Should a 11-Year-Old Have a Cell Phone?

Diana - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 1103 moms have responded )

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My step daughter wants to have a cell phone and she is 11 years old....I think 11 is too young to own a cell phone she wants one just to call her friends and most of her friends have cells phones..... Is 11 too young for cell phones?

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Andrea - posted on 03/19/2010

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my son has a cell phone at age of 11 it is really good for when he goes to friends houses I can call him or text to see what he is doing he thinks it is really cool to have a phone

Monte'a - posted on 03/19/2010

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Here's a story I wrote in College ~ to address issues such as this. I am a mother of 10.



Childhood now VS Childhood then



Childhood! What does it mean? Are their differences between kids now verses kids then? I think so. We often hear in our lifetime statements starting to the effect like “when I was a kid”. Then you’d hear some outrageous statement follow such as “we had to walk to school bare foot in six feet of snow with no shoes, no getting dropped off at the front door by Mom or Dad for us”. I don’t know about you but I heard those kinds of stories from my grandfather all the time. Upon reflection I can truly say that I promised myself as a child, I would never say those kinds of things to my kids. However, I prove myself wrong all the time. I catch my self-saying things like “what do mean you can’t find the remote? When I was growing up I was the remote.

Do any of you ever think of the differences in our childhoods, compared to the children of today? When I was growing up, like many of you. Going to a restaurant was a treat you had to earn with extra good behavior. Kids today see more of a drive thru window, than they see of Mom in the kitchen.

This subject interests me because, it seem that the more things change the more they stay the same. I really feel that kids today have a false sense of entitlement. They operate under the delusion that they are entitled to any thing and every thing simply because they exist. What do you think this does for future generations? Does it build self respect, a sense of satisfaction for a job well done? On the contrary. What will happen if the world becomes more and more dominated by the me generation.

The question also needs to be asked whose to blame for such selfish, ungrateful, little brats? Is it the parents? Or is it the world we live in? Our world focuses, and is driven by the desire to do less and have more. Everyone is looking for the easy way out. But they don’t just want out, they want out with the most stuff. Look at television. You see tons of ads designed to get our children’s attention. So they can have the coolest, latest, greatest whatever it is. And we as parents are so focused on our own lives and our own determination. That we give in to their desires, because it’s easier and less time consuming than actually telling them no. Or trying to instill in them morals or common values. Better yet what about challenging them to earn it with some kind of chore or other honest means. What kind of kids would we have then? No instead we instill in them that they are entitled to the best that we can afford for them. And that instant gratification is to me what sets them up for failure. What happens to their self esteem or value system when they don’t receive these things? Just another one of those things that makes you say HUM!



So I included all that to say this. No its rediculous ~ your 11 year old should be with their Parent(s). Not somewhere out of pocket so consistantly that they need a constant line of communication such as a cell phone. Parents shouldnt give in to the "well everyone else has one" statement. After who's raising your child? You or everyone else. Telling children no builds responsibity and appreciation for the future blessings and gifts they recieve, As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

Monte'a

Kristi - posted on 03/19/2010

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my 10 year old daughter has a minute phone, but i keep it unless she is staying at a friends or at grammas so she can call or text me or her dad. so basically i would say yes, jus under strict supervision, and i would only do the prepaid or the metro pcs pr revol that is 40 a month for unlimited everything, i know from experience teens and pre teens can run up very large bills.

Stephanie - posted on 03/19/2010

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My 10 1/2 and 11 1/2 daughters have been begging for a year for a cell phone, all their friends have one. I keep telling them, that when they are old enough to drive then they can have a phone. Until then there isn't a need. If they are at their friends houses, they have a house phone, and they don't go anywhere besides school without me anyways. They can't have them at school, and I want to know what they are up to.

Kim - posted on 03/19/2010

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I think if the childs usage is monitored then there are advantages to them havin a phone. I would check their messages ( sorry I know what others say about respecting their privacy but better to be safe than sorry )

Frances - posted on 03/19/2010

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My daughter is 13 and my son is 15 and both of them have cell phones...however, I can set limits on the amount of time they spend texting and talking. I can also set specific times on when they can use the phones. They are good in emergencies and what not but, they can get out of hand in some cases.

Darcie - posted on 03/19/2010

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I got my son a cell phone when he "graduated" from 5th grade, because in the Fall he would be going to Middle School, and I wanted to be able to get a hold of him & vice versa. But there are certain rules he has to follow, etc... He is also fairly mature. But each child,parent & situation is different.

Lisa - posted on 03/19/2010

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my daughter got a a cell phone at that age, there were times that she stayed after school and basketball practice, or softball practice was over and she would call. I do have restrictions on her phone to where it won't let her call out or text after 10:00 pm, but if she is at a freinds house on the weekend or at a school function, i have it to where she can call the trusted numbers which would be her dad, me, brother, or 911. Verizon offeres these features,

Hope - posted on 03/19/2010

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No apologies necessary. I didn't take it that way. I was just saying what you just said. Everyone is different. Anna brought up a good point. We as parents need to look at different things to make a sound decision. How responsible are they with other things? Setting up different times to use the phone. Things like that. If you, or anyone took my post as attacking you, my apologies. :)

Kathy - posted on 03/19/2010

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I wasn't knocking anyone just saying how I might handle a situation. I do agree that there are times when phones are needed, I do agree that all kids are at different responsiblity levels at different ages and also that every family has different expectations. Wasn't trying to put anyone down and I am sorry if it were taken that way.. Again sorry if I offended anyone that wasn't my intention at all.

Anna - posted on 03/19/2010

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It reaaly depends on the maturity of the 11 year old. How responsible is she with other things, such as her toys, the clothes that you have bought her, etc. You could also give it to her with stipulations. For certain times of day and track her usage. Try giving it to her whenever she s away from you, that way you can contact her and she you is there is an emergency. If you find that she is texting or talking at school too much then take it from her and only give it to her when she goes to the mall, But don't give it to her because her friends have one.

Hope - posted on 03/19/2010

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First, every child is different as are their parents. As parents, we set the rules. My daughter got her cell phone at 10. As a single parent, if I was running late to get her, or whatever reason, I could call her. The school turned off their phones the minute the bell rings, so calling the school, though, would have been nice, not an option. It took one time for me of that happening for me to get her a phone. Her phone at that time had the ability that no one could call her unless their number was programmed into the phone. As far as her calling out, she didn't. Now at 13, she's very responsible for her phone. She does not abuse it, I read all of her text messages. I monitor her and the phone very closely. For those of you that say it's too young, that's fine. Don't knock the rest of us for making our choices the way we did. Our reasons are different. Everyone is not the same.

Kathy - posted on 03/19/2010

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I personally don't agree with an 11 yr old having what would be considered their own cphone. i also have an 12 yr old and we have an extra line but she isn't allowed to have her own however there are times that she needs to take the extra one which is deemed (kids phone) for when she is at basketball or softball practice so that when I am running across town between kids practices/games she may contact me telling me that she needs to be picked up. She is not allowed to have it just to sit and be talking to her friends. She may not take it at will as she pleases etc. i personally don't care that others have phones to do that with. A phone of any kind is a privalage not a toy. and thought I get anddo understand as preteens/teenagers we all gabbed like mad on the phone at times I put limitations to how long anyone can speak on the telephone homeline or not. When I was being raised we only had the one telephone line and it was a business and I could call out and accept calls but had to respect that if I were on the phone with friends it was limited and that since that was our only way of hearing from people who would want my g fathers painting services. Maybe you could do something like that within the next year and or even better if she pursues wanting this so bad maybe a prepaid plan would work for you that way she could learn how much it costs money to have this and that she will have to work her behind off to earn money for the min on her phone. That in itself can work well because unless she planned on working for you 24/7 she wouldn't really have enough money to put on this pre paid plan for as often as she would like to talk or chat. Worth a try i would say. Good luck

Kathy - posted on 03/19/2010

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I personally don't agree with an 11 yr old having what would be considered their own cphone. i also have an 12 yr old and we have an extra line but she isn't allowed to have her own however there are times that she needs to take the extra one which is deemed (kids phone) for when she is at basketball or softball practice so that when I am running across town between kids practices/games she may contact me telling me that she needs to be picked up. She is not allowed to have it just to sit and be talking to her friends. She may not take it at will as she pleases etc. i personally don't care that others have phones to do that with. A phone of any kind is a privalage not a toy. and thought I get anddo understand as preteens/teenagers we all gabbed like mad on the phone at times I put limitations to how long anyone can speak on the telephone homeline or not. When I was being raised we only had the one telephone line and it was a business and I could call out and accept calls but had to respect that if I were on the phone with friends it was limited and that since that was our only way of hearing from people who would want my g fathers painting services. Maybe you could do something like that within the next year and or even better if she pursues wanting this so bad maybe a prepaid plan would work for you that way she could learn how much it costs money to have this and that she will have to work her behind off to earn money for the min on her phone. That in itself can work well because unless she planned on working for you 24/7 she wouldn't really have enough money to put on this pre paid plan for as often as she would like to talk or chat. Worth a try i would say. Good luck

Heather - posted on 03/19/2010

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Hi Diana -

I would say that it depends on the maturity of your 11-year-old. My son is going to be thirteen soon, and has a cell phone since he was 9-years -old. He is very responsible with it, never lets anyone of his friends borrow it, he doesn't text and actually only ever usees it to call me, so I can pick him up from his activities. In fact my son uses his phone so little that its almost not worth the nine dollars plus tax per month to keep the phone on my bill. However I would never have him not have a phone, just in case, you never know.

I also have a step daughter who is thirteen and she has a cell phone as well - her phone is not on my plan. She is such a pain in the butt with that phone - she is NOT mature enough to have it - she keeps loosing them and her mother has to keep replaceing phones for her, adn she puts nail poilish and stickers all over her phones. My step daughter constantly has that phone in her hand texting with her friends adn being on facebook (which i do think she is too young for- my kid is not allowed to be on facebook or myspace or any of those type of cites). She tries to text all night after it is well past bed time and has even brought it to the sinner table - I have put a stop to it when she is at our house but there is nothing i can do when she is not with us. If it was up to me, my step daughter would not have a cell phone for a few more years becasue of her immaturity.

So you would have to look at your individual child to determine if she is ready for a phone.



Good luck

Natashia - posted on 03/19/2010

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my daughter was 7 when she got her first cell phone it was the cheapest one i could find, pre-paid of course. She is eleven now and last year she saved her allowance for the year and now she owns a better model then i have....

Kim - posted on 03/19/2010

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My 11 year old, boy, has one. But he got it when I needed him to have it not when he wanted it. He is in middle school and so many times he is out of my reach. I like being able to give him the responsibility and freedom he is longing without having to worry so much. However, many kids his age do abuse the phones. He has been told nothing on his phone is private. We read all of his text messages and it doesn't go to his room with him at night. He hardly ever makes a real call. It's all texting, which is actually easier to monitor. Know your child, know your expectation.

Hermine - posted on 03/18/2010

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Cell phones are a great way to contact your child and for them to contact you incase of an emergency, especially for a working mom. Limit the amount of calls or texts they can make. If your child is responsible, it's not too young.

Candace - posted on 03/18/2010

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Whether or not a child has a phone doesn't say anything about what type of parent we are or that we are TRYING to be "popular". Everyone has different circumstances! What works for you may not work for the rest.

Elaine - posted on 03/18/2010

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Think of it this way...when is she EVER not around an adult who has one she can use if she needs it? I really hope the answer is never. When they are driving they need one. At age 11 (my son is 12) they need to be learning to communicate and develop language skills- not ROTFL w/ her BFF... Just my opinion, but I really hope you hold fast. If more Moms would be Moms instead of trying to be popular with their kids this wouldn't be an issue. Mine know not to ask. Good Luck!!

Candace - posted on 03/18/2010

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My daughter just turned 9 last week, and she has had one for 2 years. It started out for 2 reasons, 1) for her father to be able to call her when he wanted (long story), and 2) emergencies. Hers was on my account and was $20/mo for 100 mins and could call me and anyone with our service carrier for free. When my son came to live back with me, I got him one, too. He has had it just over a year. I monitor what he texts and when he calls his friends. I also get to set the limit as to how many mins they each gets to use out of my plan per month. So that way, they don't go over. They have both been very responsible with their cell phones. My daughter doesn't use it in the same was as my son does, but it's nice to be able to get a hold of him when he's outside with friends. Times really have changed. I remember when one of my parents would just yell my name out the door when it was time to come home, lol. Kind of hard to do from inside an apartment 3 stories high :)

Pam - posted on 03/18/2010

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my 11 year old son has a phone and has had on e for a year and a half. The only reason we bought it was because he was starting sports and was to use it to let us know when to pick him up after practices and games. It has worked very well. He just recently has become more social with it but we have laid down the rules and he knows now that the sports are over if the rules are broken (goes over on texts) the phone will be taken away the rest of the month.

Sonya - posted on 03/18/2010

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depends on the child and circumbstances. Our daughter is 12 and has had one for 3 years. I am divorced from her father. She doesn't have free reign to call whomever she pleases. She may only call who is programmed in her phone and that is the only calls she can recieve. hope that helps.

Michelle - posted on 03/18/2010

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my son had a cell phone and he's 11 years old. It was a pre-paid phone so it was a great value. he was responsible with it maybe 50% of the time, but then he washed his phone. now, he has no phone. I told him he could get a new phone and pay for it with his money and he said no thanks.

Robin - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think you have to look at the individual child. My 10 yr. old boy has a cell phone and does use it to communicate with friends but I got it for him so he could communicate with his dad with out having to go through me. His wife is jealous and that just caused problems. Also, I am a single mom and can't always be where he is ...... Soccer field, church events, basketball practice, his other families home..... So this way I can always get in touch with him. Not all 10 or 11 yr. old go as much as he does and don't need one. My 15 yr. old daughter doesn't go as much as he does. We have a rule that it is not to go to school and he does well with that. Like I said, "It depends on the child".

Ruth - posted on 03/18/2010

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I got my 12 yo dd a prepaid phone several yrs ago because she was starting to venture out with others and she sometimes needed to reach me. I put lots of minutes on it to make sure that she always had enough to call me. I monitored who she called and who she texted. With over 800 minutes on it, she washed it and then tried to turn it on before telling me. I was able to recover about 200 minutes for her second phone, which she washed again. We did all the steps to dry it, but it never worked. Luckily, we were able to salvage all of the minutes. She bought the third phone which was so cheap it wouldn't lock. It kept dialing up the internet and she eventually lost her minutes. So now she has NO phone. I still worry about her because all adults are not responsible. But we homeschool and she is usually with me, so she will just have to deal with it. Once she saves up the money for a decent phone and minutes, she is more than welcome to buy it. In the meantime, she can usually find someone's phone to use.

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We have a prepaid cell phone, that I keep miniutes on for our 11 year old. So if she goes out in the neighborhood to play, I can call her hom,e or she can call me to say she is going from this house to that house etc. She takes it with her on sleepovers, so she can call me when ever she wants or needs to. When we go out someplace like the mall or where ever, I usually have her constantly with me, but I give it to her Just in case. I keep the phone,until she needs it. I retrieve the phone at the end of the day or event. I tried letting her keep it & she used up $25.00 worht of miniutes texting in 2 days. It was a test to see if she could handle the responsibility of it. every child is diffrent & every situation is diffrent. If you don't feel your child needs a phone, then don't get it. They grow up fast enough. They will not be shunned by thier piers, & belive me she will NOT be the ONLY 11 year old without a cell phone, regardless of what they tell you. We are the parents We have the final say. They may not like it but, WE are looking out for thier best intrest. If you feel the need to spend $25- $50 a month, put it in a savings account for her, or a college fund :D

Patricia - posted on 03/18/2010

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All I can do is share my experience...while other children my daughter's age at that time (11, she is now 13) did have cell phones, we held out and did not allow her to get a phone until she was 13. Her stepfather bought her a phone for her birthday, one of those pay as you go phones, and she was told she was responsible for paying the bill, although I have helped twice. Now, the phone is LOST. She's lost the phone, and I know that at 11 it would have been lost even sooner.



We took the position that an 11 year old does not need a cell phone, because they aren't really going anywhere on their own that they would need a phone. If your 11 year old goes places where she is on her own, for example if she travels on her own to see a parent, perhaps there is a reason, but not for day-to-day use. I am now thinking 13 is too young.



Good luck - stick to your guns if you really don't think she needs one. Give her a specific date she can get one that she can look forward to, so the questions doesn't constantly come up.

Laura - posted on 03/18/2010

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I have 5 boys in my house and the older ones had prepaid when they hit 6th grade about 12. They only used them when they wold be in an afterschool program to say to come get them. I now have a son who had one he just turned 11 and he is only allowed to have it if he is going to a friends house, or like baseball practice and such. He has been told its not to be used to talk while in the house that is why we have a phone. The one he has now is on our plan so that is why we limit his time. He does not have texting or anything on it just able to dial out and receive calls. When he shows that he is responsible then we may add texting. My older sons learned it at this age and never went over the limits now they have unlimited texting and shared minutes. You need to determine if she is responsible enough to have one.

Terralyn - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think there are a lot of factors involved in the answer to this question. Some 11 year olds are very mature and definately old enough for a cell phone some aren't. I am a single mom and I have 3 kids the youngest has special needs so my oldest got a cell phone at 11 because she was walking her siblings to and from school and i needed to know they were safe. I won't go into all the issues that could have come up with making sure a special needs sibling got to and from school safely but in my case it was the right thing to do. She is now 17 and has never abused the privilage of having a cell phone. If you have the luxury of being able to get your kids to and from school safely and there is no reason other than she wants to have a cell phone then it is fair to say she can have one when she is old enough to pay for it, if there are safety issues involved as there were in my case you can't put a price on your child's safety so you go ahead and get her the cell. There is no right answer to this question. It really depends on your family situation. only you know what that is so really you have to weigh the pros and cons and make that decision based on your family dynamics.

Kari - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it depends on what your situation is. If they are walking to school or away from you for certain reasons then I think it would be a good idea. I have an 11 year old and have not gotten him a phone yet but he is always with me, at school where he has access to a phone or with friends whose parents I completely trust and can reach. I know though when I get him a phone I won't be worried about some of the dangers of having a phone. Such as sexting, cyberbullying, texting while driving, etc. I found a software that will alert me whenever any of this might happen.

Raneesha - posted on 03/18/2010

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I believe it depends on the situation, if the child is mature enough and trustworthy I don't see it as being a problem. I myself don't have a house phone so therefore I did purchase a cell phone for my 11 yr old daughter (she will be 12 on sunday) in order to make sure that I am in contact with her at all times...seeing as how I leave for work 30 min before she leaves for school and she gets home before I make it home from work. So in this case I think it's acceptable. Although I do monitor her calls as well as her text messages.

Rebecca - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it would depend on the situation and whether you feel your child is responsible or not. I started my son out with a prepaid phone first and when he could show me that he wouldn't lose it or miss use it we added him to our plan and now the cell phone companys have options to control usage and who they call so that you don't have to worrry about them going over your plan usage.. also another nice thing is that now a days the phones have GPS locators in them another thing to think about... it has made it easier for us to get ahold of him when he's at his dads or a friends...

Collette - posted on 03/18/2010

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I got my daughter a cell phone when she was 10 and in 4th grade. She was responsible for taking her brother to baseball practice after school. School got out at 3 and practice was at 3:45. They were there on a side of town that they didn't know any body and the field is down by the river and I Felt safer knowing that if something were to happen that they had a way to get ahold of a safe adult.

Paula - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it depends on the situation. Our son began high school in grade 7, so, we got him a cell phone with a very basic plan, with my number and my husbands number on it just so if he missed the bus, or wanted to try out for sports teams, or had group projects he needed to stay behind for, he could always get a hold of us. We was not able to call his friends on it though until earlier this year, when he turned 13.

Bronwyn - posted on 03/18/2010

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My son has a cellphone which has not features - no camera,no games, no internet. He knows the phone is used for emergencies or when he goes out a party he calls me when he wants to get home. My kids awalk home form school so it is necessary me to be in contact with him.

Nanette - posted on 03/17/2010

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My son has one. The only thing he really uses it for is the MP3 part of it. Sure there is texting going on but we keep an eye on it. Our plan allows us to monitor his texts and calls and when he is in trouble we may limit who he contacts. They of course feel free to have one and you still can control what and where they go with it.

Tammy - posted on 03/17/2010

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If it is just to talk to her friends then I would say no to my kids. My kids have other reasons for having a cell phone. More for convenience for me and piece of mind.

Evelyn - posted on 03/17/2010

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Does she go anywhere by herself with friends. My 11 year old son travels to and from school by himself. I have a cellphone that the children use if they are out without me. That way I know they're safe

Angel Jude - posted on 03/17/2010

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You can give her one when she has to be away from you, that is to ensure if she is safe.... otherwise at this age its not essential to have a cell phone.

Tammy - posted on 03/17/2010

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I think this is on a per child basis. My 11 and 12yo both have their own cell phone. We do not have a landline phone at our home any more. They both have after school activities and plans change on a daily basis. I feel better if I know they have a way of getting ahold of someone should those plans change.



Take for example one day last week. I picked up my 12yo from school for a doctor appointment. My 11yo had practice scheduled so he wanted to walk home to get his homework done prior to practice. Half way home, the friend that he was walking with was picked up by his grandmother. Which left my son to walk alone the rest of the way home. One block ahead of him was a group of kids that have been known to cause problems in the past. The police dept is usually up and down our street at school closing to contain the problems. My son did not feel safe continuing walking alone. He called my father who was available to pick him up within minutes right where he was. He was able to text me at the doctors office to tell me that he was at grandpas doing his homework and he was able to text his coach that he was going to be a few minutes late to practice.



We have rules for their phones. They are turned off and given to me every night at 9pm. I make sure they are charged overnight in the kitchen and they pack them in their backpacks in the morning before leaving for school. They know that any backtalk or abuse of their privledges will mean immediate removal of the phone and they will be responsible for their change in plans.



I have the right to look at their cell phones whenever I want to make sure that only legit people are being called and text messages are being used appropriately.



Like I said at the beginning, it is an individual choice and just depends on the family situation.

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I'm thinking about letting my son (almost 13) get a cell phone soon but just for texting. I think the Jury is still out on cell phones and brain tumors but you may want to take this into consideration ....

Dr. Lennart Hardell, an oncologist from University Hospital in Sweden, found that after one or more years of cell phone use, the risk of brain cancer in people who begin using mobile phones before they turn 20 is 5.2 times greater than for the general population. For people who begin using mobile phones later in life, the risk of a malignant brain tumor is 1.4 times greater.

Christine - posted on 03/17/2010

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This is a tough topic, I have a 10 year old and we will be getting her a cell phone for her birthday...I feel that is a good age because they are at a point where they want to start going to visit friends and this way you can talk directly to them and If the parents are divorced you just have to speak to the child and avoid speaking to the other parent

Christina - posted on 03/17/2010

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Here's a worry about cell phones. Sexting. How many of us have heard of that one? If you have a middle school or high school child, you've heard of it. Sexting is both sending illicit texts to kids of the opposite gender and pixing (sending pictures) of a pornographic nature. There's some food for thought. That's why the Trac phone doesn't have a camera and the Verizon phone can't send or receive text or picture messages.

Jeri - posted on 03/17/2010

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BTW - do you think they say anything in a text that they wouldn't say at school to their friends? All kids that age are exploring adult themes to some extent. You can monitor their texts even if you can't read them by looking at the bill on-line. We have a family plan with added text feature (1,500/month) and my son went over it once - I made him pay the overage and he monitors it himself now. Teach your kids - don't jail them.

Crystal - posted on 03/17/2010

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Does anyone else remember being 11? When we were kids, there were no cell phones, just land-lines. Did anyone out there have to have "special" privileges to use the home phone? 10 - 11 is the cusp of the social life, that's the age when we all start talking on the phone and becoming more phone savvy and far more social not to mention far more critical and far more self-conscious about fitting in . Times have changed, having a cell phone these days is no different than having a CD player in the 90's. I'm not generally one to go w/the "everyone is doing it" mentality but seriously, how many kids you know have them now? It hasn't created the end of the world and doesn't seem to be creating any other kind of world chaos so I think everyone should really ease up on the subject. My daughter is almost 12 and has had one since her 10th birthday. She is quite responsible with it. We have unlimited talk, text, pics and long-distance on our plan so we don't have the minutes issues but to each her own on that one. I think it is a really great idea to have your child pay for the actually phone them self as this creates more respect and responsibility. In addition, the phone can be used as a tool to encourage/reward/discipline your kids. If they do well in school more minutes, add texting, etc. If they get attitude or act like a jerk, they loose it. Think about it, do you really want all of YOUR minutes being used to talk about what boy likes what girl or who wore what to school today? People need to give there kids a little more respect and a little space to grow. If you don't trust your child to talk on a cell phone because you are not right there with them or text because you can not monitor what is being said, you have bigger issues than a cell phone... Trust that you have raised your children to make good choices thus far or worry more about parenting than the latest gadgets.

Kimberley - posted on 03/17/2010

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Too young, my son wants one for his 11th birthday (yet he still plays with transformers...geeze don't tell him I said it out loud he'll kill me!) They all want to grow up so quickly...did you need a cell phone at 11? me either.

Jeri - posted on 03/17/2010

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I gave my son a cell phone a month before the end of 5th grade as he was going to middle school in the fall and none of his friends would be at the same school. He spent the last month of the school year (with supervision) collecting cell and home phone numbers of all his friends and generally getting over the new toy rush. It has been a great tool during 6th, and now 7th, grade. He can keep in touch with me, confirm he is on the bus, text his friends and arrange his social calendar. He does a lot of group projects for school and the kids come from all over so they make their own plans regarding study time etc. It's a great tool when used responsibly. I say, if your circumstances will warrent it in the foreseeable future there is no problem letting them feel spoiled by giving it to them a little before the real need sets in. Beacause in this world they WILL need it. You don't always have to be the tough guy!

Crystal - posted on 03/17/2010

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Does anyone else remember being 11? When we were kids, there were no cell phones, just land-lines. Did anyone out there have to have "special" privileges to use the home phone? 10 - 11 is the cusp of the social life, that's the age when we all start talking on the phone and becoming more phone savvy and far more social not to mention far more critical and far more self-conscious about fitting in . Times have changed, having a cell phone these days is no different than having a CD player in the 90's. I'm not generally one to go w/the "everyone is doing it" mentality but seriously, how many kids you know have them now? It hasn't created the end of the world and doesn't seem to be creating any other kind of world chaos so I think everyone should really ease up on the subject. My daughter is almost 12 and has had one since her 10th birthday. She is quite responsible with it. We have unlimited talk, text, pics and long-distance on our plan so we don't have the minutes issues but to each her own on that one. I think it is a really great idea to have your child pay for the actually phone them self as this creates more respect and responsibility. In addition, the phone can be used as a tool to encourage/reward/discipline your kids. If they do well in school more minutes, add texting, etc. If they get attitude or act like a jerk, they loose it. Think about it, do you really want all of YOUR minutes being used to talk about what boy likes what girl or who wore what to school today? People need to give there kids a little more respect and a little space to grow. If you don't trust your child to talk on a cell phone because you are not right there with them or text because you can not monitor what is being said, you have bigger issues than a cell phone... Trust that you have raised your children to make good choices thus far or worry more about parenting than the latest gadgets.

Kimberly - posted on 04/26/2010

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I think 11 years old is too young to have a cell phone but I'm thinking of having one for when my kids are out biking or Boy Scout camping and times like that.

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2010

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My daughter is 11 years old and she has a cell phone. I finally allowed her to have one because she walks quite a distance to school and walks to visit friends in our neighbourhood. It was mostly a safety concern on my part. Her dad got her a used phone that didn't cost much and I paid to activate it. Its on a pay as you go plan and she pays for her own time out of the money she earns from her paper route. I don't think putting an 11 year old on a regular cell plan is a wise decision. They need to learn more responsibility first.

Maikki - posted on 04/14/2010

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i think we as mothers need to get with the times. My 11 year old has a cell phone. She knows her limits and sticks to them. plus with a lot of plans you can track usage online. why not? why do you think they are too young? Every child is different in maturity level. I believe there is nothing wrong with it!

Lydia - posted on 04/13/2010

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My niece wanted a cell phone at 11 years old and my sister made her write a paper on logical reasons why she needed one (no because my friends all have them.) She also has strict rules and sticks by them.



Our oldest just turn 11 years old and we are discussing getting him a cell phone this fall when he goes to middle school but we have told him he has to prove his maturity. Do what he is told, clean up after himself, getting up and ready for school on his own, being responsible for his school work, and the respect. He has clearly shown improvements in all areas, slowly but there. Of course he will also have to continue doing these thing to keep a cell too.

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