Kelly - posted on 07/01/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
A group of boys have been bullying my son ever since 2nd grade. He will be going into 6th grade in August. Last year, the bullying reached a point where it became so horrible that he switched schools. He had to leave his girlfriend since kindergarten, as well as all of his friends. At the new school, he is not bullied at all. His principal at the old school told me he was bullied because he had a better vocabulary than the other boys & was much more intelligent than the other boys. I know he does talk more maturely and has a better grasp on a lot of subjects, but I don't feel he's more intelligent. I feel the principal used this as a way of blaming the victim instead of admitting he wasn't going to do anything to the perpetrators.
Everything has been going great until he went to a summer day camp for 4 days. One of his bullies was there in his group & this boy got the majority of the other boys to bully my son. I spent $70 for this day camp only to find out at the end that my son was unhappy during 3 of the 4 days. To make it worse, I used to work with this boy's mom and I know she knows that her son is a bully & I'm sure he's talked about my son.
What I'm wondering is, should I approach her and ask her what her son is saying about my son? Maybe this would give me some insight as to why they bully my son? I don't understand how he could be so badly bullied at one school and yet be absolutely happy and have no one treat him badly at another school. At his new school, he has good friends, both boy & girl, and even has a girlfriend. I know my son isn't perfect and if he's behaving in a way that makes other boys angry at him, I would like to know so that I can work on this with him. At the same time, I'm afraid of opening this door with her (the bully's mom). Any suggestions?