When is the right time to think about a bra for my daughter (10 year old)?

Toni - posted on 03/04/2010 ( 65 moms have responded )

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My daughter was told today by a group of girls that she needed to get a padded bra? When is the right time?

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Rox - posted on 05/10/2010

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Hi, I've worked in Women's Retail on and off for over 20 years, and have been a bra fit specialist for about the same amount of time.
My daughter will be 13 in August and has been wearing a bra for about two years. The best thing I've found for young girls who are just starting to "bud" is a simple sports style bra - I think by Fruit of the Loom - that has no hooks or cups. It's a very simple pull-over style that can be found in the girls underware section at stores like Wal Mart (that's where we get ours). They come in white, black, and colors, are very soft, have no seam lines (because they have no actual cup), no tags that stick out, and under clothes they look a lot like a tank top -- so if the top of the bra shows out from a shirt it's ok -- no one knows it's a bra!!!
Padded bras are for women who have smaller breasts but want to look larger or have cleavage. They usually have underwires and quite a bit of padding at the bottom of the cup, which usually pushes up the breast. They're not suitable for young girls, and don't fit correctly.
We've tried other training bras, but I still find the sport style to be the best in fit, style, comfort, and wearability. Besides Wal Mart, I believe Meijer also carries them.
Measure for the correct fit. JC Penny has trained, certified staff who will measure for free. You can also do it at home: google "bra measurement" or check out wikihow.com ("bra measurement") and it will show you exactly how to do it and how to determine the correct size.
Hope this helps! Good luck! :)

Anna - posted on 07/09/2011

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When she sprouts, put her in a training bra until she has "bloomed" enough for an A.

Lori - posted on 07/10/2010

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My daughter is 11 and she has been wearing a bra for about a year. She didn't really need one yet but she was starting to and we figured it would be better to get her used to wearing them before she really needed one. It took a while to get her in the habit of wearing one everyday so it helped to have the extra time.

Tanya - posted on 07/12/2010

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Thank you all so much for all of your comments and suggestions on this topic. I came here wanting to post a question on this order, and here it is! My daughter is 10 and has worn the "sports bra" for about 6 months, but they do not cover the nipples...I think she needs some with padding, but I do not want too much padding. I will have to look up how to measure before we go, again thanks so much.

Phoebe - posted on 05/14/2010

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My daughter got her "puffies" at 9. She was proud and asked me for a bra. We too had a mom/daughter day and went shopping. I let her choose what she wanted (she's mature) and all has been fine. She did say that her nipples were very sensitive ( I remember that too) so small amounts of padding is good. Itg also helps in cold weather so she doesn't show.

We have continued our mom/daughter shopping .. she's 16 now .. and its very nice! We shop together and like the same styles. She takes after her mom .. I'm a natural 38d and she's already a 36c. We both enjoy matching undies top and bottom. its so fun shopping together too!

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Heather Fraser - posted on 07/10/2010

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my daughter is quite small. She didnt need a bra and probably still doesnt but when she was 10/11 she wanted one like her friends. It was hard to find her one that fit but it made her feel good about herself. I remember I didnt get my first one till i was 15 (and didnt need it either lol) but I always felt like a little kid around the other girls. I did how ever draw the line at thongs

Erica - posted on 07/10/2010

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Our daughter started wearing a sports bra last year when she was ten. She was the one to ask if she could wear them.She now wears a regular bra, no padding or under-wire. We got some great CK ones from Macy that seem appropriate for a little girl. I think it is appropriate for her at least because she is developing faster than most kids her age and certain things like tank tops and thin clothed shirts look a little revealing without a bra. My only concern is gettign her a bra made her make her feel like she needs one to fit in. Make sure your daughter wants it because she wants it, not because she being teased. I cant believe little kids would be saying also to get a padded bra, I think it is sick to put padded bras on kids. I understand a lined bra but kids don't need to make their boobs like bigger, there are too many pedophiles in the world.

Carol Ann - posted on 05/14/2010

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No time!!! I remember when my mom brought me home this "Contraption" that's exactly what I call it!lol. I hated it, I cried, it was so uncomfortable, ugh and I still hate them and dont wear one! LOL ...........Wait as long as possible.....but if she's ok with the transition then go for it. It should be her decision i think

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2010

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my 11 yr old has had one for about 4 months. her little 'nubs' were starting to show through her shirts, and with summer coming that means lighter shirts. got her a trainer so that it prevents the developing breasts from being too obvious. it was making her a little self conscious and the small trainer really seems to be helping. just wish i could have done it later. i was a late bloomer and i was hoping she'd be too....oh well...

Vanessa - posted on 05/12/2010

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I just bought my 9 year old a "sports bra" and she is very comfortable in it...padded?...not sure they are in need of that at this age.

Diana - posted on 05/11/2010

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Thank you everyone for the great comments. I have a 10 yr old and have been thinking about getting her a training bra just dont know how to bring up the idea to her. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Pam - posted on 05/10/2010

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A padded bra is not necessary i have to agree with some of the other comments sounds like a bullying issue than anything else, my 13 year old got her first one last year, and we got her measured before buying one

Shawn - posted on 05/08/2010

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I was a little slower to develop than most girls and I was picked on because I was the only one not wearing a bra. My mother wouldn't get me one because I wasn't physically ready. I ended up getting a bra from a friend and washing it in the bathroom sink- it was gray before I got to throw it away.

My daughter is 12 now. She is very small and started developing after her friends. She had just come back from a sleepover when she brought up the subject of a bra. She is a very outgoing person and bullying wasn't the issue in her case. She was just self-conscious about it. She wasn't physically ready but I took her to pick out a couple that she would be comfortable wearing. The popular, colored bras that the girls are wearing are slightly padded but nothing outrageous - just enough to keep their nipples from showing - not what adults typically considered padded. Anyway, her self-esteem was more important than whether she was physically ready. At 46, I still remember how I felt during that time.

Tammy - posted on 05/05/2010

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Please emphasize that breast size is not the only measure of beauty. I just had to tell my 7 year old again today that modesty is good because we should keep our bodies for ourselves. We don't want people to only like us because of how we dress, but for our personalities, intelligence, and caring hearts.

Corrine - posted on 05/03/2010

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I completely 100% agree with Penelope. Mean girls. they are just being crappy to your daughter because they are insecure about themselves. My daughter is 10 and has been wearing a bra now for about 8 months. We made it a girls night out, went alone, tried some on and picked some out that were cute. she got one that seems to have a little padding, its her cute bra, the others are more like sports bras, they have a little patterns on them. I guess we went for variety that way she could make a decision on what she likes and feels comfortable with. I wasnt thinking about padding/no padding. I think you need to address the situation about the other girls being bullies and not about what kind of bra she is wearing.

Ashley - posted on 05/02/2010

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I was wearing a bra at 9 myself and both my girls followed my family gene traits and were blossoming at 9 as well. My advice is simply buy her a good quality bra that is NOT padded nor is an underwire. Buy one that gives good upward support and doesn't show lines. Give her the look that all girls need and want with their new figure and most important is to keep up with the changes in her breasts. Make sure she stays properly fitted since girls develope their breasts at differing rates.

Cara - posted on 05/01/2010

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The time to get a bra is when she needs one. If she is developing and it is noticeable, then it is time.
As far as padded, why would any young girl need padding? Those girls are just mean.
Although, after trying to find appropriate bras for my 11 and 13 yr old girls, who both definitely need them, the selections are horrid! Not every girls wants to look like a Victoria's Secret model. It is hard to find bras that aren't padded or underwire, especially for a girl who is 13 and a C cup.
Good luck with this :)

Kristy - posted on 04/23/2010

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Hi my daughter is 10 and she has been wearing a bra for a year now,she has been developing and needed it.If it noticable through a shirt than its time to get one.

Susan - posted on 04/23/2010

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never is the right time to give into peer pressure ,if she needs a bra and the golden rule is needs more support that a vest will give .then tammygirl and next and marks and sparks do nice affordable range and marks will measure up for you good luck and enjoy girly shopping

Susan - posted on 04/23/2010

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well my eldest and i waited until there was little more than fried eggs there we went to proper bra fitting place and she was a 28 a she was just starting big school so wanted a bra to fit in with other girls now no stopping her at 16 shes a 36d

Arrow - posted on 04/23/2010

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My daughter (now almost 13) was about 8 when she started to 'show' a bit. I waited till she also noticed, then we went together to the 'big girl department' and I let her pick out one cute 'top', one plain one and a new shirt. She really liked the idea of a whole new round of clothing that she got to pick out herself. Course now, I have to drag her just to the edge of that same department and beg her to stand still so I can 'measure' the sizes, LOL But she does suggest different colors. Try to remember when you had to buy your first, and how odd that whole thing was, then embarrass her one good time softly, and let it go...hahahahaha. Just try to avoid any thing like that scene between the granny and Molly Ringwald in 16 candles. UHG

Becky - posted on 04/23/2010

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My daughter is 11 and starting to develop so it is ok for her to wear a bra You can buy training bras it is no big deal cant keep them little forever

Lori - posted on 03/26/2010

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Get her a little sports bra. The sooner she gets used to wearing one the better off you're going to be. And hence, no more stupid comments from groups of girls. Chances are, if she hasn't started developing yet she will soon. Give her a little ego and self esteem a boost. Lots of Luck! :)

Maria - posted on 03/13/2010

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My daughters started to wear a bra at 9 and 11yo, so i think it depends mainly on how early each girl develops. It is very subjective.

Mary - posted on 03/13/2010

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My daughter who is 11 wears a padded bra. She started wearing a bra at the age of 10. I didn't want the imprint of her breast to show. The bra is padded but not so padded that it makes her have more breast. Its just the right size. They have all kind of padded bra for girls, the store worker can help you pick the right one for your daughter. They helped me.

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2010

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Seriously you as her mother needs to make that decision, not a bunch of her peers. I understand that peer pressure is already starting, and it can be hard to not listen to. But does she really need to wear a bra yet? This sounds like too much info, but it is the only way I can describe what I am trying to say. Does your daughter have what I call mole hill breasts? Which means she of course isn't flat, but has enough breast tissue they are pointy like triangles and she has a bit of jiggle when she runs? If so, then it is time for a bra. My oldest daughter is 11 and has been wearing a training bra (not the padded type) for nearly 12 months. They support her well, and she wears them everywhere now. She is rather tall for her age and has developed early - periods, pimples etc. I believe when girls first wear bras they don't need the padded ones, they don't need to appear to have more than what they have already. As all padded bras do is push breasts out and up.

Keri - posted on 03/11/2010

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My daughter is 10 and she started wearing a bra faithfully about 6 months ago. She is a little on the heavy side and needed a bra badly. Now, she can't go anywhere without it. She says she feels out of place when she doesn't wear it. I definately do not think 10 is too young Toni....if she needs it, she needs it. I don't know about the whole "padded" thing though. I think 10 is a little young for that. Good luck : )

AMANDA - posted on 03/11/2010

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The right time is when she starts budding. My daughter was 9 yrs old. Try her with a soft "training" bra to begin with. I know my daughter hated the fact that her budding breasts showed through her school shirt. My 11 yr old is already in a 32 C/D cup. There are also very slightly padded and really padded bras. The former give a nice shape to uneven growing breasts whilst the latter are totally unnecessary at this age.

Incidently it was my friend who mentioned to me she thought I needed a bra when I was 9 yrs old! I hadn't really thought about it but when I mentioned it to my mum we went out and bought my first bra. I have always looked after my boobs by wearing a good, well fitting bra and even now in my mid forties and two children later at a 34G/GG they are reasonably pert.

Personally I will not use department stores for measuring me - they have never got it right yet! I always use specialist lingerie stores and my own knowledge gained over the years. I self fit all my bras but get a check 2/4 times a year just to check I'm correct.

Have a fun time!

Tiffany - posted on 03/11/2010

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my daughter is 9 almost 10, I had to buy her one last summer due to her developing over night. Just watch the amount of padding, it will make them look bigger and get unwanted attention. My daughter wears ones with just enough padding to make sure there is no show through(you know on them cold days we all worry about) . It is really a decision you two have to make. If there is no development it doesnt hurt to let her wear a little sports bra or something.

Deidre - posted on 03/11/2010

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When she looks like she needs one for support. The padded bra comment may be because she is still quite flat chested at 10 years. Come intermediate age around 11 or 12 there are some great training ones that you can start with. Farmers brand called Girls Room were excellent or a singlet with some support were helpful (that's my daughter's comment).

Claire - posted on 03/11/2010

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My daughter has just turned ten and has been in a bra for 2 years. I take her to m&s every 4-6 months to be remeasured and they are brilliant with her and always bring her a selection to try on. There angel selection are full of support and now come in lots of different colours, a couple of years ago they only had one style and colour so they have inproved their range. My daughter has never had any problems with her bras and never been uncomfortble wearing them.

Ciara - posted on 03/10/2010

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when you notice her breast are growning the undershirts that look like bras are nice before

Jeannie - posted on 03/10/2010

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I agree that there is no set age to begin wearing bras. It depends, as many have said on several things. One being her self confidence level and another being the visible effects of her growth. Girls mature at different ages both mentally and physically. Alot of times the mental development is much ahead of the physical. My daughter is 11 now and she has been wearing the little sport bras or cami's that Lori mentioned since she was eight. I too had the same issue of developing very early. My daughter was starting to develop at eight, and her little "buds" starting showing through her shirt about 9 1/2 yrs old. What are yall considering padded? I am asking because my daughter MUST wear something other than the t-shirt thin bras like training bras. She has to have some kind of padding in hers, but not like the push-up bras or anything of that sort. I have heard some say they shouldn't wear those but if we are talking about the same things, we don't have much of a choice at our house. My daughter wears the mildly padded bras, the ones that have a layer of padding in them where you can't see her nipples through her bra and shirt. It is more than a t-shirt type material, but not a "push-up" type or any other enhancing type bra. She is quite developed for her age. At 11 not only does she have the buds, but she is forming a good size breast. Her last bras we bought were 34B! I agree that girls are developing much faster than they used to. As far as the girls saying something to her, I suppose it would be how they said it. Sometimes girls "look out" for each other. If it seemed like they were just letting her know to keep someone else from hurting her feelings, I think that would be ok. However, some girls can be quite crude. Whatever you chose to do, don't make it a tramatic experience for her. This is a very tender age, and they get thier feelings hurt very easily especially by thier peers. Lizzy was very excited to get her bras, and has adjusted very well in the transition. I suppose it depends how much you talk to them about it, and that they are aware of what is about to happen and when they should expect it. Good luck in your decision, I have found that the less of a "big deal" I make of it, the easier she accepts these NEW things.

Lori - posted on 03/10/2010

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My daughter is 11-1/2 and has been wearing the "flat" bras and cami bras for about a year. She didn't want to wear a bra at all (too much of a hassle!), but really likes wearing the cami bras under a shirt or short jacket, because the cami bras are like a shirt themselves, and she wears them to sleep with pajama bottoms. I would not have my daughter wear a padded bra, in fact she refuses to anyway, which I'm very happy about. It really depends how developed your daughter is - if she's pretty developed she can wear a bra that gives support, but it doesn't need to be padded.

Becky - posted on 03/10/2010

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yeah it gets noticeable as they get older! i got my daughter one from Wal Mart for now!

Michelle - posted on 03/10/2010

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The right age is when she feels she needs one. I dont think I started wearing one constantly until about age 13 or 14. I was fairly small chested and did not need one hated wearing one so I picked clothes that made wearing one not needed.

Colene - posted on 03/09/2010

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As soon as anything starts showing. My 12 year old wears a bra and where I live if they dont have a little padding its so cold the nipples show so I think most of us wear these most of the year.

Jodie - posted on 03/09/2010

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my daughter is 10 and was excited about the idea of getting a bra before xmas, so i bought her some cute bra and knicker sets that were of course age appropriate... she loves them and it gets her used to the idea of wearing bras without the embarassment that some girls feel... there is no right age for them but you do need to consider that they are developing and getting the first bra properly fitted at somewhere that has a bra fitting specialist... big department stores like Myers and DJs will have this service available...

Cortney - posted on 03/09/2010

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I'm not sure about a padded bra. But once you start to notice nubs under her shirt, it's time for some coverage, whatever the age. Just so she doesn't get embarrassed.

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

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I don't really think that there is a certain age when a child is ready for a bra, each child develops differently. I think that when they start to develop they should get measured and wear a training bra. I wouldn't recommend anything like a push up bra or wires. But I think as soon as they start to develop they should start wearing something.

Cindy - posted on 03/09/2010

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My girls have been wearing the kids training bras since they were about 6. It helps them move into wearing them without a fight. Both of them have given me no trouble with wearing them and both needed them around 9. Every girls different and will need them at different times. I hope this helps.

Connie - posted on 03/09/2010

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I forgot to add something. Most of the bras out there are padded but beware. The padding should be very minimal so that it doesn't look like she's a size bigger than she actually is. And don't buy underwire. It is not good for girls who are still developing and they are usually uncomfortable.

Connie - posted on 03/09/2010

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I had to respond to this because I just went through the same thing! My daughter is 10 also and I noticed her starting to develop about a year ago. She started with sports bras at age 9 but she now needs a better bra. I had her measured at Macys so that we could have an idea of her size and then we shopped around. My daughter is a little big around the waist and upper area so we had a hard time trying to find ones that fit comfortably. We found a great selection at Pennys after much searching and she is very happy! My daughter has never been told by other girls though that she needed a bra but all of her friends are wearing them. I wouldn't have bought her a bra just because of her friends, but I could tell she was ready for one. It has boosted her confidence and she doesn't feel out of place around her friends anymore. Good Luck! Girls today just seem to growing up way to fast!!!!!

Faith - posted on 03/09/2010

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When her boobs start to show through her shirts. My girls have been wearing bras for the longest time. They had to wear undershirts at an early age and bras soon followed.

Tammy - posted on 03/08/2010

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My daughter has been wearing a bra since the age of 9 and she is the one that told me that she wanted to start wearing one. I guess it is all depends how developed she is. Girls this day and age are maturing alot faster than i was at that age. You can ask your daughter if she wants to start wearing one and go from there and go shopping with her and let her pick out the one that she wants.

Kenitra - posted on 03/08/2010

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Cute bras have become a fashion, so therefore I see not harm. Padded bras do not give the girls the appearance of large breasts, but it does give them confidence. Besides, if her nipples are visible through her shirt, it is definitely time.

Caroline - posted on 03/08/2010

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HI.I have a ten year old goin on 11 and I started getin her bras not padded.If u get the padded ones it my make her look like somethin is there befor time.

Felicia - posted on 03/08/2010

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There is no specific timeline for this. It depends on when your daughter starts developing. My daughter is 11 and she's been using one for about a year.

Christi - posted on 03/08/2010

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My daughter is 10, we just went and got her one and she was shy about bra shopping at first and so was I but we made a GIRL DAY out of it and it turned out to a GREAT "MOMMY AND ME DAY" for the both of us!

DeAnn - posted on 03/07/2010

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I would say it depends on your daughters development. My 11 year old has padded and sports bras but she's developing quite quickly. She hates wearing them tho. I would say if she's asking to wear one and the other girls in her class are wearing them it wouldn't hurt to get her a training bra. We all have to start wearing these god awful contraptions some time :(

Brooke - posted on 03/07/2010

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My daughter is 10 about to be 11. She has been wearing a bra since she was 9. There are a lot of her friends that wear padded bras, however I felt in unnecessary to get a 10 year old padded boobs. I teach her to love herself the way she is. She will have enough time as an adult with padded bras and underwire. We just make bra shopping fun and she picks them out with matching undies. They are still babies at this age. Try not to let her get to big for her britches, ya know!

Deanna - posted on 03/07/2010

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My twelve year old has been wearing a padded bra for about 2 years now. If you go to Walmart you can get one in the kids area that are nearly flat and then you can feel good about her having one.

Latoya - posted on 03/07/2010

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i dont think at ten you should be worried about a padded bra. at this point if she is developed u should deff get a bra. my nine niece is wearing a training bra because i started to notice them growing in. things like this is all about the rite time of her development. u dont want to go to fast.

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