why do teenage boys hate showers?

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Marie - posted on 03/06/2013

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I just signed up because I'm at wits end trying to get my 14 year old boy to take showers even after soccer and track practice. I guess I'm not alone in this battle.

Triwan - posted on 08/08/2009

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Lol, my son is 12 and he will literally go days without taking a shower if I let him. Now once he's in is another subject. He will stay in until I yell at him that he's been in there too long. What I have started doing, kinda like what the other poster said, is allowing him to be more responsible for himself by talking to him like a "big person" and telling him: you will need to take a shower today but I will let you make the decision on what time (granted nothing really late or anything). I tell him that what ever time he chooses is up to him but he will have to stick to that time. That has worked each time and I don't even have to keep watch of the time for him. I guess he feels like he has the power over himself and is not being "told" what to do.

Sarah - posted on 08/08/2009

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My son is 15, and until the last few months just was a stinker, literally. Well behaved, great manners, and kind, but just didnt wash. Got to the point where i would make him sit away from me in the car, or when out. Tried subtlty, to no avail, as I didnt want to hurt him. Still no luck, got to the point when blunt was the key word. "J*** , you stink. You will have no freinds etc.....". Honestly thought that was it, asked advice from any one who would listen and got told to just roll with it.

BUT, HOORAY, dont know why, but in the last month, daily showers, shampoo getting low, deodorant cans everywhere....... I think there might be a girl involved but can get no answer!!!!

So, no advice really, as I was told....Roll with it, its not forever!! Good luck! xx

Magda - posted on 07/20/2009

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Why? I suppose because it matters to us parents and they are in a period of asserting their power over themselves. They are begining to make decisions about their bodies.
A good way to making them feel it is their decision (partially) is to ask them ..At what time do you WANT to take your shower? accept their answer and later just remind them of the time. Like Mike..it's 5:00PM go can come back to your computer as soon as you ar done with your shower and walk away.

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Wendy - posted on 04/05/2012

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My son is 14 and will swear to me he took a shower and washed his hair everyday. I remind him that the soap dispenser and shampoo bottles have not moved in days, nor has any of the contents disappeared. I just don't understand why he feels he won't clean himself and honestly, why this issue is of more importance to me and not to him as he is in high school? It's enough to drive a person batty. When he was younger, i could make him get back into the shower, but now that he's taller and much stronger than i am, i can't force him to do anything. This is the one issue that will never make sense to me, but it bothers me to no end. Praying his interest in his appearance peaks soon....

Michelle - posted on 08/08/2009

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I have 10 and 12 year old boys that I battle with over the "shower issue" They both know they have until bedtime to get their showers done. I recently have been telling my 12 year old to go back in and wash his hair with shampoo this time. He respsonse is the typical I did, but his head still smells like a wet dog. I've simply told him that he will continue to re-shower until I know all of his body is clean. Hopefully he will get tired of taking 2 showers and start doing it right the first time. My 10 year old is learning from his brothers mistakes and thankfully cleans his whole body head to toe.

Maureen - posted on 08/08/2009

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I have a 13 year old boy, He has always been a water baby and taken long showers 1 to 2 times a day. But in the last 6 mths I've noticed he still has the lengthy shower in the evening ( we often have to bang on the wall to get him out ) but shampoo seems to be forgotten.. He got bad psorisis at one point and had to allow me to shampoo his hair at kitchen sink with special shampoo. Hoping its a phase.

Gretel - posted on 08/07/2009

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My soon to be 12 year old always takes a shower, brushes his teeth, combs his hair, cleans his ears, he even schedules his own haircut appointments which I am absolutely loving...anything u would want in a hygienic child he does...I have another son...a soon to be 11 year old who is the TOTAL opposite...he doesn't brush his teeth, he won't brush his hair, he doesn't take baths or use soap, he is just the smelliest thing that someone could ever smell..lol...The moral to this story is, you can raise children but it is their decision to take care of themselves...do not beat yourselves up if your children do not do it right away...they will eventually...I can't wait for my 11 year old discovers the female species...lol...maybe he will clean up to...

Blossom - posted on 08/07/2009

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My son isnt a teenager yet (he's 10) but I swear he has never liked showers. He does okay with baths as long as he has bubbles and toys... My daughter will be 13 in a month and she went through a phase like Jennifer Snellgrove's daughters.... She would have rather walked around smelling nasty and looking all greasy than get in the shower and CLEAN herself.

I am thinking it is just a phase that they (boys and girls) go through. Just another one of those boundaries they must test.

Wendy - posted on 08/05/2009

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my son, 11, is the same way yet once he's in there I can't get him out. And he uses up all his sister's soap and shampoo but his hair still smells like a gerbil's cage! I think that he just likes to make concoctions and plays around (he's adhd too) forgetting why he's really there! lol

Jeanette - posted on 07/21/2009

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it's definately an age thing,my son too.once he starts to like girls, im sure i wont be able to get him out of the shower

Karen - posted on 07/20/2009

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I never had a problem when they were teens, their appearance seemed to be everything it was when they were 8 and 9 that I had to fight with them.

Freedom - posted on 07/19/2009

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I have the shower problem as well, my son is 11 and if I tell him to take a shower he tells me he just took one which was 2 days earlier. And when I get him to take one he thinks he needs to be in there for a half hour. I hope it all gets better too, I can't even leave my house unless I take a shower. How can he?

Jennifer - posted on 07/18/2009

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I don['t think that is totally a boy issue...LOL I have a tough time with my 13 and 12 year old girls.....especially with their hair! it is like they think the shampoo is acid that is going to burn their ears off...LOL

Heather - posted on 07/18/2009

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i have the same prob with my son and he is only 11. its a nitemare to get him to shower

Joy - posted on 07/16/2009

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Not sure but seems like they all don't like to take showers.. I have to force the issue and remind him to wash his hair.. I think it's the age now that he is 12 1/2 he takes them no problem but boy there for a while?! Had to make him.. He will grow out of that stage, trust me..

Suzanne - posted on 07/16/2009

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we're ok with the shower (soap too!), it's the shampoo that he must think will kill him!! i'm kinda (repeat kinda!) looking forward to the time when he becomes interested in girls!

Kasey - posted on 07/12/2009

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It seems to me they all go through this stage. It does get easier especially when they discover girls. Be patient and stick to your guns it will get easier.

Monetta - posted on 07/12/2009

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My 13 year old is just the opposite - my husband and I don't want to shower after him because there is no hot water left. I do believe that he will change when his friends change and girls start to take notice - until then - just insist that he showers before he goes anywhere with you because you don't want to be embarrassed.

Jo Ann - posted on 07/09/2009

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Gets better when they get interested in girls! Then they stay in the shower too long!!

Melanie - posted on 07/09/2009

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I have no idea! My middle child is a 13 year old boy and you would think we had just asked him to re-shingle the roof every time he has to shower. Getting him to actually use soap is another battle, as well as getting him to use deodorant after the shower. I wonder when it gets better?

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