What time should kids go to bed?

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Specifically, what time should an 11 year old go to bed? Up until recently my 11yr old was going to bed at 8.30pm on a school night until i mentioned this to a friend and she said this is way to early for a 11yr old! Her 11yr old goes to bed whenever she wants. Another friend says 8.30 is too early, he should be going at 9.30. My son says all his friends at school go at 10pm. But i worry that hes not getting enough sleep for school I don't mind at weekends,how much sleep do 11yr olds need?? What time should kids go to bed?

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Belle - posted on 12/18/2013

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12 year old - 9:30-10
6-8 year old - 8:30 ish
8-11 year old - 9:00
13 year old - 10:30-11:30
That's kind of an idea of what time most kids where I live go to bed at.

Lunakid - posted on 05/14/2013

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im 13 but i decide to go to bed earlier then my mum says im alloud to i go around 8 30 and get up at 6 45 to 7 i think this is good because when i started to go earlier i got better grades and i became more behaved and my taekwondo skills developed better :) hoped this helped x

Suzanne - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have two boys, 10 and soon to be 13. Bedtime for them both is 8:30pm because they share a room. We start the process at 8pm and more nights than not they are fully asleep by 9pm. Most mornings they are up at 6am, on their own, ready to take on the day. There are times they'll sleep in and I have to wake them at 7am to get ready for school. So I think the bedtime is working for their bodies, minds and soul. We've figured out what time our kids should go to bed. They can stay up as late as they want to on the weekends...rule is they have to keep it quiet after 10pm and turn off anything left on before falling asleep. Usually they'll both be asleep by 11pm. I like the earlier bedtime not only for what it does for the boys, but also that it gives me and hubby at least an hour of uninterrupted time together.

Kayla Anne - posted on 06/02/2013

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your 11 year old should get exactly 8 hours of sleep. my kid is 10, and she goes to bed at 9:00 and wakes up at six. so if your 11 year old keeps going to bed at 8:30, he should be able to wake up at about 4:00.

Lisa - posted on 07/19/2013

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My child is 10 years old and she goes to sleep at 8:30-9:30 and gets up at 5:30 no problem ill be in the shower and she will be up with her bag packed hair done and eating breakfast

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Lisa - posted on 07/02/2014

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I think it should be when ever he gets tiered my 11 year old lays in her bed watching tv until she gets tiered then turns it off around 10:30 I think it is ok because when kids are tiered they always sleep better last night brooke went to bed at 11:30 and woke up at 10:15 my point is an eleven year old should go to bed at 10:30 my other daughter is 4 and goes to bed at 8:30 and weekends 9:00

Bonnie - posted on 06/27/2014

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Besides kids' sleep-wake cycles, another thing you need to think about is time to yourself. If you want your kids to go to bed at 8:30, it's your right. If you want him to stay up until 10 or 11, again, that's your right. No other parent knows you or your kids' situation(s), and they don't get to decide what is "way too early" or "way too late." Every parent has a different opinion about how to raise kids, but really they only know what's best for THEIR kid(s).

Juliet - posted on 06/14/2014

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I'm 13 and I, myself , don't need a lot of sleep. I got to bed at around1:00 am and wake up at around 6:50. But I have friends that can't function without at least 9 hours of sleep. Everyone is diffrent.

Celeste - posted on 03/16/2014

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It depends on a lot of factors, like what time they get up in the morning. My daughter has to be on the bus by 7 am so I usually have her go to bed around 8:30.

On a side note, why are there kids on this forum?? I have an 11 year old and wouldn't be pleased if I found her on a forum for mothers

Kaylee Jaye - posted on 03/16/2014

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I'm am 11/12 in June I go to bed at 10:00-10:30 and wake up at 6:30-7:00 and I'm not tied. I personally think 8:00-8:30 is to early 8:30-9:00 is a bit better 9:00-9:30 is alright because I can't go to bed to early because it makes me feel lazy and tied
Hope this helps

Madison - posted on 03/03/2014

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Well I am 12 turning 13 in October and my mum sends me my 10 year old brother and 9 year old sister to bed at 8 and lights out at 8:30 which I hate because I'm nearly a teenager and all my friends are going to bed at 10-10:30 so when it's lights out I go on my ipod talk to my friends till when I get tired which is between 10:00-10:30 normal time for my age I think my mums to strict on bed time for my age and she would even let me have a mobile phone. Also my friend has real bad sleeping proplems and she gets 1 hour of sleep a night and over the last three days she has had heaps of sleeping tablets but they don't work is there anyother ways my friend can get to sleep??

Kiki - posted on 02/25/2014

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I'm years old and I usually go to sleep at 10:00 and wake up at 7:30. I get great grades, but I do have trouble waking up in the morning. Sometimes I go to bed later or earlier, depending on the amount of homework I have.

12 Yr Old - posted on 02/11/2014

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I'm 12 and usually the TV goes off at 8:30-9 and then reading till 9:30 I get excellent grades so I think it is working!

Mathias - posted on 02/05/2014

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Thank, I will try talking with them and will tell the result after and yes I do wake up vey early@Whitney Hicks

Whitney - posted on 01/31/2014

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well honestly i would talk to my parents and like you said your older brother has differences between you and him and he's 2 years older give them the example of minus a half year in-between you and your younger brother and how it was like with you and your older bro. . Also 8:00-8:30 is really early for a 12 year old. It makes the body want to stay at rest and since your suppose to sleep 8 hours a night you probably wake up in the middle of the night.
@Mathias Rosier

Mathias - posted on 01/31/2014

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My problem is that I'm 12 years boy(almost 13) with excellent grade and that I always had the same thing as my 10 years old brother who has bad note in class had always the same privilege as me compared to me to my 14 years brother who always had more privilege
Ex: I sleep at 8:00-8:30 because of my parents and my little brother also sleep a that time. I had a email recently and then 2 months later he has one and the difference of time between me and my brother was a year and half. Also I don't want to share a bedroom with my little brother( not that I hate him) but that I want to separate myself from him (privilege) not relationship
(We have a very good relationship) so when I had a iPod touch last chrismas I was very happy. I still d'ont understand why my parents put him and me in the same pack
Ps. My little brother and big brother birthday are separate by 3 day and both are separate to me by 1 year and a half

Also it is not the time I sleep that is the problem, it is that it is the same time for my little brother

Whitney - posted on 01/30/2014

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I'm 11 I am in bed @ 10:00 but don't sleep till 10:30 and wake up at 5:35 then again by myself at 6:10 it helps to set an alarm like 30 mins earlier than your gonna wake up because your body will wake you up responsively cause we all like a little extra time it's like tricking yourself but it works i'm the only one fully awake in the morning and am down stairs in 15-20 min

Christina - posted on 01/16/2014

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Every child is different of course but every study out there says that a child that age need at least 10 hours of sleep.
Adults need 8 hours only. The child's brain develops during night time. My oldest is just turning 12 and if she gets 8 hours only she will be cranky and very tired. 8:00 Is a perfect time.

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2013

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my 4 year old nice sleeps at 9 and wakes up at 7 am sometimes in week days when friends come over she sleeps at 11 pm and wakes up at 9 and has a nap in the after noon for pre-k the next day

Laura - posted on 11/20/2013

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i think that 7:00pm for a 10 year old is to early my daughter 10 and she goes at 8:30-9

Heather - posted on 11/18/2013

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Also, my 4 yr old twins go to sleep around 6pm in the winter and 7pm in the summer. Early bed time started at 5 months and gave me sanity because it helped them sleep through the night. Sleep research shows that early bedtimes aid in deeper, healthier sleep! Twin Mommies that have discovered this truth will tell you it saved their sanity! LOL

Heather - posted on 11/18/2013

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Sleep specialists recommend that children of 1 yr get about 14.5 hrs total, 2 yrs is 14, 3 yrs is 12.5-13.5 hrs, 4 yrs is 12 hrs, 5 yrs is 11 hours, 6-12 yrs old is about 9-10 hours, and teens need 8-9 hrs. If your child is sleeping well, let them go to bed early. Your body releases the hormone Melatonin and that is probably aiding them in going to sleep without getting over tired. If they weren't sleepy at 8:30, they would not be going to sleep. Do what works! Children that tend to have later bed times have a harder time sleeping because the hormone Cortisol is released causing stress on the brain.

Debbie - posted on 11/16/2013

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My daughter just turned 12 and her bedtime is at 8:30 on weeknights and 9pm on most weekends. She wanted it changed due to age but I told her that it's not calculated by age. It's calculated by need. If I see that she wakes up easily and is getting enough sleep then I'd make it later. The problem is it's really hard to wake her up and she seems really tired in the morning is it hasn't been changed.

Kyla - posted on 11/15/2013

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Around 9pm For 10yrs to 12yrs
Around 10.15pm For 12 to 14
Around 11pm For 14 to 15 year olds
Around 11.45pm For 15 to 18 year olds
Around 12.15pm For 18 20 year olds

Amiee - posted on 11/14/2013

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I'm 14 and 9.30's the time I go to bed. It keeps me fresh and although sometimes I go to bed later, and 11 year old's bedtime should be around 8.30. It does vary person to person, I sleep a lot but some people find it easier to sleep less.

Samara - posted on 11/10/2013

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My 10 yr old son goes up at 8pm to get ready for bed and he has to be in bed by 8:30 but can read (in bed) till 9pm when it's lights out.
In all honesty, I wish I had begun this routine 30 mins earlier because I do think that kids need more sleep during the night that they get, especially in these middle school & high school years with more school demands & more social stresses. They say at 10-11hrs of sleep is needed so it depends on what time your kids need to get up. I usually want mine up at least an hour before they have to leave for school so they have time to wake up & eat before they go off for the day so they are getting to school half asleep still.

Jenny - posted on 10/18/2013

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my son has to go to bed at 830 but he can stay up if he cant sleep but only read a book and i would tell you that you know ur son, every kid is different my son has to have more sleep or he will not do good in school, you dont know how these other kids r doing in school and you still ur kid i was told 8-11 hours of sleep for a good day i wouldnt think to much into what others think or say about what time you should but him to sleep

Emilia - posted on 10/18/2013

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My daughter gets up at 6:45 and goes to bed at 9 to 9:30 each night depending on her homework load and if we can convince her to stop reading.., lol!

Lizzy Roes - posted on 10/17/2013

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I am 19 and don't have any kids but it really depends on what time they get up at but anywhere bewteen 8:30 and 9:30 sounds about right

Samather - posted on 10/09/2013

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I'm 18 now but my mum used to put us (my older and younger sisters) to bed by 7:30 when we were still babies and small kids under the age of five, i don't know when it changed to 8:30 but i think it was around year five and six in primary school.
Then when i turned fifteen it was 9:30 then after i between sixteen and seventeen i got to stay up as long as i wanted, if i got up in the morning for school.
I did find unfair with my older sisters because they got to stay up later because they were older but if i think about it now, what she did was the right thing.
I mean i hated it but i never could stay awake until 10:30, because mum had put our bodies into a sleeping pattern. 8:30 is a good time for an 11yr old to go to bed...

Michele - posted on 10/06/2013

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I'm 13 and I wake up at 7 and I go to bed at 1am. I used to go to bed at 3am when school started but now I go to bed earlier. I think people who go to bed earlier than 11 are crazy. I get enough sleep.

Natalie - posted on 09/17/2013

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Im a kid and I'm ten I wake up at 730 and am asleep by 11 it works fine for me

Kelly - posted on 09/04/2013

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The only way to know is to test it, i have an 11yr old too, and for her 10 is too late ..is your child a morning person if so its prob ok but if there not you could be headed for a whole lotta crankyness and lates.. i really think it depends on the child, what works with there freinds isnt always gonna work with them.

Michelle - posted on 09/03/2013

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8:30 sounds too early to me as well. On nights when they have a show they really like, I'll let my kids stay up until 10pm, otherwise I try to get them into their rooms for 9pm with the hope they will sleep by 9:30pm.

Chet - posted on 08/23/2013

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A lot of kids and teens are getting way less than they need. It's not a badge of honour to run a sleep debt though. If 8:30pm is working at your house I wouldn't change it because of what other people think. You shouldn't have to wake you child up though. If they're well rested they will wake up on their own. Our 9 year old falls asleep between 8:30pm and 9pm, but she sleep in until 7:30am.

Crystal - posted on 08/21/2013

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I think it all depends on the child. I know that my 11 yr old is going to give me a hard time waking up so she's usually in bed by 9 on rare occasions she will get to stay up, but the next day sheiks really mean. I also have a 9 and 6 yr old. My son age 9 gets up on my first call no matter what time he goes to bed. He usually falls asleep first. My daughter 6 has always been a night owl. She likes to be up at night so it takes her longer to fall asleep so around 8 she will ly down and watch a couple shows.

Tyler - posted on 08/21/2013

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I go to bed when my mom tells me to because I love my parents enough to do what they tell me to and yes im eleven

Lara - posted on 08/12/2013

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So I send all my kids to bed at 8 sometimes late if they're good. That's a 5,7,10 and 11. Obviously we've had some arguments about going to bed but they are very good now. Obviously being in the age of phones, iPods etc. They will stay up late in bed. My 11 would get about 9 hours of sleep. She usually falls asleep around 10 which is a good time compared to her friends who stay up past midnight. My daughters say if someone wakes her they're more moody. Even if its the Sam time. When my kids are off its around 10 for bedtime

P - posted on 08/05/2013

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School-Age Children

Age
(5 - 12 Years). Total Average: 10 - 11 hours


Establish lifetime sleep and health habits
Tips for School-Age Children

Introduce healthy sleep habits, disease prevention and health promotion


Continue to emphasize the need for a regular and consistent sleep schedule and bedtime routine


The child's bedroom should be conducive to sleep: DARK, COOL, QUIET!!!! TV's and computers should be off and out of the bedroom, no light from clocks and nooo CELLPHONE or Video Games !
Set limits
Avoid caffeine
Watch for signs of chronic difficulty sleeping, loud snoring, difficulty breathing, unusual nighttime awakenings and frequent daytime sleepiness

If your child can't get up In the morning without difficulty then they are not getting enough sleep and need to go to bed earlier!!! Read up on cortisol and sleep as well as proper nutrition and supplementation

Carol - posted on 08/04/2013

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OK, I for one will not stay up until 1:30am for my child to go to bed goodness gracious that is way too late. Also, 1030 is not too early during the summer. I for one like to have a little grown up time and will let my son stay up if he is in his room working on an activity on his own. We need to teach our children that we are human and need to have time that is not entirely focused around them. I find that in society today we are totally en-drenched with whatever our children are doing and completely zoned on them. This is fine to a point....... but........ what do we do when they are all grown up and have lives of their own. We need to stress to them that mom and dad need time for themselves as well. This also teaches independence. I have an only child so if he stays up all night, guess who has to entertain lol. That is why I tell him that if he wants the extra time he needs to read a book or work on something on his own. I for one am getting older and cannot stay up until 1:30am sheesh lmao.

Kristin - posted on 08/02/2013

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Hello Natasha

9-10 is too late for a girl of your age.
you would have been my daughter, you would have been in bed at 8 pm, ending the nagging!
Bed time is something that parents should decide.

Sumaya Ahmed - posted on 06/27/2013

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Specifically, what time should an 11 year old go to bed? Up until recently my 11yr old was going to bed at 8.30pm on a school night until i mentioned this to a friend and she said this is way to early for a 11yr old! Her 11yr old goes to bed whenever she wants. Another friend says 8.30 is too early, he should be going at 9.30. My son says all his friends at school go at 10pm. But i worry that hes not getting enough sleep for school I don't mind at weekends,how much sleep do 11yr olds need?? What time should kids go to bed?

Dorothea - posted on 06/22/2013

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As an educator and person who studied child psychology, I can tell you that for children between the ages of 7 and 12, they need anywhere between 8 and 10 hours of sleep, depending on the child. But no child should have less than 8 hours of sleep. My 11 year old goes to bed at 8:30 on school nights and on Monday, he has a bonus day of 9:00. Now, on weekend, that's another story. I let him stay up on Friday till 11:00 pm but he's still getting that 9 hours of sleep. Now, as they grow up and become teenagers, you will find that they revert back to the baby stage and need more sleep believe it or not.

Pheobe - posted on 06/15/2013

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This is considerably pretty early during the school year...9:30-10:30 is a good time but during the summer that is crap my friend who is way over protective about HER 11 year old has her now going to bed at the dumbest time I have ever heard during summer 10:30 Lights out by 11:00 On weekdays Weekend Bed By 12:00 She Is a Complete Idiot sheesh but any how her daughter is responsible loving caring and is when doesn't have a bed time in bed by 12:30 which is a good time during SUMMER but not school Its fine so anyway can you trust your son or daughter She (my friend) is quite stupid/idiotic when you believe its a good time and your child is getting enough sleep is when you but in...

Daniella - posted on 05/13/2013

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I think kids should go to sleep at 9;00. Back then in the 1800s kids go to sleep at 9;00. And the 1800s is right. Like little house on the praire.

Klara - posted on 07/07/2011

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I personally think different people need different amounts of sleep. What time children should go to bed depends also on what time they have to get up. Our girls go to bed at 8pm, but our older one is allowed to read and/or do homework for about an hr. before lights out. If a child functions well on 8-9 hrs. great. If a child doesn't do well w/o 11 hrs., then things need to be adjusted. I would ask your pediatrician and set the bedtime according to sleep needs, NOT what everyone else does.

Sandy - posted on 12/30/2009

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What time should kids go to bed?

My 12 year old son gose to bed at 9pm on school night.10 is to late.

Laura - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Artriani:

after reading all these replies, it makes me wonder, am i a bad mom? or a too ignorance mom? what time SHOULD kids go to bed? Because both my kids, 12 & 8 go to bed at 10. That's the time when i tell them to go to bed, means they still have to do stuffs to get ready to bed, so they will be asleep at 10.30 or even 11 pm, almost every night on their school night. Their school's time is at 7 am, so they have to be ready for school at 6.30. Thank god i never have difficulties in waking them up, & they never complaint of lack of sleep or anything. I hope what i've been doing all these time to let them go to sleep too late, would not having any bad effects on them in the future. But these replies make me reconsidering my decision to let them stay up too late every night.



Thank goodness - I also was wondering - how bad of a mom am I? There is no way in the world I would get my 10 and 12 year old in bed at 8:30. I shoot for 9:30 but usually by the time we get through the nighttime stuff and they settle in for the night, it is closer to 10:00. they are well rested for school and don't have problems waking up, so I am not concerned about it.

Dora - posted on 12/30/2009

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My experience based on my three children is that each individual child has different amount of sleep needs. There is no set rule on what time kids should go to bed. My eldest, a teenager, can function with less sleep for a day; my second teenager needs more sleep than bears going through hybernation and my 10 year old should be in bed by 9:00. This doesn't always happen but if he's in bed by 9:00, he's definitely a happier and better behaving child at school. I feel it's an individual schedule. Most kids will use their friends as the example of the time they should go to bed and as parents we can fall in that trap but we need to do what we think is best for our own child. I have a bedtime for my teenagers also. Between 10:00 and 10:30 max, they should be in their beds. They too complain that their friends are allowed to go to bed when they want.....my answer is: This is our home and that it their home and schedule. Accept it or go and live in their home with a new set of parents. They always back down and consider the positives they have at home.

Ginny - posted on 12/29/2009

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I was having the same problem determining what time kids should go to bed, but after months of trying different times, I find that sending him to bet at 9:30 and letting him read til 10 that he is getting enough sleep. I wake him for school at 7 and he seems to less grumpy than before...lol. Sometimes he's tired that he goes right to sleep at 9:30 anyway. They need at LEAST 8-9 hours to keep up with their growth spurts. Never allow them to set their own times. They are still children and they need rules to follow. It may not make you the popular mom, but hey, that's not why we became moms, right ? As for what his friends say, they are probably lying to "save face". Hope this helps......

Artriani - posted on 12/13/2009

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after reading all these replies, it makes me wonder, am i a bad mom? or a too ignorance mom? what time SHOULD kids go to bed? Because both my kids, 12 & 8 go to bed at 10. That's the time when i tell them to go to bed, means they still have to do stuffs to get ready to bed, so they will be asleep at 10.30 or even 11 pm, almost every night on their school night. Their school's time is at 7 am, so they have to be ready for school at 6.30. Thank god i never have difficulties in waking them up, & they never complaint of lack of sleep or anything. I hope what i've been doing all these time to let them go to sleep too late, would not having any bad effects on them in the future. But these replies make me reconsidering my decision to let them stay up too late every night.

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