i have a 7 year old girl and need advice..

Lori - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 7 years old. She is our only child. I need some advice on what i can do about her additude. She has an additude with me from the time we get up for school, to the time she goes to bed. I have tried to keep my cool with her and haven't been able to. We do have good days but most of the time here lately we have not got along. I don't know what to do. I love my daughter with all my heart. I feel like i am not doing my job as mother.

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Casey - posted on 06/03/2010

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I cured my 7 year old attitude with Ginger, everytime she mouthed off or got an attitude, I dabbed her tomgue with it..After about 4 times She stopped. It doesn't hurt them, it just tastes really nasty....

Dana - posted on 12/29/2009

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I've got a 7 year old daughter with an additude as well.I've spoke with her doctor about it,her doctor which is a lady with kids,who has seen my daughter since birth,explained that this is preteen years,from now till 10 where a child this age has all kinds of feelin flowin that they dont understand & has alot goin on that us as parents may not see but that its totally normal for a 7 year old child to be this way,the best thing to do is make sure the kid has his/her on space to be able to go & relax alone when they go through these spells,so now when my beautiful girl gets that hump on her shoulder I just say please go to your room chill then speak to me & I've seen a difference.Good Luck,I know how hard it is as a mom!

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Breda - posted on 04/27/2010

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O I hear that!!! My 7 year old is the exact same! I cant do a thing with her. I was talking to a friend of mine this morning about this and we both have the same problem. One thing that may help is if she has friends calling over to play and she's giving you her little attitude problem tell her that unless she behaves and looses her attitude and starts being polite to everyone, she will not be allowed anyone over to play. It works for my daughter if she's being a teenage want to be!
Hope that helps!

Crystal - posted on 04/16/2010

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Don't feel that way. I think this is about the time in a childs life that boundries are trying to be bent. some days serverly! lol My little girl has her moments too. I'm fortunate enough that (as of now) she will feel really guilty and say sorry. We just have to take it day by day in hopes it'll sink into their little heads that their attitude isn't going to get them anywhere and make sure we don't give in. I made that mistake with my 1st and he's a lot more difficult now because he doesn't take me seriously due to my giving in whenever he got in trouble. All he'd have to do is throw a massive fit and I'd give in because I couldn't take it anymore. :(

Calleagh - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter is also 7. We went thru a time that was very difficult. I have hoped that she is going thru some of what usually goes on for 14 year olds...like we are getting it out of the way now. What has helped heal our gap was special time together, even if it was just smiling glances and maybe her feeling my unconditional love for her as well as her understanding limits in acceptable behavior, i.e. you must be good to your mom. Good luck. I have alot of compassion for your situation and hope your relationship is better soon.

Beth - posted on 03/10/2010

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My 7 yr old girl is a very good girl and a lot of fun. Once in a while she needs to be put in her place because she is an only child we let her slide on lots of things that would be an issue if we had more children. We just give her a talking to when she gets too big for her britches. Explain that her attitude is not cute and she's not going to get theresults she wants by acting bratty.

Andrea - posted on 02/28/2010

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Oh believe me mine is the same, some girls are very strong willed and want what they want. What I have learned from mine, she is also a n only child, is choose your battles, some you have to stand your ground and some not, but kids need to respect there parents and I explain to Faith that we are all tired and have to do things we dont like and if we can help each other it will make life easier. I dont like starting the day on a bad foot eaither, some kids just are grumpy when they get up and we have to get them going. Say some positive things, or something to look forward to . But this age is difficult. Be patient be honest with her and let her tell you why she full of attitude mabye it something you can sort out but it wont go away for a while.

Teresa - posted on 02/25/2010

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i cant beleive how many others have this problem with their 7 year old, my daughter is 7 and she has a really bad attitude problem and stamps around if she cant have her own way or get what she wants, i know she isnt like that in school think its just mainly with me, i also have another daughter 5 upto now she not as bad as my 7 year old she actually knows when to stop, im dreading her hitting 7 and im dreading my 19 month old boy hitting 7 too,

Amber - posted on 01/25/2010

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I have a seven year old daughter, soon to be eight, who is also an only child, and sometimes she can get pretty sassy if not rude at times. I just tell her I don't like it when she talks to me like that and I let her know she is being rude. Any how one idea I have is to have her sit down and write "I will not talk back" or "I will not hit my friends" 20 times, plus it works on their penmenship. (Cursive writing, etc.) Any ways good luck. :0)

Shelley - posted on 01/24/2010

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SO good to find Mom's with the same issues, My 7 yr old is rotten!!! She is very high spirited to say the least and still pitches those 2 yr old baby fits, She tries my limits as to what I will take off her. Some days, I have to just break her will and time out after time out and after time out. When they dont work, she gets chores, She absolutely HATES chores, so I make her sweep the floor or take out the garbage or something like that. We even have issues in school she has gotten in trouble every day since school has started, she has already gotten 3 paddlings at school for her bad behavior. She is so stubborn, she wants everything her way and exactly when she wants it or its the baby fits. So PATIENTLY we are breaking her will to let her know that she is too old to behave like that. She has been grounded what seems like forever..lol But She can turn on the charm too and sucker that I am sometimes for that adorable face I give in, I need my own self checked time to time, and be constant with punishment for her bad behavior. If she knows I wont take it anymore then she stops.

Tracey - posted on 01/16/2010

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hi lori my daughter is also 7 and like urs lol we have used a star chart for her and when she is nice to us she gets a satr when it is full we take her to buy a toy that she wants i find it works really well and when she does give us her attutide we take a star of her ...plz dont feel like u r lettin her down cause ur not i think all 7 yr old girls go though it gl hun xx

Stephanie - posted on 01/14/2010

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My daughter is 7 as well and has a BIG attitude. I have one as well so part of it I think is just inherited but it sounds like it is probably an age thing too! They are just at that age where they are testing the waters.



Luckily I only hear good things from her teacher, grandparents, etc. so it sounds like she mainly reserves her attitude for us! We just have a lot of time outs and privilages taken way. I also find that if I do not respond to her attitude in a negative way, and sometimes just ignore her, she stops.



Good Luck!

Katie - posted on 01/13/2010

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Wow I know how you feel. My daughter is the same way. We have been trying to work on her attitude for a couple years. I feel horrible for yelling at her or not doing alot with her but she just will not stop. She gets me so mad that i just don't even want to be around her sometimes. It makes me feel horrible! I love her so much but can not put up with the talking back , ignoring me and dirty looks. I even pretend shes not doing anything wrong and go out of my way to do cool stuff with her and it seems that makes her act up more :( WE cant lose hope....

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this is great reading all this as my 7yr has the worst attitude ever. shes at home with me only and visits her dad but i notice that she worse when she comes home from his. dont know why but she seems angry at me all the time. she answers back, shes rude but then turns into a squealing baby when she can get her own way. i like the idea of go to your room and chill out when shes stressed. it will save on my arguing oh and its stupid to got to bed a 9pm it should be later according to her. all mums your fab and keep it up. dont let the monsters get you down. xxxx

Brandi - posted on 01/10/2010

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I wish I had some advice for you but I do know what you are talking about. I am really hoping that it is just a phase. But if this is anything like how the teenage years are going to be I am a little on the scared side. My daughter wakes up with an additude some mornings too and I used to blame it on her being tired or some other excuse but now it is just getting out of hand. We have tried grounding her or taking toys away, it seems to help for a little bit.

Leshekia - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter is seven also and her attitude is awful she is the only child and for so long she has been getting everything shes wanted what we started doing is take her favorite thing from her for a while or something that she enjoys doing because if we just tell her about her attitude she will straighten up for about an hour or so when we told her we were going to take some of her things from her and she had to earn them back by showing respect and by cutting the attitude out and if you say your going to take something away than do it because kids are smart they know if you are for real or not don't just tell her show her and you don't always have to give them something for good behavior when you praise them and tell them how awesome they are that's just as good and if she sees that mommy has a bad attitude she'll pick it up from you too because I see myself in my little girl so i'm having to do better with my attitude also i don't know if this helps or not Good Luck

Becca - posted on 01/06/2010

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I went through it with my seven year old and found out that it was because she was being pick on from kids at school and caused her to not focus with her work and she just started to build up rage with the issue.She kept quiet about it in school but let out her anger & sadness at home. When that problem was solved she started to get better in time. From that point on she aways opened up to me. As her mom that really makes me feel good to know that she can talk to me when being bothered by something. good luck.

Georgina - posted on 01/05/2010

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I give my kids a sticker chart. Every day that they behave the whole day they get a sticker and when they get so many stickers on their chart I will take them out for what ever they decide. It's a great way for them to get alone time and they get to collect cool stickers too. Don't get me wrong when they start to throw me attitude I remind them that they won't get a sticker for the day, If that doesn't straighten them out then I will ground them for the day. by the time they've had to spend an hour in their room they are pretty willing to make up for it. I hope this helps.

Sativa - posted on 12/30/2009

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I usually tell my 7 yr old that I dont care to be around that attitude and if she wants to keep it, she can play with it in her room. I also have very open communication with her. If she gets the attitude and doesn't drop it on the spot, then something is bugging her. She may "take it to her room" for a little while, but then come and ask me to talk. Try opening communication with your daughter. It will only benefit you both in the long run. Good Luck.

Chantel - posted on 12/29/2009

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I 'm seeing that this is a seven year old girl thing. I told my daughter that I raised her to be more respectful. Respect is earned. If she gets to be too disrespectful she gets punished. In the words of Dr. Phil I speak in her currency. She can't go out to the movies or skating,and the little extras she has loss appreciation for like allowance and her choice eating out and our girls night gets suspended until I see a change that's more than a day or just long enough to get her stuff back.

Heather - posted on 12/18/2009

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You're not alone! Our daughter has been giving us attitude for years. We havent really found anything that works wonders yet, on her really bad days she spends alot of time in her room. I have noticed that what she eats affects her attitude, Junk food, fast food, candy, etc. and even eating at odd times instead of at set meal/snack times can send her into a downward spiral. I also know that she reacts directly to my mood. She can be set off really easily if she thinks I'm mad/upset, even if it has nothing to do with her. I remind her when she is being snotty to us that she needs to have an attitude change, and if she is rude again she goes to her room for a bit until she can be nice.

Dianne - posted on 12/06/2009

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Hi Lori, I am new to this circle. When my son was doing this I started looking at his sugar intake. I cut his sugar down, went to sugar-free items. Because, we were letting him eat sugar up till time to go to bed. He was waking up with a sugar withdraw, lol. Talked with my Pediatrician and he said it was possible. Then when he was rude, and giving me an attitude I have used the sentences. He needs to practice anyway. Hope this helps. Dianne

Rachel - posted on 12/05/2009

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I thought I was the only one. My daughter gets an attitude and it's hard to snap her out of it at times. I just let her go and ignore her and when she is ready she comes to me and apologizes. I think, it's hormonal. It's like this is our preview into thier teenage years.

Amanda - posted on 11/13/2009

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I have one that is goign to be 7 on the 1st of December and it sounds like we have the same child LOL. the best thing that has worked for me is a give and take I give her coins for eveytime she is good and will help me and if she throws attitude then she has to give me back some coins depending on what it is that she has done. It has worked on my 6 year old too but I dont have anywhere near the problems with her as I do my oldest!! I hope this helps I also hear that a ot of moms will use marbles or beads or something other than coins

Reagan - posted on 10/30/2009

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Oh but dont feel you arent doing your job. I lose my cool with my daughter as well. We are fallible people and we lose it sometimes. We arent perfect.

Reagan - posted on 10/30/2009

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I hear that. Mine is 7 and currently an only child but about to have a new brother. Mine gets an attitude some and I have to remind her that attitudes are not cute in a little girl and people dont like to be around it. That works for her and she adjusts quickly. It is a constant maintenance project though.

Christina - posted on 10/29/2009

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My daughter is seven as well, and she sometimes has an attitude with me. I think to a point it comes w/ age, but if she has an attitude towards you where she is disrespecting you I would think something is bothering her. Maybe she feels she does not get enough time with you, or maybe her feelings were hurt at one point, and this is her way of dealing with it. Has she had any major changes in her life, such as a move, new school? My daughter was very close to her Grandpa, and when he passed away she was not herself for like two months, and then she started coming out of it. Hope this helps... Good luck

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