My daughter is entering middle school and puberty is here..How do I deal with the
Rene - posted on 03/09/2009
lol my three oldest girls have one year between each of them and my husband some weeks is just like whoa where did my little girls go some venting is excpeted everybody has a bad day just remind her if you have a bad day thats one thing when you take it out on the rest of the family you have invited me to you bad day and chances are we'll be having a bad day together let her know you understand and to tell you no matter how silly it seams my girls and i have had a good laugh over some things that they thought were awful till they said it out loud and then they felt better and some times they need some space that i helped them get remind her you cant help if she dosnt talk to you
Stacy - posted on 03/08/2009
I feel you. Wow I have 2 sons 12, 14 and a 11 yr old daughter. She is starting junior high this year to. From the second she walks through the door it is on. LOL
There is a lot they r dealing with right now. Boys friends emotions parents school homework chores BROTHERS (LOL), They r forming and growing. This is the beginning of them becoming young adults. The pressure is on!!
She is making a transition she is becoming a lady now so you have to communicate with her on a different level.
Another stage in our kids life we have to look forward to.
On the days this does not work. LOL let me know what works cause no matter what those type of days still exist. LOL CHOKE ME NOW!
Have more talking sessions with her,
Sarah - posted on 03/06/2009
I am in the same situation... my ten yr old daughter will be going to middle school this september. I am kinda scared, I don't know exactly what to expect. One of the things I have heard so far that helps is: Go to the school as many times possible for little happenings, like their open house. Just visit their office to see what is going on. For my daughter, this will be a new school for the first time, she's only been in the one she's at now. Also, with children that age, I know they like to go out alot more, its all about friends. And they will test their boundaries, want to go further, stay out later. It sounds a little scary, lol. But as to puberty, that is very tricky. All the anger they have is so overwhelming for them. Like my daughter just gets so angry about the smallest thing, she just doesnt know what to do, so she ends up falling to the ground, jumping around....almost like a temper tantrum when she was 3. Then she'll cry and a few minutes later, be completely fine. I can't even imagine what their little bodies are going through. I know there are some websites that are good, just google puberty, and you'll find lots.
Ruth - posted on 03/06/2009
Hi. This is a tough time for our girls. I have to say that I really try to remember what it was like for me when my body was changing. It's new and it's awkward. I can't tell from your comments if she is having her period yet. Regardless, I'm sure the hormones are kicking in. Best of luck. Remember your sweet girl is still inside that changing body. She will return in several years. Take care. Ruth
Lewis-Clouse - posted on 03/06/2009
Thanks so much much! I actually have 4 other kids so its kinda hard to get away but I think that if she can just mellow out by herself it could help. I think that I will have to talk to everyone and explain that EVERYONE needs some alone time at some point. Again, Thanks!
Shea - posted on 03/06/2009
Mood swings...I have to smile on this one. I can relate I have a 14 yr.old daughter. The funny thing is she is a mini me. Yes that means I'm moody too. lol Suprisingly enough that very fact helps me deal as you put it with her moods. Remember it's not personal even though as mother and woman we expect to be the fixers of all. For you try some "Mom's time out' Go to your own spot by yourself for awhile. No interuptions. As for her I recommend the same. My daughter runs a nice hot bath, lights candles, grabs a book some cold juice and tunes out the world! When we both calm down we chat about how we felt. Laugh, dance act like an idiot with her. Good Luck
Lewis-Clouse - posted on 03/06/2009
Sorry it cut off the rest of my question..MOOD SWINGS! I've got the puberty and what's expected of her in middle school under control but the mood swings are just awful! I have two step sons that are teenagers and they are golden when it comes to moods. What can I do to at least "deal" with them a little better?
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