Mouthy

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2010

I totally understand what you are saying. I thought I had tried everything and it didn't stop him, even though he knew what he was saying was wrong. So in desperation I tried sprinkling chilli flakes on his tongue when he does, and now I don't need to use it even half as much. Actually, since I started this tactic about 3 months ago I have only used it about 8 times. Hope it helps

Terra - posted on 06/08/2010

I also Have a Son Tanner, and He is going to be 8 in a couple months, but just recently he seems to think he can talk back, and tell me NO, throw a fit, crying, "You never let me do anything" OMG I really don't know what to do, to listen to him talk I am the worst Mother ever. And all the good things are always overlooked, My Youngest Son has now started testing this behavior as well, And I have a feeling my Daughter will try soon also if I can't put a stop to it.

Rachel - posted on 05/21/2010

Oh yes almost forgot. Reward! reward! reward! goals and compliments! When she does say something rude she sits in her room for 20 minutes but it rarely happens! Then we calmly talk about it. You can also give them a special diary to write their feelings in . It might not be good things they write but they will feel much better. Like they got back at you. thats okay as long as it theirs.

Rachel - posted on 05/21/2010

Its the influences for sure. I found this to be true because I have been moving around for quite some time. And every place has been different. When the kids were quite. She was more quite and respect full and when the kids were crazy. she came home and was unaware she was even doing these things. Plus the t.v.! I have family meetings and include her in a lot of things. Giving her more attention has worked for me. I want to be the one who influences her. I have a lot to offer... love.

Margarita - posted on 05/19/2010

I am a single mother of 3 very mouthy children. My boys are 8 and 5 and my daughter is 3. It seems they all pick up bad habits from each other. They are constantly talking back to me, and I have tried several different punishments. Taking things away that they like, time out, spanking, and to no avail. I know I'm not the only one going through this and I'm hoping they grow out of this nasty habit soon...LOL

Danielle - posted on 04/10/2010

I have a son who is turned 8 in feb and he is mouthy, he back chats and tells u no wen u ask him to do something and wen he is in a mood or doing something he has a go at his baby sister who turned 3 in dec and my daughter is now starting to copy him. Please if any1 has any ideas or advice plz help x

Tina - posted on 01/26/2010

I hear what you all are saying, my 7 year old daughter can get very mouthy and like you all i've tried everything i could think of to get my sweet little girl back and nothing worked until i grounded her for talking back and that seems to work at least for a few days after, she doesn't like to be grounded becasue she can't have any friends in the house and she can't go out and play. and my 5 year old son is acting the same way and i've told him that i would ground him and my daughter always speaks up and tells him that it's no fun to be grounded so it has some affects, but i still wish i could turn the years back and get my little girl back.

Nichole - posted on 12/03/2009

I have made it clear to my kids, if your rude to me I don't recipricate by doing for you ie: yummy snacks, play time, rides to friends homes, story time, not the silent treatment but I make it clear that treating me that way isnt in your beat interest, we have missed birthday parties, skate parties. I dont let others treat me that way and neither shall you, in turn I hope they dont accept rude behavior towards them.

Nikki - posted on 12/02/2009

i dont have any suggestions,but i would be glad to hear any responses. my 9 yr old son bryson is very mouthy. not sure were he picks it up. me and his dad are divorced and i am remarried i thought this could have something to do with it?? anything helps

Davina - posted on 11/17/2009

Mouthy...Oh my goodness. No kidding.

It's getting better in our house. But my goodness, where is my sweet, sweet and innocent child gone??

Danielle - posted on 11/11/2009

Ethan is my 7 year old. he has started to test me on things. Mouthy is one of them. I just stay consistent w/ my choice of disipline which is spanking and corner. And the corner isn't the have a seat, it's the stand with your nose in the corner and ur arms at your sides. (I had to do that when I was little.) He's getting better. Now I just have to give him a look.

Jennifer - posted on 11/07/2009

girl you aint the only one once my son started to school he was my sweet lil boy that hardly ever gave me trouble and when he started 1st grade it got even worse i have pulled him out of public school and home schooling him bc other kids can influence your kids also be careful what they watch bc alot of the new cartoons now act like that with an attitude i would just try that and i think boys are like that but since we have started home school his mood has changed alot but sometimes you just have to take away tv and stuff like that what your doing

Chris - posted on 09/27/2009

One word, CORNER! Every time I get sas from my girls, it is the dreaded corner! I put them in the corner for 5 min. If it is really bad 15 min. and everytime the complain they get another minute on top of it. Beleive me it works! You have to be strong, and when the fight its the corner for 15 automatic. They hate it, but that is ok. They stop whatever they are doing right away. Then when they get out I have them apologize to me or whoever they have mouthed off to. They also use it in school, they put them on the line if they are bad, which is consistant. You have to be consistant, keep the same routine everyday and if they come home in a bad mood, ask them what is bothering them, most of the time, it is a problem in school or some thing that I did that made them mad and they don't know how to deal with it. They have to learn how to deal with their anger and that is the only way they know how to express themselves is through bad behavior. Talk to them, they will open up, if they know you want to listen.

Julie - posted on 09/15/2009

At least I know I'm not alone, my 7 year old always wants the last word. Some days are better than others but I'm dreading the teenage years if he is already mouthy.

Nicole - posted on 09/09/2009

Sounds like we're all in the same boat! I get so frustrated with his sassiness and thinking he knows everything better than me! I have heard that it's a faze they go through and my older nephew is not as bad as he used to be so we have hope!

Chantel - posted on 09/04/2009

My daughter is doing the same thing. It's nice to see it's a thing they go through at this age. I just recently started working on the weekends and I honestly thought this was her way of rebelling against all the changes she's been through in the past 2 years and she doesn't talk to her teachers that way which pleases and confuses me.

Stacie - posted on 04/26/2009

I think it is all kids they are testing the boundaries again we as parents just need to be stronger than them. My 6 year old never use to talk back to me. She just started within the last few months and she knows that if it is really bad I will take everything that she loves to play with out until she stops talking back and apoligizes to me..but her father seems to not care at all since we have been divorced for 4 years. She gets away with it. All I pretty much tell her is to you talk to your teacher that way too, and she changes her tone really quick.

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2009

I know it should ugly but I cup my hand and pop my child in the mouth. Not hard but just enough to get her attention. She cries because she is shocked I did it. I don't do it often because she doesn't sas to much. If you think that is too rough make him or her do stuff they don't like doing. At first my daughter didn't like jumping up and down. When she would sas I would say jump and I would make her jump and use the timing thing like the time out. Worse thing is she will have strong legs.

Gloria - posted on 02/15/2009

my son is 7 in may and god is he hard work he loves to cause trouble and stuborn is not the word I thought it was cos I was being to soft on him but after speaking to other people and reading this it is deffently a phase my older son is now 12 and when I think back he was exactly the same xx

Mandi - posted on 02/03/2009

I'm so glad i found this group!  I thought that it was just my son that had suddenly turned mouthy!  Constant back chatting and pulling faces behind my back.  I have to remind him that I DO have eyes in the back of my head.  I take it as a phase because i remember doing the exact same thing to my Mum & Dad (albeit at an older age). But they do say that kids grow up faster these days so i'm dreading the teenage years! I don't think there's any easy answers to this one because I have yet to find one.  Any tips would be appreciated especially on getting him to sleep at bedtime which seems to be the problem of the month!

Tia - posted on 02/02/2009

Glad to hear it's not only my 6 year old! He turned from such a sweet little boy to a monster! Back talking, (excuse the language) smartass-ness. It has been hard lately! I take away toys, games, make him do extra chores. But all that comes with more back talking. I am hoping this goes away soon!!

Paula - posted on 01/26/2009

After nagging for well over a month about the toy carpet in my son's room (he'd decided that there was nothing I could do to him or that I wouldn't follow through on a punishment), I actually packed up all my 6 yr old's toys off the bedroom floor, allowed him to keep only one bucket of his favorites, and everything else we carted off to the salvation army donation bin. It was hard - I felt like a complete witch. But it helped. His room still get's messy, (really messy), but when I tell him it's time to pick up he makes an effort. and there's no doubt in his mind that there will be consequences if he doesn't.

We also went to Ikea together and he picked out some brightly coloured cubes for his bedroom, that matched his quilt (that he also chose) and we worked together to make his room "his" place.

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2009

I do that with Tanner too.  I get im tired, for a lot of excuses. when comes to getting him to clean up his toys. I just am at my wits end.

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2009

Hello :)

I too have a 6 yr old Nick, and he is going through such a hard phase, I'm having to repeat myself all the time, I get "i don't want to" for much of his responses. His punishments for talking back ususally include loosing video games, ie...computer time, DS game.

Michelle - posted on 01/20/2009

Thanks If I have any suggestions I will let everyone know I at a stuper....

Jolie - posted on 01/19/2009

I have no suggestions - But I sympathize with you. My 6 year old girl tells my 3.5 year old boy to "hush up, you annoy me" a million times a day. Just this morning she told me "little brothers are like the rotten tomatoes on the pizza of life".

Katherine - posted on 01/19/2009

hello , i completly understand my son Aidan is same age , i thought maybe he was picking it up from the other school age children but it seem to be getting worse .and now im at the end of my straw with ideas maybe we could share !! thanks