Trina - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
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My 13 year old son is getting f in every class. He is the office 1 -2 times a day getting suspended.He is just messing up all the way. He tryes to do what ever he can to get out of school. He does no work in class. He wont even take a pencil. His atatude with me father and siblings is just crazy. Im loseing my son and I dont know what to do anymore.
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Tracy - posted on 03/10/2010
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Something happens to children when they turn 13...they lose their minds! Literally! Everything you've ever taught them gets dumped out of their brains, and they basically have to start over learning social skills, how to make good choices and so on. Which means rules need to be set and enforced by parents, and there must be real consequences when the rules are broken. He needs to know what the rules are in your household and at school (put them on a poster if you have to), and he needs to know what the consequences are for breaking each rule ahead of time. Make it VERY clear to him.
That said, sometimes when children "do a 180" it could mean that they are experimenting with drugs. I certainly hope this is not the case, but defintely something to look into. You can do drug tests on him to find out if he is if he is unwilling to share this information with you. The other thing I would recommend whether he is or isn't into drugs is family counseling. A counselor can help to empower you as a parent by giving you tools to know HOW to handle him as he starts to get older... and bigger. You and your husband need to step up now to stop the negative attitudes, behavior and performance in school. His education is his best ticket to a productive life, so he cannot throw it away...you can't let him throw it away. Start with the school counselor's office. Let them know you are concerned about your child and that you want to make things better. The school counselor may be able to help you or at least point you to a licensed therapist in family counseling. Also, churches often offer these services, but make sure any therapist is licensed and not just a volunteer. Good luck, and may God bless you in your efforts to improve your son's life and the lives of your family.
Margaret - posted on 03/10/2010
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Hi Trina, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I have difficult times with my 14 yr old son but it's nothing compared to you. Does he get any time alone with you or his dad? I know you have other kids too so is it an attention thing maybe? My son loves the Xbox so that's the 1st thing he loses if he acts up. He's just received it back after a 1 week ban for lack of respect, he doesn't listen to a thing his dad says but he listens to me. Maybe mine wants to be the man of the house before his time and doesn't like the competition, I have no idea! Teenagers! If you need to vent I'd be more than happy to listen :o)
Trina - posted on 03/05/2010
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Is he/she dioing bad in school. I cant seem to get threw to this kid. He has did a 180 on me.
Vicki - posted on 03/05/2010
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Tell me about it....mines just turned 15yr xxxx.
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