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My husband has told me I have to choose between him and my kids. They are not his biologically, though we do have a 1 year old. I have a 12 y.o. boy and a 16 yr old girl. My son has almost gotten me arrested for domestic violence because I punished/whooped my daughter for getting bad grades and suspended from school. He ran out of the house 2 days after I took away his tv for the same. Told someone he didn't want to get a beaten like his sister, and it snowballed from there. My husband said to put him on a plane to his father, but he knows the poor conditions he lives in and we haven't heard from him in 5 yrs. Then I said maybe he needs to be tested for attention disorder, and he said if he stays and gets in trouble again the marriage is over. I asked him is he asking me to choose between my kids and him and he said yes. He's not losing his career over my kids. He already did that once, was his answer. But I recall, he chose to get physical with someone of higher ranking when they disrespected his wife. The wife that he didn't like and was divorcing. Not his kids, not my kids. We've been married for 3 years, but I know I would never pick a man, any man, over my children. I was in that situation, and if he hates my kid, then he hates me.