My son is 10yrs old, today he said one of his friends called the other one (boy) lesbian, so he asked me what is

Momma - posted on 06/18/2012

I'd say as soon as he asks. You don't want him to end up homophobic. The culture is becoming more tolerant, so don't leave your son behind.

Toiuj - posted on 06/07/2012

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S. - posted on 05/24/2012

@ Maria and so you should be very proud, what a fab boy you have :) he seems more muture and has a better attitude then then a lot of adults.

Maria - posted on 05/24/2012

My son is now 11 and came home the other day and told me that his friend told him a big secret. At first he didn't want to tell me, but I could tell he did. He told me that his friend confided in him that he was gay. I asked my son what he thought of that, he shrugged his shoulders and said its fine. I asked him if he knew what that meant and he said yeah he likes boys. He then went on to say how if anyone makes fun of him for it he will stand up for him and it doesn't change their friendship. I am very very proud of my son.



This made me realize he is growing up. He is going to face real world issues more and more, I am just so happy that we have a relationship where he feels free to talk to me.



I think as soon as our kids ask us a question about gays, puberty, sex, anything then its time to be up front about it. If they know enough to start asking then its in front of them and there is nothing we can do to shelter them from it.

Litchfield - posted on 05/23/2012

I also avoided these topics with my 10 year old. But then my 23 year old married a man who's grandmothers are lesbiens. So, we had to discuss it. I let her ask the questions and answered exactly a Louise suggested. My advice is to only answer the question they are asking. Do not go deeper than they are wanting to know. Keep it simple, a lesbien is women who has girlfriends not boyfriends. When the next question comes in, answer it. My daughter asked, "So how did she have a baby?" This prompted me to have to ask and found out that she was married to two abusive men and didn't live the lesbien lifestyle until later in life. This was a hard question to answer to a 10 year old but we did and she hasn't asked since. Good luck.

S. - posted on 05/16/2012

I'd say exactly what louise said, I use to ask my mam things and would get "you'r too young to understand"and "ask me when your older"I would just ask someone else and not always get the right answer. I bring my kids up with the rule, if there old enough to ask they get a answer, I obviously keep in mind age and make the answer age appropriate. If you answer your kids honest and with out embarrassment There more inclined to come to you with problems as they get older.

DANNYELLE - posted on 05/16/2012

Hi Louise!
I am trying to keep him away from knowing about "sex,prostitution, drugs and gay, but you are right is here and he has to know before somebody, say the wrong thing...
THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

Louise - posted on 05/16/2012

I think 10 is old enough to understand what love means. Just tell him that a lesbian is a lady who loves another lady and not a man. A gay man is a man that loves another man and not a lady. He will understand this. Most soaps these days have a gay couple in them and children are not protected like they used to be. Children are not bothered about it. Society has accepted gay couples it is nothing to be embarrassed about.

DANNYELLE - posted on 05/16/2012

he asked me what "lesbian" means... when is the right time to talk to him about "gay"?