Shes 15 never been kissed and no dates

Jen - posted on 01/08/2013

My 15 yo has never been kissed (that I know about) and does not date. And I'm beyond happy about it. Dating in high school causes lots of angst and drama, and usually lots of hurt as well. There is plenty of time for that in college, etc. Right now, my daughter has a group of friends who are just not interested in being involved in all that dating drama. I don't expect that to last forever, but I'm enjoying it while it does. :) Trust me, your daughter has plenty of time to make those memories. Right now she's just making memories of a different sort.

Diane - posted on 01/08/2013

someday (soon) you will be wishing for this innocence in your baby ;)

Amber - posted on 01/05/2013

I am 12 and I have a boyfriend.

Alisha - posted on 10/06/2011

You should be happy she will never have painful memories of all the boys who used her when she was a teen and young adult. No one under the age of 18 needs to be dating or have a boyfriend, they are not ready for it and they are still children and need protection from their parents. She needs to have positive memories with her friends and family, not make-out sessions with random boys. I feel bad that you believe that's what your child needs.

Brenda - posted on 09/30/2009

I think that is awesome! Our family believes in courtship (saving the memories, first kiss, etc...for your spouse). Dating generally causes much pain. I wouldn't be worried, be proud that she isn't running around and getting involved with a bunch of guys while a teen :)

Francine - posted on 09/29/2009

How things are now a days you don't want her to be kissed at 15. I was kissed at 15 and it lead me to get pregnant. Don't rush it, she should have good memories of school, her friends and family. I'm terrfied for my daughter i don't want her to even look at a boy...lol because i don't want her to end up like i did. Keep them in the school work.

Lisa - posted on 09/27/2009

Don't be worried at all her time will come.

Regina - posted on 09/27/2009

Let her enjoy this time in her life.
She will eventually have a romantic life....don't rush it.

Don't push your insecurities onto her.

Stacy - posted on 09/26/2009

I would not worry about this at all. When I was 14-17 I never went on a date or kissed a boy, I was very shy. But when I was a senior I met a boy and I knew that he would be my first kiss. I thought there was something worry with me, but I was shy and just kept to myself. I had friends, girls and boys, but I just wasn't ready to have a boy for a boyfriend. Your daughter will kiss and have a date with a boy soon enough. She sounds like a really good girl and now a days that's real hard to have. I married my high school boyfriend and I wore white (if you know what I mean). She will be fine, just be there for her and don't let her know you worry about this. Good-luck! ;)

Linda - posted on 09/26/2009

i never kissed a lad till i was 16 and he was no looker and never had sex till i was 18 dont worry she will have plenty dates and kisses.15 is still young hun.

Kelli - posted on 09/25/2009

I don't think I've heard of a parent wanting her daughter to start kissing. Most parents worry when their kids start kissing. Be careful not to make your child feel that there is somethig wrong with her. Having a boyfriend is not what you should be stressing. Good grades, extra curricular activities and higher education is what you should be teaching her to value. You should be releived, there has been a rise in std's of the mouth and throat with all the different kinds of kissing many of these children are doing now.

Kathie - posted on 09/25/2009

Consider yourself lucky!! Don't push this of all things!

Pauline - posted on 09/24/2009

You are definatley doing something right! Being kissed and dating shouldn't be top priority. I didn't kiss my first boyfriend until 16 and even then it seemed like he was trying to push me into other things so I broke up with him. You can't stop teenage hormones but if she is a late bloomer be very thankful.

Allison - posted on 09/24/2009

Hello Jerica,

Do not worry about your daughter. I too have a 15 year old who is currently without a boyfriend while most of her friends have. She did have one, for a short time, but it did not work out.

You should be proud of your daughter - she seems to have standards and will not take just anyone. I would concentrate on making certain that she is social and has activities that she enjoys. When she shows her confidence in herself the boys will appear.

My older daughter got her first real boyfriend shortly before she turned 16 and they are together 4 years later.

Lexi - posted on 09/24/2009

WOW! My personal opinion is 15 is too young. At least 16 yrs of age is good. Something about the sweet 16 makes it somewhat more acceptable. I wouldnt worry about it. If the girl is not ready its ok. Be happy shes not the sort of girl that is more worried about kissing boys/or girls at this time. Kissing can lead to other things. She sounds like good kid and there are bigger fish to fry.

Laurie - posted on 09/24/2009

My daughter Just turned 16 and has still not been kissed. She has friends and knows her time will come and it will happen when the time is right.

Jodi - posted on 09/23/2009

My 15 year old daughter just got her first kiss on Easter Sunday and that was after she and her boyfriend had been dating 6 months and he asked her father and his parents for permission first. He said he has too much respect for her and us to not ask. They have been dating now for a little over a year and a peck here and there and hand holding is as far as it has gone. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it will come in time and when it does she will be ecstatic.

Julie - posted on 09/23/2009

Let her just be a kid. There's plenty of time for that later.

Hildy - posted on 09/23/2009

I agree with those who advised you not to have your daughter rush into things. Wouldn't you want her to be with someone decent? I have a son and the same applies to sons as well as daughters. I don't want my son with some hootchie and I think you wouldn't want your daughter to be with someone who is not upstanding.

Shawn - posted on 09/23/2009

Don't rush it when it happens it happens she is only 15 let her have time to find out who she is you will be thankful when shes older and waited.

Aurelia - posted on 09/22/2009

I keep my 10 year in dance and girl scouts. I really don't think it is good for a girl that age to be worried about boys. I started late with boyfriends but i have alot of memories about playing and being a girl, not just about boys.

Aurelia - posted on 09/22/2009

I think that is good i told my daughter she could not have a boyfriend until she is 16 years old.

Shea - posted on 09/22/2009

??????????? She's only 15..she has her whole life for kissing and dates. those aren't the only types of memories she can make. Stop worrying and be happy she's not doing those things.

Kimberly - posted on 09/22/2009

I would also say be grateful!!! There is so many things she is going to be doing in the near future that you need to save all your worry for!!! And believe me when she does finally get that first date you will worry till you pull your hair out that she won't make it home safely!!!!

Michelle - posted on 09/22/2009

If you are worried about her not having memories why don't you help her create some that she will enjoy and be proud of like a sport or dance something to keep her occupied. I have a 11 year old and she is loving going to her chorus concerts and feeling proud of herself.

Heather - posted on 09/22/2009

Congratulations! She has reached that age with purity still intact! Thats not what many parents are able to say. I'm hoping to be able to say the same when my daughter is 15. (she's currently 12) Kissing may seem so simple, but once that first rush is over they want more and will be more willing to keep going. no dates? I wouldn't worry about that yet. Let's get through school and then think on those things, there's enough other things in life to worry us.

Joann - posted on 09/21/2009

Don't make a big deal of it because it's not. What is more important is her self worth her self esteem.. Build her up by encourager her to volunteer with Special Olympics....tutor kids..learn an instrument. Trust me you don't want your child to be kissed on her first priority list. Chill out Mom. Are you worried about this or is your daughter? Your daughter will have memories, just might not be the ones you want for her. Keep lifting her up.

Miryam - posted on 09/21/2009

why are you so concerned about that? you should be thankful that she still a virgin; have you seen how bad the world is in these days? let her grow her own personality, not just because you want to, believe me, they experience a lot of pressure at school and the last thing they want is to have it at home too. She still have plenty of time to do everything! you better enjoy her while she still with you, cause one day she'll be leaving.

Teaque - posted on 09/21/2009

Please let kids be kids.There is plenty of time for all that stuff.Kissing leads to other things.I have a daughter who is almost 17 years old she doesnt have a boy friend I am happy.I have a son who is 15 he doesnt have a girl friend.I am happy.I know sometimes girls think they are not pretty enough if boys dont ask them out,just keep telling her how beautiful she is and wait for someone who will respect her and her feelings.

Cheri - posted on 09/21/2009

I am not sure why u r worried she is only 15 don't rush it kissing leads to other things.

Tracy - posted on 09/21/2009

dont rush it, my daughter is almost 18 and she has never been kissed or had a boyfriend, the time will come when it is right, you don't want her to get hurt, let you still be your teenagers make other memories for her other than a boy.

Pippa - posted on 09/20/2009

Quoting Sa :

There will be a lifetime of memories! She's still a a child! .... and far too young to handle the emotional repercussions of a relationship. In addition, most adolescent boys or not looking for just a kiss... if you don't want to end up being a Grandma within in the next year or so, enjoy her now as the beautiful innocent being she is.

alnog with this valid tip that Sa has said again i say just leave her be she will be kissed when she's ready she will have sex when she's ready (hopefully not too soon) when i lost my virganty i regreted it i wished that i hadn't gone and had sex i still wish i had waited but now i'm a mum and proud to be

S - posted on 09/20/2009

There will be a lifetime of memories! She's still a a child! .... and far too young to handle the emotional repercussions of a relationship. In addition, most adolescent boys or not looking for just a kiss... if you don't want to end up being a Grandma within in the next year or so, enjoy her now as the beautiful innocent being she is.

Pippa - posted on 09/20/2009

look when I was 15 i hadn't ever been kissed and 1 yr later i was pregnent with my daughter amanda please please please don't rush her maybe she's not ready please don't stress I'm 19 now with 2 beautiful kids i love but if i could go back and not be a mum just so i could grow up and be a kid myself i would i started young because i felt unloved now the longer she stays as one the more special she will feel when that time comes please don't be worried for her just be proud of her proud of the fact that your not on here asking for advice for her running around with boys all the time there is always a positive to any AND every negitave be proud of her be proud for her be happy for her i know that it what I would want if i was in her shoes

Fiona - posted on 09/20/2009

i never want my daughter to be kissed they only be kids for such a short time they will be time enough till there 17 or 18 i was only 16 when i had her so i hope you can see were im comeing from sometimes its better not to be kissed when they get a little older they will be kissed dont you worry about that .

Joanne - posted on 09/20/2009

i agree with the last reply my son has not either n he is 15 ,but there is plenty of time...you would be more worried if it was the opposite ,im sure.

Clarise - posted on 09/19/2009

In this day and time, be grateful. I was 15 and not kissed because I was focused on my education and had heard too many horror stories about what it leads to. Her time will come.