My 15 year old won't go to Sleep at night and won't get up in the morning....

Julie - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My 15 year old son still has to be woke up everyday for school, even if I have to do it with water or yelling. I've tried to be nice, mean, make him do it on his own and miss school but he won't go to sleep at a decent hour so that he can get enough sleep to wake up for school. He has always had problems sleeping, since he was a baby, but there has to be a solution.... Please help him and me.


Susie - posted on 06/11/2010




well the good news is that lots of boys get into this time shift. My son is 21 and at university and STILL stays up until 3 or 4am and then gets out of bed at 1pm plus, except on lecture days when somehow he manages to get up. He is very healthy, plays lots of sport and so, it seems that his body is working on trans atlantic time. School time was less severe in time shift, but still had to work hard to get him to stop using facebook, texting, reading, etc. Life seems to be more fun late at night it seems! He too was a sleepy baby, loved snuggling under the warm covers. Sound coddling, but the one thing my son liked was to be woken up gently, with a bit of encouragement from mum, follwed by the occassional breakfast in bed....sounds excentric, but I learned that his inability to wake up was linked to low blood sugar (as well as the late night), and this got him out of bed at 7am to get off to school. Trying to over influence the time a boy gets to sleep is only going to make you stressed and concerned, but trial and error is the way forward, that or get his early rising friends round to get him out of bed in the morning!

Melanie - posted on 06/14/2010




Also, watch what he's eating and drinking...maybe even how much caffeine he's consuming, and what medications he might be taking. I was suffering from insomnia at the age of 16, and it turned out to be the decongestant in my allergy medication. Now I take the antihistamine separately and only a decongestant when I'm desperate. I'm very sensitive to caffeine. One soda at about 3 in the afternoon is enough to do me in. I won't have a good night's sleep.

Other things I eat or consume can affect my sleep. Anything that 'jazzes' me up affects my ability to get a good 7-8 hours uninterrupted, even as an adult.

My eldest has a mess of different issues (ADHD, OCD...etc) and ran easily on about 4-6 hours of sleep, until he became a he gets more like 6-8 hours. But as for his sleep cycle, he's just a night owl, always has been, probably always will be. During the school year, we send him to his room 2 hours before we know he really needs to be asleep so he can wind down. Routine has really helped...doing the exact same thing every night before bed.

Also, I cannot give him too much sugar. Caffeine is completely off his list. I even have to watch his fruit intake, as the fruit sugars will hype him up. Medications that normally put others to sleep (like benedryl) will cause him to be very hyper and wound up.

Ardeliah - posted on 06/13/2010




My son is 14 and the same way. He has ADD and seems to get by on about 4-6 hours sleep a night. He has missed the bus a few times. Which now I have a car and can drive him if he does. That threat works well as he doesn't want to be seen in public with me especially at his school. I promised that if I have to drive him I would make my self look as strange as possible, maybe even put some curlers in my hair to make it even worse.

He claims he is old enough to regulate his own bedtime and getting himself up in the morning. I just let him know that then it is his responsibility and he will have to deal with the consequences.

I don't know if that helped at all, but that is how we are dealing with it.

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Tricia - posted on 06/13/2010




Talk to his doc. Find out if he is ADD or ADHD, the meds (although I prefer them not to have them) helped my son a ton!
This year he went from staying up late & missing the bus to getting to be on time & getting up in time for school. He even got up at a decent hour on the weekends.

Janice - posted on 02/23/2009




My sons doctor suggested we have good sleep hygine...what is this...bed is ONLY for
sleeping in. No reading playing game et cetra. It also helps if they have a sleep plan and follow it. Keeping the same schedule at Bed Time is important. I also find if my Son does not watch TV before bed, he has a better chance of falling asleep at a decent time. Good luck!

Carol - posted on 02/19/2009




Has he been diagnosed with ADHD?  Sometimes children with ADHD or ADD do not sleep well. 

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