Nudity of my 10yr old girl

Qzette - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My girl started to get breast just before 10 and I stopped her from showering with her baby brother of 2 and told her to close the door when going to the loo and when dressing. I also bought her some bra's so it is not that visible to others. My mother in-law don't respect my wishes and lets her swim topless and keeps telling her there is nothing,so it doesn't matter if someone sees it. When i get there and find her like that she lies to me and says the top fell off and she was on her way to get another. Is it me being over protective or am I right for being upset?

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Julie - posted on 11/03/2010

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It is not a matter of size of the breast. It is a matter of modesty and maturity. If she still feels like a little girl then you should still let her be a little girl and not confuse her with sexual messages she is not ready to assimilate into her emotions right now. She is the one who needs to be comfortable with her body. Making her ashamed and feel dirty can only bring confusion later.
Yes your mother-in -law should respect your wishes.
But..swimming in a backyard pool in privacy is not the same as running through Wal-mart in dasiy-dukes and your tatas showing and as some of the ladies mentioned in Europe the girls go to the beaches topless all the time..

Donna - posted on 02/05/2010

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you are very right to be upset & i would not allow her to go to your mother laws if she can not respect your values as a parent! we live in a world full of perverts and we need to keep our children safe. your mother in law should understand that and want to teach your daughter to respect you and herself. your daughter is a young lady now and she should be treated as such. your daughter knows that what she is doing is wrong so she makes up stories to cover up the deed. she should not have to lie to you and there is no reason why her top should be taken off. she knows that and your mother in law should absolutely know that! your mother in law is not doing your family any favors in dismissing your authority. your her mother and that is final! your rules, your wants, your child! good luck

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Jordan - posted on 11/01/2014

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Does she swim in a public pool topless? Because if she does then yes she needs to wear a top, but if she swims at home topless then thats perfectly fine. But if it is a public pool make her cover up because if a man saw her... you don't want her to be a mother at 10...

Rubinatamboli - posted on 05/15/2014

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then my 18 year girl are naked at night. she will not wear any undergarments. she was going to swimming then wear a bikine no wear swimsuit.
i am alwase talk with this topic she is no reply.
my husbond love me & rubi. daughter is very clever then rubi besides of father. she is not wear a undies in jeans ,short skirts so i am help less. please help me.

Nelly - posted on 11/03/2010

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If your daughter feels comfortable swimming topless then you are over reacting.

Lorrnia - posted on 02/06/2010

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I agree with you that your dauhter should start covering up more, I also have a ten year old. She has not really developed but seems to enjoy her privacy just the same. She use to walk around with hardly anything on. Now she makes sure to have something on at all times. It may also depend on the maturity level of the child, however I feel that your mother in law needs to be respectful of your wishes and your rules regarding your daughter and I really do not feel that it is an appropriate thing for her to be encouraged to lie to you or make up stories, I think you need to have a heart to heart with your mother in law.

Erin - posted on 02/05/2010

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I think you are being over protective. If she's comfortable topless, then why not let her be topless at the beach or swimming? This is a normal thing in most of Europe anyway.

Tanya - posted on 02/05/2010

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I think you are right for being upset. My 10 year old has developed rapidly over the past year and won't allow her to even walk around in a t-shirt and panties in front of her older brother. You need to just tell your mother-in-law or have your husband tell her that your wishes need to be respected regarding your daughter. You are the parent and what was once okay years ago isn't now. Things have changed such as an increase in pedophilia, and teen pregnancy that wasn't much of an issue years ago. Keep your daughter covered up your doing the right thing :)

Cassandra - posted on 02/05/2010

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I agree that your mil should respect your wishes. My daughter has large A's at 10 so I understand. I also understand that your daughter is perched on the wire between child and young woman. My dd loves to be nude (well don't we all) so we allow nudity when daddy isn't home and the shades are drawn. For an hour all us girls will run around in our panties and get our primals out. My youngest thinks it's a laugh, she's 3, my oldest loves the freedom from her clothes. After that it's back to being "American", oh and my home country is a top optional country.

Glory - posted on 02/05/2010

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You are right for being upset..your mother-in-law should respect your wishes..That's not right...I would make a big issue out of it...the sad part about it is that your little girl is going to think she is doing something bad, and your mother in-law is putting your daughter in a position that she feels she has to lie to you....That little girl should know that she is not doing something bad, but only that her body is changing, and change is a good thing not a bad thing.....this experience should be a positive experience for her not negative....my duaghter sue to walk around topless...she has two little brothers..I told her little by little she is becoming a big girl, I bought her bras and she was so excited..I told her, because her body is changing and she is going to go through some wonderful changes, it was something she should keep private...because her chest was growing and the boys chest stays the same it was something only girls understand because they go through the same thing and boys don't ...put your mother in-law in her place is not right!

Patrizia - posted on 02/05/2010

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i am with you i think a young girl especially at this age where her body is changing should be able to have her privacy and cover up. my little girl is 9 and has developed quiet young but she herself likes to have her privacy it makes her feel more comfortable within herself and i think that is really what counts.

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