My son is 12 and I have caught him wearing my panties - what shoud I do - I have noticed that he doesn't have any body hair and his chest is a little puffy - is there anthing in this

Joan - posted on 08/31/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My son is 12 years old and i have caught him wearing my panties - what should i do>

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Hello,



So I am a male and a nurse and I want to first say that medically speaking your sons puffy chest is more than likely just the fact that is body is changing. Puffy boobs in bous could just be some obesity stating or it could be his pecks are starding to form and if he is athletic this would be surprising. Could it mean that there is a bigger issue yes but thats not ually the case and I would continue to moniter and maybe ask his doctor at his next check (in private of course). As far as panties yes I was and still am a panty wearing so I'm speaking from a male who did this in his teens. I am straight and nor girly at all nor into something kinky or dirty but state the male panty issue truely to educate people on thr topic, with the exception that we wear panties were otherwise perfectly normal folsks. Boy's love panties for a couple of reasons. We know from magizines that panties look hot on a hot on a woman and the panties are an extension of them. So boys think about panties and the bodies that were in them and imagine what was in them. It's the first experience some boys have with vaginas and that simple image in their heads is enough of a tun on. When I was a teen and did this you have to know that at this age we really don't see the (mom) part of the equation and only think women. Moms think this means their sons want them but that's not the case. A boy will go after his moms or sisters panties only because they are there. When boys wear panties they feel a connection to a womans goods and the feel is amazing. They are less bulky and fit rather closly to everything and the taboo of it is also exciting. Remember a 12 year does not have the knowledge of an adult and is going with what feels good and not so much what is right or wrong, because we really don't know. Everybody will give you different advice but mine is simple, act natural. When you know he is wearing panties find a way to ask So you like those? and just be free about the question. If he is hesitant just ask him, Would you like for me to you youre own? Or another apporach is go buy a pack of the nylon full briefs (remenber we like the feel so nothing skimpy because it defeats the purpose. Leave them on his bed and tell him you have something for him. After a day or two ask him if the panties fit and did he like them? The reason for the mild approach is first show him you support him, that knowledge is easier for youre son to realize youre ok with the matter and will make discussions easier. Maybe then or a day or two later say I wanted to talk about the panties. He prob want say anything but let him know it;s natural to be curious? what is it that he likes about them and also would he prefer them all the time over mens? Questions like these help to kinda think about things but also gives you some ideas as to the reason why he likes them. A large portion of boys do it just beacause it make masterbating better, yes some may be gay, have a female like mentality or more but this doesn't mean buying them will lead him down those roads. I never out grew my love for panties but that was on me and some issue's from my early childhoos days. My mom never bought me panties and I have a really hard time going through my teenage years with the love and confusion of panties. It would have been great to be able to discuss it and know more about the matter. I am a parent and yes I hide my panties from my son seeing me but I think we are parents and we have to discuss these things and help out kids even if it's not easy for us. Remember it's about making his life easier and less confussing than us dealing with an uncomfortable topic.



I hope this helps

Barbaras - posted on 03/26/2014

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Just go with the flow, he will either grow our ofot not. In my case my son became a full time girl. He has a wonderful boyfriend who I love dearly. Oh yes I gave him a blow job for his 14th birthday.

D - posted on 09/01/2012

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You're in the right place and in the right time then. He knows you saw...you could be cool and non judgemental...you have voiced your personal beliefs to your kids in the past? So, being there for him as he grows and figures things out is part of being a mom. Everyone needs a mother. No matter what they say or do. A nurturing place with its laws in place BUT welcoming like no other place in the world. Like Mother nature~: ) thank you for sharing.

Luke - posted on 02/26/2014

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Brasnpantys - posted on 09/17/2014

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good for you, if I were his dad I would have helped him dress then when he got excited I would have sucked him off

Clifford - posted on 09/02/2014

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Hi Joan, my boy is also 12 and very feminin, he loves to dress up in his sisters clothes underwear and all and parades around the house, my daughter who is ten loves to dress him up sometimes with her girlfriends I think it's a faze that pre pubescent boys go through so I see no harm in it. I might start to worry if this continues into his teen years.

Steve - posted on 09/01/2014

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I would not panic..my mother caught me.

She sat me down straight away quite embarrassing sitting in front of her with pantys on and boy bulge..... but all worked out well she asked a lot of questions and all worked out.

Steve - posted on 09/01/2014

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Hmmm dont panic I did the same...my mum sat me down and asked me why i was wearing them....

She had noticed how excited they made me....the worst part was that after she caught me and we were talking my exciement stayed the same

Phil - posted on 08/01/2014

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It is abnormal but it isn't their fault. I don't know how open you are to this but it's true. They have a demonic spirit of lust, perversion, or fetish that has entered them some how through some legal ground or open doorway in their life and they need deliverance. Jesus Christ is the only one who can heal your son and you need to seek out a deliverance minister. Worldly therapy does nothing it's useless fruitless garbage that only makes people worse because something physical can't solve something spiritual. Peace and blessings

Mikey - posted on 07/06/2014

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We take mommy panties because there easy to find y'all leave them in the floor and in the hamper sexy stuff turns us on we aren't attracted to our moms but what's been there they smell good when you get your first piece of pussy you will forget it put your moms panties back I did it

Fran - posted on 02/13/2014

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Show him understanding and buy him his own panties. He will love you for it.

John - posted on 12/12/2013

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@lexim 2009 is it ok for a grown up to try panties I really like the way they feel

Ivanna - posted on 03/09/2013

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Joan,

He is just curious. If it bothers you so much then I would cough or knock before you get near his room. I am sure he values his privacy so make sure he closes his door. He is just going through a phase. Puberty can be rough on a young man so just be patient with him. Just let him be a boy:)

Joan - posted on 09/01/2012

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Hi D Talles - thanks for responding - He was acting like a girl would - strutting aroung his room cupping his chest saying how pretty he looked - he was so embarassed when I walked into his room and interrupted him - I too was embarrassed and closed the door behind me - but i am left wondering - Joan

D - posted on 09/01/2012

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Hi Joan, I guess it depends what he's doing when you caught him. Kids do all kinds of stuff it doesn't necesarily mean one thing or another. My 10 year old likes to poke two hole in grocery store bag and grab the handles get into the bag naked and walk around the house dancing! Showing all his stuff squished up through the transparent bag. Its hilarious. He did that twice.

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