My 14 year old son is using drugs and almost od'd two weeks ago. Suggestions on how to keep him safe
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Emma - posted on 07/04/2010
I don't have any better suggestions. I would just like to wish you and your son the best. I'm a mother of a troubled son aswell. Sometimes when I feel to frustrated and overwhelmed I find it actually helps for me to back off for a while. I first did it because I was going to go mad, then noticed that my son saw I had a breaking point and actually eased up some. Just remember to look after yourself and the rest of your family too. Focusing on one child and his problems all the time is no good for anyone, even though they are never far from your thoughts try to have some fun aswell. Wishing you all the luck in the world.
If he has been using for a while I would suggest checking him into a rehab facility. You also need to know who he is with and their parents. If patterns develop and he is going down the wrong path again you need to keep him away from those "friends". To go along with Aimee's suggestion I would also like to suggest getting involved in a church that has an excellent youth program. Also, keep him busy, sports, working, volunteering, anything to keep him from being idle too often. This may mean more work for you but this stuff should help him in the long run. Good luck and may God bless and guide you!
W - posted on 07/06/2010
I do not know about this...but...just watched Dr. Phil last week and they had 16 year old serious drug addict boy on it. The parents were killing him with kindness, giving him chances, etc...he was now to the point where he needed to go 6mos-1yr in an inpatient treatment center. One of Dr. Phil's points was that maybe it's better to stop it the first time a parent sees pot or anything in the child's possession, even if they say it belongs to a friend. He said parents should have a zero tolerance and should have drug tested him right at the first time. I'd say firm love and don't let him schmooze...check out the Dr. Phil thing.
Amanda - posted on 07/03/2010
What kind of drugs can a 14 year old get his hands on that he can almost OD on? Unfor lock down wont work, he will only run away. The best thing to do is get him into rehab, and be there for him, if he releaps, its time for tough love and disown him until he is sober.
Jill - posted on 07/02/2010
Thanks to everyone's thoughts. He hasn't been alone for two weeks now, but he keeps trying to smooze us to get more freedom. He's going to his dad's house for the weekend where this all happened so I'm holding my breath. We've got him on a wait list for day treatment which should come through in the next couple of weeks. It's going to be a long road of change and discovery for us.
Alicia - posted on 06/30/2010
I agree with Andrea. Watch your son like he was a little kid again. My daughter is only 12 but I have to know the parents of the kids she hangs out with& I have to have meet the girl personally before she can go anywhere with them. I know it sounds like I am overly protective but where we live you have to be & I believe your situation calls for it. Have you looked into some kind of substance abuse counseling or maybe a program that will help him get clean? I wish you the best of luck & I will be praying for you & your son!!!
Andrea - posted on 06/29/2010
Don't let him leave the house except for school. Keep an eye on his every move and now where he is and who his with if you dont know the kids parent don't let him go. Get him in counseling no matter what cuz if you dont everything you might have no efect once he has his freedom again. Be a parent watch him like you did when he was 4 not 14. Some people might not agree but that what I would do. If you work durning the day and he home by himself find a babysitter a family member to keep an eye on him. Just dont give him that chance to be in a place where he can do drugs and if your or someone you trust is with him he wont have the chance.
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