my child is overweight

Chasity - posted on 03/18/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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How can i help my 12 year old daughter lose weight and be healthy without making her feel bad about herself?

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Judy - posted on 03/21/2010

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Ah... classic manipulation... gotta love it... I did it myself as a child. the hard thing is you need to clear the house of all things that are processed...and have only natural foods... I put out apples, oranges and grapefruit, blueberries as snacks .... they can munch on any time...I put them in bowls that are accessable. I also put out nuts ... Not the easy ones... the ones you have to crack... it is fun, and it lets the belly know when it is full, because it takes time to crack them open...
The kids love sour cream dips... I have changed the dips to yogurt, which helps their digestion...slowly... 1/10th yogurt to sour cream, then 1/4 to sour cream... slowly over time they adjust... I also mince up baby spinach and put it in their brownies... fiber, iron and vitamins...one cup of whole baby spinach, and liquify it in your blender...they will not taste it! NEEDS TO BE BABY spinach though....
OK... PIzza rolls... tough... pizza sauce canned... and find the stuff that does not have high fructose corn syrup in it... hard to find, but well worth it... in fact... anything that has HFCS... do not buy....it is making your kid fat. I have cut it out of my life as much as I can, and I am losing weight!
Ok... back to pizza rolls....to make your own... pizza sauce, low fat mozzarella, high fiber tortillas--- wrap like a burrito, and zap in the microwave... less fat, and more healthy... you decide what else you want to add... onions, peppers, mushrooms... etc.. whatever veggies you can add that she likes, the better

Catrina - posted on 03/18/2010

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It's not just what she eats, it can be how much.
Switch milk to fat free milk and switch to 100% whole grain bread.
Kids are suppose to have 4-6 carbs per meal. Watch that.
My son was diagnosed with Liver Disease recently. He's 11 and we have to watch what he eats now. We watch fats and carbs on all foods. You can get her involved with picking fruits and veggies for snacks. Maybe try Wii Fit? My kids love it. Or she is the age that loves Just Dance for the Wii. Spring is here, maybe a basketball hoop or a bike?
Water! Tons of water. My kids get the to go packs of flavor and add it to their water. They are sugar free and yummy. No sodas! Candy can be had just in moderation.
Just step by step incorporate little things and it will be part of the plan before you know it.
Good luck with your daughter!
God Bless!

Debbie - posted on 03/23/2010

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My 12 year old can eat anything and stay super thin but my 8 year old gains weight easily. She's fine when she's home with me since I make sure she eats right, exercise, and most of all not eat whenever she wants to. I swear I think I hear I'm hungry constantly. BUT when I offer them something that would fill them up (like a banana instead of candy or junk food) they seem to not be that hungry.

When my daughter visits my ex-husband over the summer though she puts on weight. Last summer she gained 10 pounds in about 6 weeks. When she got back most of her new school clothing didn't even fit her any longer. She's just now to the point where she was before she went to visit him last year.

When I need to help her back into the shape she was in though I just make sure she gets exercise and doesn't eat all of the time. She still gets snacks and candy, but I just to not let her eat it whenever she wants it.

Judy - posted on 03/20/2010

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Hi... Give me an example of what you eat.... and I can adjust it to help all of your family. For example, if they come in from school, and you give them chips and dip,,, change it to apple slices and peanutbutter... filling, fiber, and nutritious... add a little local honey to the peanutbutter, and it is sweet as well, and helps any allergies to pollen go away.... got to love it....

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Tracy - posted on 08/12/2013

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I have a daughter that is 10 and she is over weight. I worry about something being wrong with her ecause of the way she gained weight. She used to be very tiny and then she just started gaining all kinds of weight. Nothing changed in our eating habits and she has always been active. She does drill plays, outside, softball, even ran track this summer. And instead of losing she gained. Her doctor says nothing is wrong just that she is hitting puberty but I don't know. She is in misses clothes.

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Get her involved in a physical activity. Better yet, get the whole family involved. Martial arts are great and there are so many schools out there that work wonderfully with kids. It will not only help improve her physical condition, it will absolutely increase her self-confidence, help her focus and definitely build her self-esteem. Contrary to popular belief, martial arts does not make children violent or aggressive. My son has studied for several years- we had to quit because of money but he's now back. He's a good student and a very respectful young man. Also, it will help her in the future by teaching her self-defense.

I know some parents discourage their daughters from martial arts because it's not 'feminine' but I personally find that ridiculous. If she joins, try joining yourself as well. You might get a family discount if more than one person joins.

Mary - posted on 03/25/2010

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that great my girls will drink water all the time and at meals juice if we have it juice is very high in sugar if your not careful even fruit is it eaten to much it;s all about portions and amounts

Debbie - posted on 03/25/2010

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Oh, my daughter also gets upset with me since I make her drink water inbetween other items. If she's thirsty during the day I tell her to drink a water if it's not at a mealtime. For breakfast she's allowed a cup of chocolate milk and then a capri sun or something like that for dinner. But she's like me and I used to just drink things up quickly. I wanted what she filled herself up with to not be adding that many calories and water is good for you. So, if the kids tell me they are thirsty during the day, I give them water.

Mary - posted on 03/25/2010

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some are just prone to be chunky and have to learn to just keep it in check so it doesn't get worse or to unhealthy yes soda is almost never given to my girls that is the biggest problem and watch flavored water most are good but they some times but sugar and other thing to make it good and then of course there is the fact that every where you turn there is something about begin over weight that is gear to make girls feel shame and that is the hardest on self esteem.biggest thing is ti make them feel that they are good weather they are big or small it has become a big problem where people can't except that not everyone is a twig you see in ads

Jenny - posted on 03/25/2010

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hi i ahve the same problem with my eleven year old daughter we let her snack on fruits she eats healthy 6 days a week and treat of sweets choc chips ect at weekend she's not allowed fizzy pop but the problem we have is when she is going to her friends house they have more free will with what they eat and are very thin so they will buy her junk from the shop she will eat it at thwere house i have spoken to her about it explained taht it is no good for her not healthy will give her bad teeth ect not mentioned about weight as i did not what to put her self esteem down she is only a little on the pudgy side she does dance lessons swimming lessons walks to school loves riding her bike ,maybe part is because she has hit puberty who knows best of luck

Mary - posted on 03/25/2010

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i have to chunky girls 15&10 and the best way is to change your own habits and in gauge her in activity that you are willing to do and just be supportive when she is down. my oldest is a liitle bigger than she needs to be but she is happy and confident in her self that is the most important.

R. S. - posted on 03/24/2010

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My daughter and I shop together, and do a lot of label reading and better food selecting. We chat about making better choices. I also stopped BUYING soda, chips, and the like. I can't control what she eats at school, and there are many poor choices available. Just by making better food choices on her own and without increasing her exercise, she lost 10 pounds since summer.

Renee - posted on 03/23/2010

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Ok if you know she is eating when she is not hungry and you say something and it hurts her feelings then tough...she need to be made to think about what she is doing to herself. you have the responsabilty as a parent to make sure that the constant junk foods are not in the house and that healthier foods are all she has to pick from. Also only let her have what you know her body needs don't let her gorge in food, force her to go for walks with you and to go outside to play. Talk to her about the choices she is making and how others look at her. let her know that this is not personal but you want to see her healthy and happy and to outlive you.

Taborah - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter is also slightly overweight. A few times in the past when I mentioned it she cried and said that it sounded like I was calling her fat. That killed me. I told her that I wanted her to learn healthy eating habits so I scheduled an appointment with a nutritionist at the childrens hospital. The nutritionist talked to us about portion sizes, and what kind of foods were healthy. This eased the conversation about weight a lot. She still has some way to go and I like Ruth decided to do it together. Sometimes she's much better at eating right than I am. I laugh with her and tell her that she has to tell me to put certain sweets down. Involving her in every way has made the process fun and easy and it's taken the strain out off of it. She no longer cries. I have told her that eating right has to be something that she decides that she wants for herself. I never talk about the weight. I always talk about the health and the importance of being healthy. Recently I told her how too much sugar can cause diabetes and then I explained to her what that was. I educate her. I figure this is the best tool for her to do the right thing. Good Luck.

Melissa - posted on 03/22/2010

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I am with u I have the same problem. My son is 11 years old & is over weight. I dont know what to do either. He was doing so good last year he lost alot of weight & now he has gained it all back. I am also in the situation with I dont know what to do or how to help him.

Judy - posted on 03/21/2010

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Darn it, I tried to send a detailed message and it failed.... I will try to duplicate it and send it this week.. sorry

Chasity - posted on 03/21/2010

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She does love chips.For lunch,she likes to eat pizza rolls.The main problem I think,is,that she will eat when I know she can't be hungry.If there is something here that she just wants it because she likes the taste,she will eat,even if we just ate.Anytime I try to say anyting about it,she acts like it hurts her feelings.

Chasity - posted on 03/19/2010

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Thanks to everyone that responded!We will try some of these things and I will keep you posted on how she's doing.She has had some stomach problems in the past and the doctor suspected Chron's disease,so we already watch what she eats,but she does eat more than she should.She has joined volleyball this year.Hopefully she will get in some extra excersize doing that.Thanks for the advice!

Tracy - posted on 03/18/2010

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I agree with Ruth, that if you all try to eat healthier and exercise as a family, you won't be sending her any messages that you aren't sending to yourself. The easiest way to get excess pounds to come off is to eliminate anything with sugar in it!!! My family switched to sugar-free Jell-O pudding and "No Sugar Added" fudgcicles as our desserts after dinner. We have also cut out white bread, potatoes, and pastas and switched to whole wheat pasta and whole grain bread. We only drink water or milk or occasionally iced tea, and do not drink sodas of any kind unless it's an occasional treat. We walk together, my daughter plays soccer and my son is in football off-season training. This has helped us all!

Ruth - posted on 03/18/2010

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I had this problem with my daughter (still do to some extent). I started looking at the example I was setting for her and realized that our eating habits were not very good. So we changed then as a family. Stopped eating out, except for special occasions, no processed foods, watched calories, got more exercise. But we did it together. She really enjoyed our together time and she loved looking for and trying new recipes. She lost about 20 pd and I lost about 30. We've gained a few back, but we've maintained much of the healthier eating habits we gained. We started this in Feb 2009 and are still amazed at the changes we've made in just one year.

Tasha - posted on 03/18/2010

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I don't think that being overweight is a bad thing. I believe that your body should be your temple and only the correct food and beverages should be allowed to enter it for norishment purposes. If you need anymore help let me know.....Tasha

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