My eleven year old daughter wants to start shaving her legs becuase they make her feel insecure, in fact they are a bit hairy, should I let her shave her legs? ( she already had her period)

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Katie - posted on 08/07/2012

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I definitely think you should let her. You will be suprised by how much of a self confidence boost she'll get by shaving her legs. Girls that age have so many things to worry about already. I bet she would love it if you took her shopping for a razor (I highly recommend Venus Embrace or something of the like), shaving gel/cream, and pretty-smelling lotions. Make sure not to embarrass her or make her feel bad in any way. Help her shave until she totally 'gets it'. Good luck!

Also, if your justification for saying 'no' is 'I don't want her to grow up' or 'she's still a little girl', those really aren't legit reasons for not letting her shave her legs. My mom always did that, and it truly hurt me. It isn't your daughter's fault that she is growing older. Shaving her legs won't automatically mean that she'll want to wear dark makeup, want shirts that bare her belly button, and make her move out. Don't be selfish with your reasons. Think about your daughter's feelings.
Best wishes!

Lakota - posted on 07/12/2012

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You should let her do it. She's ready and really needs to feel good about herself at this age.

Laura - posted on 07/11/2012

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I have an eleven year old and I let her start shaving mid school year in 5th grade. We are hispanic and her hair was very noticeable and I was okay with it. We were at a birthday party when some girls were talking about her and laughing and she broke my heart when she told me about it all. Girls and boys at this age are very cruel. I helped her the first 3 times and she now does it all alone. She is going to sixth grade and they have gym everyday which makes it perfect timing due to them having to undress and shower in front of their school mates.

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Peggy - posted on 08/24/2012

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No. Chances are she is being pressured by kids at school about shaving her legs. She needs to know at this tender age how to deal with peer pressure. Kids nowadays are doing things earlier than in my day for sure. That doesn't mean it's appropriate for them to do them. Explain to her that until the hair on her legs is dark and course, she really doesn't need to shave them. Also explain to her that once she starts shaving, she has to continue to shave them because the hair keeps on growing. She needs to have all the information to see why it isn't the best idea to start shaving at such a young age. I personally was forbidden to shave my legs throughout high school. I actually didn't shave them until I was 34. I probably should have done it sooner but my hair was so light I just didn't bother with it till then.

Teresa - posted on 08/22/2012

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I allowed my 13 year old to start shaving but let her only do up to her knee and explained why it was best that way. She's happy with the decision but now we face the makeup issues :)

Isabel - posted on 08/17/2012

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My daughter is 10 and just started middle school 6th grade. And has had her period since she was 9 and in the 4th grade. It's so hard for us as mommies to try and keep them so sheltered when mother nature has her own plans. My daughter has asked since 4th grade to shave and I have held her off as long as I could. I know how hard entering middle school can be for girls, let alone entering with hairy legs in one of the hottest months of the year. You want to wear nothing but shorts. So the night before school started we shaved (I) her legs and underarm pits. She was one happy girl. And it made me happy knowing I was sendinding her off to school with two less things to worry about.

Gen - posted on 08/16/2012

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Hi everyone,
I googled children shaving legs and found this site. I received a terrible shock last night.. I am divorced and share custody of my children with their dad. My daughter turned 7 this April, and last night she showed me that she had shaved her forearms, and she then goes on to tell me that she has already shaved her legs twice. And her dad supervised. I am really upset about the whole thing but kept it pretty cool in front of her. I can't approach my ex as he is too difficult to deal with and has shown by previous issues that he punishes our daughter if i try to approach him on things i don't approve of. Alyssa had mentioned a couple of times that she 'is very hairy', but didn't seem to make a big deal of it. she is blonde, a bit hairy i guess but its very fine and blonde so not obvious. Please help, i need some advice cos i'm worried about what next??? He has already let her leave the house with high heel boots on...

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let her do it. i was 10 and my girls will be allowed as soon as their leg hairs are very noticeable! my eldest has been shaving since she was 9 but hers were very very dark and long. It gave her renewed confidence. No harm in it i say.

Lizzy - posted on 08/12/2012

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Yes, because when a girl is feeling insecure and alone, she'll need your support with everything. And if you start by letting her shave and, teach her yourself... You'll create a bond and when she's in Highschool or in College she won't look back and say, "My mom was never the type to let me do things that made me feel good" or "She was never the best mom to me". So you should let her, I mean if your afraid of her cutting herself... There's this item called, "Smooth Away" And it has a flat gray surface and you go clock-wise on your legs with it and the hair magically goes away!

Chaya - posted on 08/09/2012

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does it need to be shaved? If so, you should teach her how to do it, if not, reevaluate it in a few months time. Either way, make sure she knows how to avoid slicing herself

Toni - posted on 08/09/2012

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my 12 year old just ask me today if she could . I stared to shave when I was 11 and I think cause I was so young my hair is so thik and dark.so I told her we will see at the end of the year if her hair get darker then I would let her wax if off in the summer time .

Christine - posted on 08/05/2012

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When I was about that age I wanted to shave too. My hair on my legs was white but alot of it. I was on my mom about it for awhile..finally one day in the car w/ my mom, I asked her again if i could shave bec my legs were so hairy..she said let me see them...I lifted my leg and she said okkk but remember once you start you can't stop...i said ok!!! I never regretted it.

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