Lisa - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
My daughter has a bad cold that she came down with last week. She came home early from school last week (Monday) because she wasn't feeling good and I figured she was getting a cold. I made her go to school Tuesday and Wednesday. They had Thursday and Friday off and she went to a church youth winter camp from Thursday night to Sunday. She came home hungry and tired and still with the cold but had lots of fun. She wasn't complaining about being sick. This past Monday and Tuesday she started complaining about the cold. I let her skip after school extra-curriculars let her stay home Wednesday. After coughing a lot during the night, this morning she is crying she feels really bad and doesn't want to go to school. I check her temperature and its normal. I check her throat, it looks a little red but not bad. She is not acting like she is having trouble breathing. I am going to college and have classes today from 1:00 to 8:00. My husband works from 6:30 in the morning and doesn't leave until 5:30 even though his work hours are only supposed to be 8:00 to 5:00 (he's a work-a-holic). I tell my daughter that she isn't seriously ill and she can't afford to miss anymore school (she falls way behind and her grades drop dramatically whenever she is sick and stays home from school). I really can't afford to not go to my classes and fall behind either. My husband can't (won't) leave work. I told her she can't be left home sick for 5 or 6 hours by herself and she would have to tough it out and go to school and then to swim practice after school, so that she is supervised until her daddy can pick her up from school. I have to tell her sternly because she is one of those kids that doesn't know when to quit. I know she isn't feeling great. Colds do make you feel bad but I feel guilty about making her go to school, especially since she is so dramatic about not feeling good. At the same time, I want her to learn that you don't stay home and watch TV for several days, get behind in school, and make others have to stay home from their responsibilities unless you absolutely need to. Am I doing the right thing?