Pat - posted on 04/21/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
Our son is nearing high school graduation (we hope!) I can't remember a time in his life that he actually completed an assignment on time. From a very early age he has always been extremely bright but "different" in a way that few have been able to "put thier finger on." We've had him thoroughly tested by a neuropsychologist. She claims he's not ADD and has learning differences that should be easilly overcome - slow processing. Through the years we've tried everything...IEP in middle school which he hated and rebelled against anyone trying to help or coach him, ADD meds which didn't seem to help, depression meds (after diagnosis from aforementioned psycholgist) which he took so inconsistantly it's hard to know if they helped. He "secretly" weaned himself off of them because he didn't like how they made him feel. He seems to "come alive" at night - it's when he's most productive - but sleeps most of the day. Has trouble getting to school or anything else on time. He's in the last weeks of his senior year at high school. We're concerned he's so behind he may not graduate. He's very bright. He can hold his own in adult conversation about world issues, etc. Yes..he spends too much time on the internet. He has few if any friends. Doesn't go out with peers. Isn't interested in driving. Doesn't exercise. We've tried everything from sending him on a NOLS course for a month in Alaska last summer (which he claimed to really like) to begging him to get couseling - which he absolutely rejects. He is very shut down. He's a good kid, though. Doesn't get into trouble. Isn't doing drugs. Doesn't drink. All we can think of to do is tell him if he fails to graduate he'll have to get his GED and a job...otherwise....he's out! I envision him homeless, standing on the highway with a cardboard sign! It's pretty boring at home these days...his sister is away at college. His father and I work full time. We're considering taking away the laptop after school is out - since it belongs to US - and telling him he needs to work to make money to buy his OWN laptop and can't use the excuse anymore that he "needs" it for schoolwork...which he isn't finishing anyway! I'm rambling. We've tried everything...we're good, stable parents. I'm at a total loss. Any advice?