my daughter is 10 and going through puberty?

Karin - posted on 04/17/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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she is getting aggressive and wanting to hurt herself (like saying i will get a knife and cut myself and she has got the knife out) and hurt others. i try an calm her down but she gets worse and swears at everyone. there is more but i dont want to bare all my problems on my first letter to all. thanks for your help

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I suggest you get her some help ASAP. Do take her threats seriously! Many people, especially kids cry for help but are ignored because others say they're just kids saying that. This sounds like suicidal behavior. I am working on a book currently on that subject. You should definitely look up suicidolgy.org and read through the symptoms. You can also call them for advice. look up any other websites on suicide prevention as well for help. Let me know what happens.

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User - posted on 02/14/2013

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my 10 year old would like a teen room she tells me she dose not wanna have toys and im lost help! has any one come across this to? she is growing up too fast

Tanya - posted on 04/23/2010

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My daughter has had emotional moments lately too and she is also 10. It may be just the rush of hormones and it's usually a few months to a year before they start their cycles. I have talked to my daughter's physician and been advised to just watch her for worsening of her symptoms. Once she gets her cycle she may be more prone to Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder which is an extreme case of PMS which can cause irritabilty, mood swings, as well as physical symptoms. Talk to your child's doctor because it could be something more serious like depression or some other mental health issue especially if she threatening to hurt herself.

Christy - posted on 04/20/2010

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I agree. It could be something at school, or an imbalance. Either one, I'm sure, is very scary for both of you. I hope you are able to find the root of the problem quickly! Please keep us posted!

Tracey - posted on 04/20/2010

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Your daughter is having a massive hormone surge as her body changes and she is probably scared but doesn't know how to express herself. I would guess she is saying she wants to cut herself as she is looking for reassurance from her family that everything is OK. If she really wanted to cut herself she would do it in secret, the fact that she is telling you suggests she is looking for attention or that there is another problem.
Can you ask a teacher to have a talk with her in private? I took my daughter to the doctor when she started changing and they had a really good talk about what her body was going through.

Lisa - posted on 04/19/2010

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Something has happened to or with your daughter. Dearest, you need to get to the root of the problem quickly!!!!

Karin - posted on 04/19/2010

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thank-you so much for your comments, i didnt think of a chemical imbalance and i will talk to her teacher aswell about her problem too, to see if she is like that at school. i never went through this with my son ( who is 18 now) so i thought this was just a girl thing.i will let u all know what happens so if some other poor mother goes through this, i can help her also. again thank-you so very much you fabulous mums xxx

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I agree, you should take her to the doctor. She may have a hormonal imbalance causing her stress and confusion that she does not know how to handle at her age. When I was young I had one friend who had a chemical imbalance and she was put on hormone pills, which was like night and day to her. You doctor might also have some other suggestions as well, such as vitamin B complex or perhaps someone she could talk to, to try to figure out what could be causing her these uncontrolled emotions. It is horrible when you feel like your child is out of control and do not know how to help them. I also wish you luck. It is very hard...

April - posted on 04/17/2010

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Oh that is terrible, she is so young to be having problems like that. You need to get to a dr right away. She might be have a chemical imbalance or something like that from the rush of hormones you get at puberty and she just can't handle them at her age. There is no reason a child that young should feel that way. I am sorry wish you luck.

Lisa - posted on 04/17/2010

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Is she being bullied at school? it might be an idea to see if you can find out what's going on at school or with her friends, sa I think it sounds like somthing is bothering her

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