what age should you let your child have a girlfriend/boyfriend?

Patricia. - posted on 04/05/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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I just found out that my son age 14 in high school has a girlfriend. My son and I had a discussion last year about him having a girlfriend since I noticed that a lot of his friends were having girlfriends. I expressed my thoughts about the subject and that is he was not allowed to have a girlfriend at the age of 14. Although his friends may be having girlfriends he is not mature and responsible enough to be having one. I said to him that he should enjoy his freshman year and maybe in his sophomore we can talk about it. He is gone this weekend on a teen river trip so I haven't had the chance to confront him for disobeying my rule and also for lying.

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Lewis - posted on 05/31/2013

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Hi


I think you can have a boyfriend/girlfriend at 8 or over

Josselyn - posted on 10/12/2012

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I think once you are about 14 dating is normal and finee.

Louisa - posted on 06/02/2013

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I was the same with my son (Now 16) I hated the thought of him having a girlfriend, I didn't know what to do, as he was my first, I sat him down with his father and we discussed everything when he was 14. I still didn't like it but when I met his girlfriend she was lovely and I knew there was nothing to worry about.

Athena - posted on 01/25/2014

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I'm not a mom I'm 21 I'm an older sister but my younger 13year old sister lives with me she didn't like my moms rules and honestly I didn't either I was forced to grow up on my own my mom told my sister she couldn't date until she was 18!! She told me the same thing so my sister asked to live with me I allow my sister to date because if I didn't I knew she would be sneaking him around just like I did when I was her age. my sister knows I have to meet him and his parents I do let them in her room but they have to leave the door open I do let them out on dates but once in a while ill come with them ever since then she's been better betterbgrades and she's more happy

If you don't give them a reasonable age they will do it behind your back!!! We
have to admit kids will start dating as early as 5th grade even earlier our decision should also be made by knowledge!!!!

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Drew - posted on 07/28/2014

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I think child start to love at the age of 10 but he or she might get a girlfriend or boyfriend at the age of 13 or 14. But just boyfriend or girlfriend not getting into sex.

User - posted on 07/04/2014

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yes i had a boy friend and we only kiss and r were going 2 do sx thank god we stop i love him

Celeste - posted on 03/23/2014

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This thread is about 5 years old.

Anyway, honestly wouldn't mind if my 11 year old daughter had a boyfriend, with limitations of course. Fortunately she has no interest in boys

And yes, I know that kids sneak around. This isn't new. I snuck around and I'm betting my mom did too because she usually found out where I was and busted me lol

Carly - posted on 03/22/2014

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This doesn't exist. Kids these days usually don't care anymore if you do or do not let them have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Usually when you do that, they sneak behind your back

Robert - posted on 02/19/2014

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What the heck. Im 12 and I have a girlfriend. We don't kiss or anything like that though

Im Not Telling My - posted on 02/06/2014

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im actulley a guy but let your son have a girl, he wont do anything bad

Nyonzima - posted on 11/17/2013

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I am 14 years old and I got girlfriend and I think that you should get girlfriend/boyfriend when you become a teenager

Lewis - posted on 06/02/2013

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I have got a girlfriend and its our secret not to tell anyone

Charles - posted on 05/31/2013

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Well you sound like a great mom but you might not want to confront him because if the girls parents are ok with it it will hurt her feelings and may damage his social life

Cheryl - posted on 12/21/2012

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At this age I think he can date because at that age they shouldn't be doing anything bad like sex but he just wants to be recognized at the fact her has a girlfriend he's not going to be your baby boy forever you gotta let go as long as he's not pressured to do anything it's all good now chill out and have a nice conversation with him hun

Margaret - posted on 10/12/2012

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my daughter is nearly 13 and has told me she has a boyfriend at the new school she started . they dont meet out side school so i am not sure to worrie or not

Patricia. - posted on 08/09/2012

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son now 18 in two weeks and no girlfriend. he loves hanging out with all his friends. most of his friends come and I know most of them girls n boys. you have to know who your kids friends are and that has to be established at the age of pre-teens because once they become teens they will fight u on who they want you to meet. you know, the awareness age...Wow, my baby is going to be 18yrs old in 2 weeks!..yikes!

Maria - posted on 04/27/2009

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That's a tough one! I still believe that at high school, they still don't know what they want. They change girlfriends/boyfriends as fast as they change their clothes! My oldest son never told us he had a girlfriend at 14 until they broke up and I had to find out through his brother! So, my husband and I talked him straight. My youngest, on the other hand, tells me when he likes a girl, and he does, now that he's 16. Although my husband and I have a different point of view, we agree that high school is not the time to take a relationship seriously, specially when you have dreams of pursuing college and a career. Until you get your self stable and with a job, then everything else follows.

Patricia. - posted on 04/09/2009

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well!..I had the chance to sit down and chat with son...well, according to son there was no label as girlgriend/boyfriend. he said that the girl said she likes him n son said I like you so the two just started chatting by IM, on the phone, family or church activities but were were never alone...I talked with girl and she confirmed it...Basically, the two kids both have interest in one another but since the two are not allowed to to have a girlfriend/boyfriend they didn't say anything to the parents..Dev still can't have a girlfriend!....Thank you Melanie and Tonya for commenting.

Tonija - posted on 04/05/2009

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well tricia how are you when I was coming up we couldn't date until we were sixteen and even then my younger sister had to tag along on my outings, but times have changed and kids are smarter and more mature or at least some children are. Your son also has to realize that he cant do what his friends do, if they jump in the river will he jump in the river too.

Melanie - posted on 04/05/2009

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Hi,



I think this question is going to be different for everyone. My husband and I tell our girls that if they are not old enough to hold down a job and support themselves then they are far to young to date. We have 3 girls, we have also told our girls that any guy that wants to take them out MUST be man enough to ask their fathers permission. Our 18yr old doesn't date because her whole life we have told her that she is a princess and that she will be treated with respect and to have high standards. Our younger two have been told the same 14 & 10. When they can move out and support themselves then they just may be mature enough to "hold" someone else's heart in their hands. I will pray for your family and that he will come "clean" with you.




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