i have given him the choice not to be another person's doormat. Next time Brandon" shows his butt" so to speak in my house, it will be his last. My son also stood up for himself and told his friend if he acted like that toward his mama again...their friendship was history. God I love my kid.

I don't know what sort of influence this girl has over yours, but possibly this girl has more freedom than yours, or is allowed to do things she is not and that comes from the values of the parents. When your child goes off with this other girl she feels like she is experiencing a kind of freedom she otherwise doesn't get. You took it, she is pissed. But here is the thing.... everyone and I do mean everyone shows their true colors eventually..its tough now, but your daughter will see the other for what she really is. Most kids although it takes them a while sometimes..figure out mom isn't as full of crap as they thought they were. I always tell my kids..I will never do anything that is not right or good for you...trust that because I love you with all my heart. Good luck and stay strong mama...stick to your guns.