When can I except my daughter to start her menstrual?

Ginny - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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She is 11 years old.Weighs 97 lbs and has started getting hair downtown and breast have gotten larger and started discharging.What else will happen before she begins?And she even has bad mood swings.

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Amanda - posted on 06/25/2012

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My daughter is gonna b 8 in sept and she has been getting boobs for about a year to a year and half she is just now stating to get light blonde hair on her private and has bo for a while now when should I expect her period anybody got any advice and she weights 98lbs and her attitude is changing

Maria - posted on 01/29/2014

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i am 13 and i don't have my period i am really scared and i need help
i weight 120 pound
and i am a seventh grader
i always like to be alone and i have hair on my private place my boobs are normal for my age.
please help me
my mother had hers on the age of 12
and i have white things in my under were
my armpits are not hairs
so whats wrong with me help :(

Emily - posted on 10/23/2012

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I've heard that the last thing that happens before the period is armpit hair if that helps

Latreece - posted on 10/06/2009

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My doctor says that generally the menstrual cycle will start about two years after breast development. I guess that held just about true for my now 12 year old. She started last year at age 11 1/2 Thanksgiving weekend. But we definitely had signs 6 months ahead of time. She was extremely moody for 6 months before. She also complained of a stomach ache around the same time every month. So after the third month and I realized the pattern, the next time she complained of a stomach ache, I gave her Motrin and it helped! I made sure that she was prepared and made sure that she had pads in her bathroom and one in her book bag.

Sylvia - posted on 09/29/2009

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Hi Ginny

I wondered about my daughter also when she was about that age because it seemed like all her friends were starting, and my sister started at the age of 9 so it worried me, but then I remembered that I didn't start till I was 13yrs old (Easter Weekend, no fun!) and I hoped that she would start at about the same age.



So, I asked a friend that is a nurse and she told me not to worry that I would know when it was going to come and sure enough: moodyness, the hair, the breast, and a week or so before stomach pain, so she started wearing panty liners so that if it happened in school she wouldn't be cought off guard, well she's 14yr old now and she started 2 weeks be for Easter (age 13) the only thing is that she doesn't seem to very regular, which I was told is also normal.



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Latosha - posted on 11/27/2013

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Me, my mom, and majority of the females in my family stayed at ages 8,9, and only a few were 10. Were all on a7 day cycle and my daughter just turned 9 and she's been cramping like 2 weeks now.very moody, light discharge.somebody help.need advice

Ana - posted on 10/11/2012

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I was 14 when I got mine, my elder sister was 11, and my cousin's youngest daughter got hers at 9years old. So we were ALL OVER THE MAP with age ranges. My daughter is 9 now and has worn a 36A since she turned 8. Same as her cousin whom started menstruating at 9. She has emotionally sensitive and having mood swings since the boobs began sprouting, but no hair down there yet. Although her leg hair growth has gone out of control and she has recently needed to start shaving. Two days ago she began complaining about stomach cramps that are below her actual stomach. So I've come to terms with the fact she will be starting any day now. :'( Soooo NOT looking forward to this next milestone yet. I'd prefer her to be a late bloomer.



GOOD LUCK with your daughter if she starts soon!!!

Maria - posted on 09/16/2012

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Whoever said a girl has to be 105lbs before she gets her period is wrong. I got my period at 13 and was somewhere around 80lbs...or less! I didn't reach 100lbs until I graduated college!!

Lilli - posted on 09/10/2012

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hi i have a 12 year old that has not got her period she has breast and discharg and she has hair down there rely bad mode swings

Sandra - posted on 11/14/2009

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My daughter was 11, and she is now 13 when she started her period. After speaking with her doctor who was able to give me signs on what to look for I would say that your daughter could begin within the next 4-6 months. Another sign that I was not aware of was the area around her vigina is it puffy looking. That is another sign to look for progression of how soon it may come about. I would talk with her Pediatrician.

Toni - posted on 11/13/2009

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Both of my girls had the hair, boobs, discharge and moods a year and a half or so before they started, they were both 13 and a half to 14 before they actually started. We talked about it and were expecting it and made up emergency bags (I work full time and dad is a stay at home) we put the bags with a change of clothing and supplies by the door where daddy knew where they were and the girls were to call and just say, "dad, It happened! can you bring the bag?" if it happened while they were at school, this gave them peace of mind, both times I got calls at work to tell me they "started" so I stopped on the way home and bought them a rose and a chocolate cake to let them know I understand and let them know it is normal and nothing to be afraid of.

Jackie - posted on 11/12/2009

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Hi,

I have two daughters that I went through with the same thing, I have a 14 and 12 year old. My 14 year old had hers when she was 10 and the 12 year old when she was 11. The last thing that I noticed just before they got thier cycle was that they the arm pit hairs start to grow and shortly after that the cycle starts. They both developed everything else first and well over a year past but when the first few arm pit hairs grew it was with in a couple of months that the cycle started. I hope this was of some help.

Melissa - posted on 11/08/2009

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My daughter also is like this and she should start anytime. I have her carry some stuff to school in a little bag just in case she is at school we it happens.

Kelly - posted on 10/29/2009

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I think your pediatrician should be able to help you out on that. There's a natural progression, which he or she should be able to explain and where the menstrual cycle should being. I was horrified when my daughter started at 10 and 1/2 years. It does sound close for your daughter, but everyone is different. I noticed the mood swings well before the period started. I would just keep her well-informed as to what is going to happen. My daughter suffered severe camps, and had one period that lasted 45 days. We finally had to see an OB/GYN. Things are much better now. Since she started so early, her pediatrician doesn't seem to think she will grow much more. I'm so disappointed because she was on track for 6'1" but she's only about 5'8" now, and they say only 3-4 more inches after the menstrual cycle starts. Bummer!!

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I think it's just important to state again that no girl controls what age they will begin menstruation, and that their physical growth has much to do with when this will happen for them. My daughter began at 10.5, but she had also grown 5" within a year and she hit that magic 100 lb mark.



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Ann - posted on 10/18/2009

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Activities are also a consideration. If a girl is very athletic, she is likely to start later. My daughter is 12 and will be 13 in a few months. She is "maturing" but no monthly activity yet. She is a very athletic and active girl and so I think sometime in the next 6-12 months for her maybe. I am not rushing it....Weight does play a part which makes sense....maturity, curves, breasts, all add to weight and fat tissue forms. That is when these young girls start to look more like a woman than a girl.

Hang in there.....let her be young while she can.

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My daughter's school did a talk last year for them and this is one of the thngs that they said:
About a year after breast development begins, most girls enter into a phase of rapid growth. They'll get taller and curvier, and their feet will grow. Then, about a year after the growth spurt begins and about 2 and a half years after breast development starts, the first period arrives.

Dana - posted on 10/08/2009

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My daughter got hers this summer...she is 11. I noticed that she was getting curvier and her breasts were larger and the mood swings...ugh...the mood swings!!!! There were days when she could be such a little beast...then again, she is her mother's daughter! = ) She would complain of her belly hurting which went on for four months before her first period arrived.

Rachel - posted on 10/06/2009

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My daughter had all of the same things going on as yours does and she started when she was 11. I was 12 when I started, so she was earlier than me. Just make sure both you and she are prepared for it to happen!

Suhey - posted on 10/05/2009

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It sounds like basicly she almost ready to cross that wonderful line into womanhood. Best advice is to just be kind and sensitive towards her feelings even when she's snapping @ you. Kinda remember that time in your life and how awkward it was for you and just keep reminding her that your there for her.

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Hi there,my daughter is nearly 13 im not sure when its coming but the mood swings are well and truly here..lol..so maybe its on its way...good luck with it all..:-)

Sarah - posted on 10/03/2009

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So glad you asked this, and what great replies! My daughter will be 11 in Feb, now has tiny "boobie bumps" as we call them,, but no hair as yet. She has always been a trifle tricky and moody so not sure if I can judge by that! I wondered when she will start too, as I was only just 12 when mine began. I was quite chunky then, and sadly so is she despite my efforts to encourage healthy eating! I remember my mum being told that "big girls" tend to start earlier? No idea if there is any basis in that.

What I would say is make sure that she understands what is likely to happen soon, as I remember seeing a peer, at school, totally terrified because she thought she was really ill, when it happend the first time at school. Long, stress free chats around this time, as well as panty liners to hand, will really help ease her transition.

good luck. x

Nicole - posted on 10/02/2009

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Hello Ginny,



I hear ya on that, my daughter is 11 and in 6th grade and has the same thing with the hair down there and breast; but I have noticed that her mood swings have gotten worse and are around the time I just get done with mine. I thought she would of already started cause we've been going through this for about a year now and I started when I was in 5th grade. So I think her's is just around the corner. Good Luck!

Stephanie - posted on 10/02/2009

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Everyone is different. I think typically you can gage when your girl(s) are going to start by when you started. I started at 11..Also watch the mood swings..thats a HUGE tell. My oldest started when she was 11, she started getting the boobs and the hair down there about a year or so before she started..the mood swings came maybe 6 months or so before. I had also noticed that her growth had slowed down..she was in the same size clothes for a little over a year.. I had just started thinking to myself that she was probably going to start pretty soon when she did!! She's not super regular, but I talked to my OB/GYN about it and he told me that it is completly normal for girls to not be regular in the beginning..My youngest is 10 1/2, is starting to get the boobies and hair down there..the mood swings are starting too.. I don't think it will be long for her either. Trust your intuition..its a very powerful thing..Good luck!!

Sherry - posted on 10/01/2009

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I do not think there is a certain age, but I started when I was twelve..my sister didn't start until she was 16 and I counted her very lucky...

Sally - posted on 09/30/2009

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Wow! I remember those days! ;-) I think it varies so much it can be really difficult to predict. I started at 11 but i'd had breasts for around a year before that, my baby sister had huge mood swings for just over a year before her's actually started. and also even when they do start it can just be that once then months without anything. hormones are funny, it takes them a while to settle in.

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