What would you do if your child can't get along with his teachers?
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Christina - posted on 11/23/2009
My kids changed schools this year -- We had enough of the teachers and principle, I couldn't believe the difference in the two schools (they are in the same school district). My middle son went from needing to repeat a grade to understanding things at his grade level and getting the help he needs with out missing out on regular class work. Changing schools can make a difference.
Teachers do act very different with parents in the room so sitting in the classroom wouldn't help.
Kenitra - posted on 11/30/2009
Kids need to larn now that not everyone has a personality that is easy to get along with. If you pull a child out of a class because he doesn't like the teacher...aren't you also saying it is okay to leave your job because you don't like the boss...despite your obligations or responsibilities? You do not want to set the "it's okay to walk away" foundation in their lives. He needs to tough it out and remember "Never answer an angry word with an angry word, it is the second that makes the quarrel".
Julia - posted on 11/21/2009
I had the same problem with my 5th grader this year. From day 1, he came home saying his teacher was horrible. (mean, mouthy, hot-tempered). My son is a happy kid who gets along with most, so this was surprising. I told him that he needed to give her a chance and he'll get used to her. By 3 wks into the year, he was having near panic attacks about school and his grades were all bad.
I contacted the principal and requested a move. He was placed with another teacher and he just got an award for 'most improved' in the 5th grade. After talking with his new teacher at Parent/teacher conference, whe related that his old teacher was pretty heavy on the sacasm and 10 yr olds can take it personally. They aren't too 'sarcasm savvy' yet.
She expects him to be on honor roll by next report card.
Melissa - posted on 11/21/2009
I have four kids in the same school and my oldest is the one with the most problems, he has the same teacher from last year and she picked on him well back to the present on the last 9 weeks he made honor roll and well now we are 2 weeks into the second and the teacher has started up again and his grades are now dropping he is saying that the other kids are pickin on him also i told him we can transfer him becuase we have moved and the kids are zoned at a new school but they want to go to theirs because they have been there so long but my oldest does not want to trade bc this is his last year there i don't know what to do i have talked to the teacher and she is like no we wouldn't do that but one of my friends is a volunteer up there and she has heard it ug what do i do lol
Tanya - posted on 11/06/2009
I think if your a teacher you should have an open mind of kids some may acting out because of their home life to label a child is wrong and shows how imature the teacher is my son makes A's and B's and this is the first year that I have had trouble and the sad part is I went to the school when I was younger and the staff is different and you can tell the difference in the way kids are taught these days.
That is good news for your son but bad news for the children in his position at that school. Sounds like your son might have been one of those students a teacher warns and spreads warnings about. I had teachers warn me about certain girls they had labeled trouble makers, lazy, don't care, etc. I was warned about the same girls by many teachers. For me it just set my mind into motion. I saw it as a challenge to find out why and change it! They love me and even though I don't teach them this year I hear from them a lot and see them at school still. Hugs and we miss u is usually what I hear when I see them. Unfortunately the other teachers kept their opinions of the girls. A lot of it was just the girls feeling they weren't good enough and just needed a push and lots of encouragement!
Tanya - posted on 11/06/2009
I have transfered him to another school in our district and instead of only two teachers he has four. He has been happier enjoys going to school now and doesn't even mine the homework so I have come to the conclusion that it was the teachers and the staff. Now don't get me wrong I am not saying that my son is the model student and does no wrong but maybe this time it was them and they should think why didn't they earn the blue ribbon the past two years and why did ten kids transfer out of that school and go to the other. The school really needs to look into the problems that are persisting and I think they need to make serious changes.
I agree with Kimberly. You need to find out why. Making a list of pros and cons of school, each subject he doesn't like as well as the teachers will help identify part of the problems. Without knowing why he doesn't like his teachers its hard to put my 2 cents in.
Quick fix - if you work, take a sick day and go sit in your child's class ALL DAY ! I bet you'll get a response fairly quickly.
As a teacher I can tell you right now that what you will see by sitting in class is a model class. Children will be on their best behavior as well as the teacher because you are there. On the other hand some will mess up the day being clowns and showing off for the visitor. You might get some insight but some of what you will see will not be the norm since you are there. Best thing is that you see your childs daily routine and might have a teacher open up to you.
Tanya - posted on 11/03/2009
My son is 10 and I had to transfer him to another school in our district and after just two days his attitude hsa changed and he loves going to school. He is very stubborn headed if he thinks he is right then that is all there is to it.
Kimberly - posted on 11/03/2009
How old is your child? My teenager hates most his teachers because he is smarter than half of them and that is no exaggeration. He is more informed on current events and just from reading thru the assignment he is smarter. Maybe ask your child what it is that they don't like it could be that the teacher is mean or says so inappropriate things. Honestly school is not like it used to be. The teachers are either under trained or been there way too long and have a hatred for children. If you can't take time out of work to go to the school then at conferences make sure you visit with as many teachers as possible. Good Luck!
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