When do I tell my 11 year old there is no santa, easter bunny etc

Justine - posted on 02/01/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have an 11 year old daughter who still believes in santa, tooth fairy,easter bunny etc even though other children at school have told her otherwise. I don't want her going to high school next year and still believing, but when and how would be the best way to tell her?

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Scott - posted on 04/03/2013

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Wait a second. If she is eleven, how will she be going to highschool next year?!?

Donna - posted on 02/04/2010

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to be honest, she most likely doesn't believe. she just doesn't know how to tell you! :) my son knew and would ask questions that were very cynical lol which made me believe he knew the truth. :) i just told him that sometimes moms need to believe in magic so don't ruin it for me! lol he's 15 now and to this day he winks and says look santa came again mom!!! ......he helps me keep the fun alive :)

Jane - posted on 02/04/2010

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My son was 11 when he asked if Santa was real. I told him, that as long as YOU believe, he will still come. When you stop believing, he stops coming. This took any heartache away and he soon made his own mind up.

Tracey - posted on 02/02/2010

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I told my daugfhter that they were real as long as she wanted them to be real but that oters didn't believe so it was Ok to agree with them at school and have her own beleifs at home.

Sandra - posted on 12/03/2012

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i would tell her soon you done really well to keep the magic going as long as you have tell her theres nothing wrong with beliveing and that in every story theres always some truth fairys for example google them theres many growing people belive in fairys that they are or were real at some point dont shatter all her dreams you and her look that one up together and tell her to make her own mind up on that one but she needs to be told about santa and the easter bunny my son was not to happy when he was told santa wasnt real by a friend in school and for years when i caught him out on a lie he throw it in my face saying well you lie about santa bless him a felt crap all the kids were calling him and he was saying no me mam said he is real he was very upset he thought i was always right he couldnt get over how i had put him in that posision so i would tell her soon my son was 11 when he found out he 13 now and still rembers the day the kids were calling him names but mind he did have an idea he wasnt real but he belived everything i said and he never thought i would be lieing lol

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Bethany - posted on 04/20/2014

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I am only 11yrs and I found out from my sister I asked if he or the Easter bunny is really and I knew they are not realm hope this heled

Mary - posted on 12/16/2013

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Listen, your daughter is playing it for the gifts. She knows santa isn't real, trust me she isn't an idiot. Purposely leave gifts that say from santa this year so that she see's then tell her santa isn't real. She is doing it for the gifts and I know it.

Kirsten - posted on 11/28/2012

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I had to tell my son this year, (he is 12 at Christmas). I didn't want him going to 'big' school and getting bullied because he believes in santa. (must say he got a bit more practical with his Christmas list this year knowing that we are getting him prezzies and he knows that money is a bit tight as it is for everyone).

I still believe though ;)

Jennifer - posted on 12/25/2011

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I have just one child and I think I'm going to be more devastated when she finds out the Santa truth than she will be. She's 8 now and still believes. I'm not going to "out" Santa to her. They grow up so fast as it is, and it's getting harder to believe in magic these days. I think my daughter should be able to hold onto a special belief for as long as she wants. It comforts me a great deal to hear other moms repeat the same sentiment.

Theresa - posted on 02/05/2010

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I've not told either of my kids. Myoldest is 13. I'm sure he doesn't still believe, but it's not something that we've ever discussed. My younger is 10 and he still believes. He came home and said the kids at school say there is no Santa, but I know there is. I told him he was welcome to believe for as long as he wanted. I joke to my husband that when he gets married I'm going to have to let his wife know she needs to be Santa because he still believes. I'm sure he'll figure it out eventually too, but I see it as him still being innocent. I'm OK with that.

Sarah - posted on 02/02/2010

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well my daughter found out the truth about santa by finding me wrapping the gift's one x-mas eve and then for the longest time she believed that I was santa

S. - posted on 02/02/2010

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my daughter is 10 soon to be 11 and coming up for high school, she ask's me if santa's real as her friends say otherwise, I just say well I belive n it's up 2 her if she belive's or not and i tell her if ppl are picking on her then she dont av to tell them. who am i 2 shatter her world i think she know's deep down but whats wrong with a bit of magic.
my friend think's i am wrong but then i think she is wrong as she told her daughter the facts when she was just 6 year old when she very first asked

Heather - posted on 02/01/2010

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my son figured out the tooth fairy when she forgot him a couple times, easter bunny when he found the stuff before easter, but i managed to keep santa alive until this past year (he's twelve) when my best friend accidentally let it slip that she was with me when i was searching for what turned out to be his santa present. he had suspected as much for a couple years and was excited to finally know the truth...at which point i reminded him of the trampoline that santa brought when he was five....which i put together by myself, in the cold, in a foot of snow, and in the middle of the night! he didn't understand why i didn't take credit for all of the good presents over the years...told him that after everything he'd been through (losing both my parents and my fiance in successive years @ xmas time) it was the only "innocence" he had left. imo, let them have that innocence for as long as possible! kids have to grow up so fast these days...

Alisha - posted on 02/01/2010

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my son came to me last year and told me that the kids said the same thing to him..i told him that there was none of that stuff that..it is just something that everyone goes threw when they are growing up but if he still wanted to believe that was up to him.he was 10 yrs old and now he is 11yrs old...sooner or later she is going to figure it out on her own,let her know it's a fairy tale

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