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Stepson and husband can't play games

Anna - posted on 11/02/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 10-year old stepson and husband have recently started to play an XBOX 360 game together and my stepson gets very frustrated that his father beats him so badly and then my husband gets frustrated that my stepson won't listen to what he's trying to teach him. I feel as though they shouldn't play any games that creates this sort of tension. If I ask my husband something during their game he's tense and his tone of voice is not one I'm happy with. I don't see the benefit with this game playing and I think my husband wants to keep doing it so that he has someone to play with and thinks my stepson needs life lessons like these to "not give up in the face of adversity," etc. etc. I'd love some womenly advice on this issue! It has been the same for other games and I have to say I think my stepson gets his competitiveness from his father but if I mention that to my husband he would definitely deny it.

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Holly - posted on 11/13/2008

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My husband and 10 year old stepson play a ton of PS3. I, too, think DH uses SS as an excuse to play games (which is aggravating when trying to limit how much SS plays). SS is very competitive as well. Usually the games are light hearted competitiveness, but not always. I think it's good that your husband doesn't *let* his son win - that is a good lesson. But I have seen similar stuff with my SS when he doesn't want to listen to what his dad has to say or teach him.

If you feel it's your husband's approach to the "teaching", then I'd talk to him about it and see if he could maybe approach it differently. If it's mainly stubbornness from your SS (which is usually the case in my house), then I'd just say "Look - if you want to beat your dad, listen to his suggestions. If you want to keep losing, then fine - don't listen". It's not very nice, but it's the facts. I tend to be the blunt one in our household and give my SS a lot of this unsolicited direct advice!

Gwen - posted on 11/04/2008

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sounds like it's gone beyond "playing a game" with the two of them. I agree that maybe this game isn't exactly building a healthy competitiveness in either one of 'em! And yeah, hubby is probably using SS as an excuse so he can play a video game!



Can you 'lose' the game? or maybe it accidentally got left out and the dog chewed on it????

sorry, that probably wasn't helpful. Although, IMO you aren't gonna learn any life lessons from playing a video game. Can you convince them to play a board game instead? or a different video game that hubby won't be so competative at? Honestly, I'm betting that if you give SS a good alternative, he'll jump on it as a way to avoid feeling like crap when his father trounces him.

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