Kate - posted on 10/27/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )
My older son has no contact from from his Dad apart from Xmas and Birthday cards. I have since re-married and we now have another son in the household. Oli calls my husband 'Dad' and has done for a few years. I was a single parent before that, from Oli being 18 months old.
I don't feel that he is missing out on the contact with his Father but he knows that his Father still sees his other children (from his first marriage and also from a relationship a few years ago)
I have tried talking to his biological Dad and said that Oli is aware of this and therefore it's hurtful. But his answer is that if Oli wants to see him he can call or text him. I just think that it shouldn't be Oli that has to call or text. I used to send tickets for Oli's school productions, copies of his school reports etc so that he knew how and what he was doing. I wonder should I just give up, but I don't want Oli (in years to come) to be told that I didn't make any effort for him to still se his Dad.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Am I trying to fight a losing battle?