My 7 year old son is still pooping in his pants! HELP!!!

Shona - posted on 04/21/2010 ( 90 moms have responded )

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I'm about to go crazy! My son will not stop pooping in his pants. I have tried taking his toys away until he used the bathroom, I have prevented him from going outside to play with his friends, I have even stood there and made him go in the toilet, only to have him come back in from playing outside with a huge piece of poop in his underwear! I'm at my wits end!! I don't like spanking him but I have gone as far as to spank his butt every time he does it.... Nothing is working! Does anyone out there have any advice or ideas as how to get him to stop playing and just go to the bathroom? He is way too old for this. At first I thought he had some kind of medical issue or fear..now I just know that it is out of laziness since every time I punish him with taking toys or stopping him from going outside then he will consistently go to the bathroom, as soon as I give his stuff back he will literally sit in his room and poop his pants! He knows he is doing wrong too because now he has started going in the bathroom and taking off his underwear and hiding them in the laundry room.... Anyway, enough rambling from me... Please HELP!!

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Mandy Alice - posted on 03/10/2013

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Hi I have a 5 year old son and I can't cope with his pooing at all I swear to god every time he dose it I just feel like smacking him so hard I get so red hot inside and I have tried everything , and I mean everything , he walks along pooing poo dropping out his trousers all over my house he will poo on the bus and stink the hole bus out and I hate to say this but it made me a horrible thinking person I sometimes feel like I hate him , he's like a dog that won't stop crapping in your house I'm sick to death of it I feel like the only other way is to put in into care iv tried every thing doctors , specialists , bowl and bladder clinic I have a 2 year old that gos potty every time my 5 year old poo I say to him get in the shower now or just walk away he's descusting he will stay init all day with no compliant even if it makes him sore he stinks its cost me over £2000 in new clothes and wet wipes and bloody soap powder in one year I just can't cope no more you ppl are my last resort !!! Call me what you like I realy don't care at all no one could make me feel any worse

Beth - posted on 11/10/2013

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ok. I have a 10 yr. old step son who is still pooping in his pants. He had stopped for several months and we thought the problem was finally solved but he has started doing it again and now it has become an everyday thing again. He is 10 and this has got to stop. We have also tried everything will no results. We do know that it is a control issue with him though because he had stopped for several months. We just cant figure this out. He does however have ADHD and anger and depression issues. When he was 8 his mother left and has never been back and is now in prison for several years, hince his obvious issues. He is on medication for these issues though and sees a counsler and a psyciatrist. He's also old enough though to know better hes in the 5th grade and will be going to middle school next August. I know that the other kids at school and on the bus can smell it on him because I can as soon as he gets home. Kids are mean and I know that he will be made fun of and teased about his. I dont know how we can fix this problem. Please help!!!

Kimberly - posted on 03/10/2013

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Curing Encopresis is not about bribes or punishment. My sister died 4 years ago and left me her 9 year old son who had encopresis. She had tried everything you all have tried. We saw Jacob's doctor and he gave us Miralax and one other diuretic. Neither worked at all, in fact all of the advice we received from the doctor was bad. They just do not understand this. We researched the web and found lots of info. I said all this in a previous post but the cure is: Lots and lots of water, this cannot be stressed enough. No processed or junk foods, no soda, basically no garbage. No binding foods, think cheese, bananas, potatoes, starches. Lots of exercise. Lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. A magnesium supplement. To clean out the intestines, drink Aloe Vera, yes the plant, peel it, blend it with strawberries and pineapple juice. My nephew was cured in 3 months and trust me he had a lot of other issues in his life at the time. Encopresis may seem like a battle of wills with the child but it is not their fault and their self esteem is being destroyed by this. It is difficult for them to keep trying because they have absolutely no control over encopresis. They develop the attitude to protect themselves emotionally. My nephew was a new person after he gained control of his bowels. One last thing, make sure you emphasize that they are doing the work to fix their body so they can gain some self esteem from the process.

Heather - posted on 03/21/2013

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I have been through this 3 times now. If I could give ONE single piece of advice, especially to all of you parents that yell, spank, and down right end up making your child afraid to tell you the truth, it would be to CALM DOWN! The moment your child realizes that you are on THEIR side, their attitude will change. It doesn't happen over night people... this is a process. I know how frustrating this is! Trust me! Do your best to be understanding. Listen to your child. Ask them how you can help. Or just be encouraging. (I know, easier said than sone, right?) Focus on the positive. When their undies are clean, make a big deal about it! Don't pay attention to them, in a negative way, when they have an accident... because each time they do have an accident, they won't want you to know- out of fear of what you will say or do. Just keep breathing. This will pass.

Amanda - posted on 03/15/2013

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As there is no medical issue then its discipline problem. He needs to come in when he soils. Have a bath and be spanked the number of spanks as his age on both cheeks of his bare bum. Then is in the house for the rest of the day. You have to be very consistant.

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Sandra - posted on 11/16/2014

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Your son won't understand why your spanking him, or punishing him. He can't help it. So stop the military treatment. My 7 yr old son has the same problem I asked him why he can't make it to the toilet in time, and he told me he dose,nt feel his poo comeing. My son is autistic, he will learn to controil this as he gets older, in the meantime you will have to use nappy pants , until your son is more aware of his bowl movement.

Janjan2666 - posted on 10/05/2014

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Bolth my kids r 5, and they ofen pee in pants. i just let them do it when they have to. Janjan2666

Ann - posted on 08/10/2014

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Punishment is not the answer. I understand this is very frustrating for you. Try not to make your child feel bad it will only make things worse.
My child would hide his underwear and I would be angry and so I took all his underwear and he would have to ask me for them. Finally I asked my doctor and she said don't make a big deal about it when he has a accident. But when he has a day where he doesn't poop or pee in his pants really praise him. Sometime children feel the only way they can get our attention is in a negative way, please try being more positive. NO SPANKING! If your angry walk away and go outside or in your room until you calm down.
I hope this helps
Ann

Ann - posted on 08/10/2014

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Great advice. My doctor told me not to make a big deal about it . If he wets or poops in his pants don't say a word. As frustrating as this is your child hate it more than you do.
The more big deal and the more angry you get the more he will do it. Try it you have nothing to lose.

Amanda - posted on 07/24/2014

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If he's still doing it,put him in diapers. And make him wear it, worked for my son a little while until we put him in regular underwear.

Linda - posted on 07/03/2014

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how mean amanda.. i remember my brother wet the bed. he got a spanking with a belt .. rubbed his nose in it..,, wore a sign .. punished washed his own sheets etc and this was not the answer. in his case he wanted attention and did not care how he got it. i would never shame my child like that.

Latonka - posted on 05/29/2014

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Miralax does not harm your body like certain other types of laxatives like dulcolax etc... Most of your over the counter box laxatives. They can causes something called melanosis coli and that's is we're laxatives like dulcolax make splotted dark places in the colon and they also weaken the colon because the colon is like a muscle. Miralax is perfectly fine for every day use as directed by your physician or on the bottle for people that suffer from constipation/IBS(Irritable bowel syndrome). I have patients that take it every day and have been on it for years and it's perfectly safe.

Blanca - posted on 05/29/2014

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Having problems controlling there self about the badroom ... It my be a medical problem there! Request a MRI to your doctor my kid had a Teder cord and of the simetoms is having frecutly acidents by not controlling there self and not felling when is time to go...
It is a serious condition and only can be fix whit spinal cord sirugy!

Stephanie - posted on 03/26/2014

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I honestly think that parents need not to be so quick to assume there is not a "medical" reason. It could also be psychological. My daughter suffered from Encopresis which was an INVOLUNTARY soiling of her underwear...it started when she was 4 and lasted until she was 8 and it was a horrible experience for her to go through and the LAST thing in the world she needed was a parent berating her for something beyond her control. The doctors didn't diagnose the cause of her problem and it turned out to be a food allergy. Just by changing her diet, we were able to put an end to the constant soiling and bathroom issues. Yes, it was a pain in the ass for me as a parent, constantly dealing with soiled underwear, the smell, etc...but the psychological pain it put my daughter through was worse. She was a child, she couldn't understand. I just don't see how making a judgment that your child is doing this on purpose , knowing you will punish him is an accurate assessment. Do you think he wants his toys taken away or have his butt spanked (and this goes out to any parent, not just the OP)? Be an adult, think logically and don't jump to conclusions about your child's medical well being. Research encopresis, take him to a psychologist and do what it takes to help them...don't mentally scar them for life. www.momsguidetoencopresis.com

Karen - posted on 01/18/2014

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My son is exactly the same, due to being lazy, I have taken his toys and computer off him in the same day, after lecturing him about going to the toilet, i also have to make home go to the toilet, I can't bare it no more, why don't he just go. Any help please

Esmeralda - posted on 01/02/2014

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Need help why my son still poop in underwear . Is to much and three time .

Sean - posted on 12/08/2013

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I'm amazed that people jump directly to "if there is no medical issue". Just because they cannot find one does not mean that there is not a medical issue. If a child at this age is doing something this, OF COURSE there is a medical issue! From experience, my own and my own children, it's best not to make such a big deal out of it! Take them to the doctor, get suggestions, they may put them on a daily stool softener or suggest something to clean them out.

Make them take responsibility for it, shown them how to clean their own underpants or get them ready for laundry; and use a liner for their underpants. They will eventually get to an age that they will understand their bodies more and learn to take care of themselves.

No amount of reward or punishment is going to fix this.

Janie - posted on 11/18/2013

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Well I have 3 with potty problems and I can tell you ive tried everything. Three boys ages 4, 7 and 11. Youngest is still in diapers, middle son doesn't go more than 2 days without accidents. Just today he came in from playing outside and had wet AND messed his pants. My 11 year old wets the bed. I m a single mom and this is just too much,

Suzi - posted on 11/16/2013

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About soiling solutions - it's really only a return to old-fashioned tioilet training methods (the kind that worked!), using - as a crutch - remedies (enema and suppository) that are not likely to have serious side-effects (unlike Miralax).
Also - I'm always saying this, I know - ccording to the gastroenterology society in the USA, it's a myth that any laxative is physically addictive/damaging to the bowel when used in normal doses. (The research it stems from involved corpses of people who'd suicidally overdosed on laxatives amongst other things).

Melissa - posted on 11/08/2013

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Is this encopresis hereditary? Because this sounds just like my grandson and I also had the same problem with my son when he was younger n my husband says one of his cousins did when he was younger. It Devi States me to think about all the yelling n punishing we've done n to find out that it may not be his fault. I feel horrible if its something he can't control. I asked my 5 ur old grandson why he refuses to poop in the toilet n he looked me in the eye n said "I don't know how" . When my son was younger I couldn't get any answers from him, he would just freeze up when Iasked him why. Even as a young teen iI would notice little clumps of poop in my sons underwear n it would just baffle me as to how at that age he could still be doing it. My grandson does in school all the time n the teachers have to change him I'm scared to death that the other kids will start teasing him n not want to be his friends because of it. We have to find a solution before he starts kindergarden.

Melissa - posted on 11/07/2013

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My grandson is almost 5 n refuses to poop in the potty. We have tried all the punishments n rewards as well. My daughter has to send clean pants n underwear to his pre k class everyday n the teachers have to change him almost everyday.( they are so awesome for doing this n letting him continue to go to school) . When we ask him why he does it he tells us he don't know how to go on toilet, which is rediculous. We are at our wits end as well. His father who is not living with them gets mad n brings him home every time he does it with him n blames my daughter telling her she's not doing enough to make him stop. He's a smart little boy but we can't get him to stop this. I'm praying we find a solution before kindergarten. Help!!!

Jay - posted on 10/31/2013

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As an adult who had this problem when I was a child. I can tell you with out a doubt they are doing this because they feel they have no control over their lives. Not able to make decisions for themselves.

The only thing that have is trying to control bodily functions and they fail at that as well. It is a terrible cycle.

Start by building up self esteem first. then start letting them make decisions for themselves like what food they eat for lunch, or even let them decide what you will wear for work the next day. as you do this the problem will go away.

If this is not a medical condition this may be the problem.

Rosie - posted on 10/02/2013

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I have read most of the posts here and we seem to be dealing with a similar but different problem altogether. We have a 6 year old son who we adopted at age 8 1/2 months. He came from a pretty seriously neglectful home. When we first got him he never cried - he had already learned that it was futile, his cries had gone unanswered. He could not sit up. He could not crawl. He very quickly caught up with his developmental milestones, though.

We did start noticing at a very young age (14 months - as soon as he was walking) that he had a very serious "independent" streak - he wanted to do everything for himself. This quickly led to a very serious "frustration" problem. He has no ability to handle frustration even now. At 14 months old he would run and bang his head against any surface close to him. That progressed to slapping himself in the face when he was frustrated. He would do it so much his entire face would be red - it looked like WE were slapping him. He has finally grown out of that, although he still has a huge problem dealing with frustration.

We started potty training at age 2. He was not even a little bit interested in it. We put it aside for a while and then tried again when he turned 3. At this point we were insistent, but had no success. None at all. We kept it up and finally, just before turning 5 he was consistently peeing in the potty. He has never, not once ever, pooped in the potty. He WILL NOT EVEN TRY. He doesn't care how messy it is. How uncomfortable it is. He doesn't care how frustrated it makes us.

He is NOT constipated, nor does he have diarrhea. He is simply stubborn and refuses to even try to poop in the potty. We have read that you do not want to demoralize or punish them for failing to poop in the potty. Promises of rewards have no effect. We have tried just talking to him - telling him that he is going to be ostracized by other kids. He doesn't care. He actually asked me to buy him diapers the other day - he wants to go back to wearing diapers! Not even pull-ups.

He has been challenging, to say the least. On the one hand, he's very independent. On the other hand, he wants badly to remain a baby - and he'll tell you that. He does NOT want to grow up. We are at our wits end with this. We are changing his poop pants at least once a day and sometimes twice a day, because he let out enough to relieve himself but not finish. I think he's reaching the point it is uncomfortable for him to have it on him, so he only lets out enough to rid himself of the urge. We have thrown away more pair of underwear than I can count.

Part of me wants to just give up and put him back in diapers. I don't know what to do at this point to change this behavior. Again, we don't want to traumatize him over it - I've read that can make it worse. We don't want to hurt his self-esteem, either. We just want him to "try" to poop in the potty - he won't even try. He was the same way with peeing in the potty, by the way. One day he just "decided" he was done wetting his pants and we have not had an accident since. Not one. I'm hoping it might be the same with the pooping. Anyone else have this particular problem?

He does have control, he is just choosing not to go.

Sally - posted on 07/16/2013

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When you say he was cured in 3 months - could he then eat regularly or does he still need to stay away from certain foods? Thank you!

Heather - posted on 03/21/2013

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I think that being spanked every time he has an accident will cause him to hide more. Wouldnt you hide your accident if you knew you would be beat for it?

Bethany - posted on 03/18/2013

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This is my second go around with same problem. Two of my boys one 18 and no longer has problem and now my 6 who will be 7 tomorrow both have and had this problem both starting between 5 and 6. I am going to start my son on the same diet I did my other since it is progressing. My son who is 18 has not had milk or very limited milk products since 7 and he stopped. He drinks soy milk only and has grown to love it. The problem stopped almost immediately. I pray the same for my 6yr old. They both have similar problems in school which I think some boys r not ready that early. I have also heard ADD can play a part and since I don't personally buy into that, I do think it may also b personality related. But the diet was my saving! Hang on it gets better-it is just a stage. And this too shall pass.

Amanda - posted on 03/15/2013

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You might try and find Dr. Scotts Questions and Answers. Used to be on line.
We got alot of good information from him. You have to be consistant and firm. Took about 3 months to train our boy when he was 8. You can email me if you have no luck and I can pass the information to you cutemomof42003@yahoo.com

Azarette - posted on 03/09/2013

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our son is 6, pees in toilet uses and underwear at school. always poops his pants. he has adhd, speech delap and on the autism spectrum. hes asked for pullups to poop or poops his underwear/ pants. weve tried bribing w/ money, new toys, books in the bathroom, leaving him in the bathroom, sitting there with him, party ironman themed for using the bathroom, thumbtacked new toys to wall in bathroom. weve tried punishing, spanking. weve tried miralax. he has normal poops too. hes cleaned himself and his underwear. has tons of diff themed underwear. we will see a behavioral therapist this tues. the amt of money for underwear, pullups & wipes is obscene at this pt, not to mention we are losing our minds. the other day he peed his pants on the side walk at school in the car rider line which btw hes never done. and the other night he pooped a little in the tub.aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Kimberly - posted on 03/03/2013

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Your son most likely has encopresis. It is not his fault. His body is not processing food properly. My nephew had this and when he came to live with us at nine we cured it in 3 months. Cut out all processed foods. He needs to drink at least half a gallon of water a day. Peter gillian's Natural Calm is a miracle for encopresis. Also drinking aloe vera will help clean your son out as encopresis is chronic constipation. Mix it with fresh strawberries and pineapple juice in a blender. (the only way it is palatable) Have him drink it everyday till he is better. It will be worse for at least a month till the blockage in his intestines if flushed out. Be patient and loving this is harder on the child than you.

Tateor - posted on 03/01/2013

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maybe you should just put him back in diapers, tell him if he can't go in the potty like a big boy he will have to wear diapers until he can learn, take his undies away and put packets of the diapers in his room and tell him when he's ready to learn to use the potty it will show him, tell him to let you know when he needs his diaper changed at least this way you won't have to deal with messes on the floor in his clothes,

Tj - posted on 02/24/2013

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Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2013

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I have read many of your recent posts above. I feel heartache for what all of you are going through. I can only say to you....THERE IS A SOLUTION!! This is not a problem that can be easily fixed with rewards or punishments. I know there are many approaches, but tried and true is a program of Laxatives...with behavioral changes under the supervision of an expert in this field. DoctorDaum has treated thousands of children. He can help most children in 3-7 days, with some continued follow up to tweet things as needed. No need to wait to go to the hospital, when you can get that kind of safe and effective solution at home with his help.
He will guide you through the whole thing over the phone and talk to you every day.
PLEASE, at least take a look and see what he offers. Doctordaum.com
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Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2013

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Encopresis is treatable. A program of laxatives with behavioral interventions will work. This needs to be supervised by a doctor who really understands these conditions...
DoctorDaum.com is someone who specializes in children with encopresis and other stooling issues. He has been doing this kind of work for many years and has developed an expertise in this area. Many people go to lots of doctors before finding him. He know how to help!
It is such a difficult challenging family problem. I hope you get the help you need.
Good luck,
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Michael - posted on 01/24/2013

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I am surprised by how many folks are having this problem. The child I am having this problem with is not mine but I am close to him and his family. He will soon be 7 and he has this problem. Very few days go by when he doesn't soil himself but I have actually had much better luck with this then his parents.

Surprisingly, he will not soil himself if he is in a pool or on a beach...all day. At his parents, he will soil himself so to speak even if he's in a bath tub.

Taking a cue from the beach and pool, he forgoes clothing entirely for the weekend. I am not sure why but he goes to the toilet if he isn't wearing clothes. Apparently, he will not soil himself if he isn't wearing anything. He also doesn't seem to soil himself at school, but as soon as he gets home, chances are high that he will unless, he doffs the clothes.

It has to be psychological. I took him on a 12 day driving trip to Cali and back and he only had ONE accident the entire time. His parents think I must be brilliant but I really don't have any answer at all. They do make him responsible for cleaning up his mess but not his underwear. That might be something to try though.

Graeme - posted on 01/23/2013

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I have twin boys. Before I get going I am a 65 year old male bring up my 2 x8 year old boys. I have been caring for them 90% of the time from Birth. Perhaps a section could be included for Sole Dads bringing up children.. One has a mild form of cerebral Palsy and also has a problem wetting and soiling his pants. The soiling has always been a problem but has gotten better over the last year with only perhaps 2 incidences every 2 weeks and wetting perhaps 3 times per week. He will be 9 in August 2013. Last year he would soil his pants at school perhaps in the morning and stay in them until he got home. Didn't seem to mind him but other school pupils could smell it. He has a clean change at school and has access to the showers but that doesn't always work because he is either not aware that he has soiled or is too lazy to change. He has problems telling the time and working with numbers so prompting him every two hours to go whether he want to or not is a difficult option. If he soils or wets he cleans everything himself. He comes under the incontinence services run by the local hospital and they provide Pull ups to wear to bed. He wets every night. I just hope he grows out of it soon because I have to carry a clean change for him every time we go out and am a little worried that we may not be by the public toilets when the soiling starts. He is under specialist services.

Connie - posted on 01/23/2013

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I have the same problem!! My son also has ADHD, and I do think it's an attention seeking venture on their part. I have tried the medication for constipation (for which he is clearly not), when he is on his ADHD medication he is much better, however I have a lot of difficulty getting him to take that as well.

I would love some quality suggestions myself. Good luck!! I'm over it!

Marlen - posted on 01/15/2013

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I have this problem with my 8 year old brother, and it frustrates everyone in our family. He will do it when he is out with aunts and uncles and at school. His problem is laziness, he does not want to miss any of the actions. His incidents increase during the holidays because of he does not what to miss a second. He is not my kid and does not live with me so I don't know if anything I do will actually help because he is only ever with me for the boring stuff like homework. I was thinking of having a specific restroom time and trying to make it a routine. So that he wont be missing anything because he will not be doing anything until he is done with his restroom time. He already washes his own underclothes, there is no way any of us would wash it for him specially since he know what he is doing and he is choosing to do the wrong thing.
Has anyone tried something like this before and if so how did it work for you?

Savanah - posted on 01/15/2013

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Nothing is working for us either and it seems the common denominator here is that they are boys. I have heard this is much more of an issue to train boys to go to the bathroom. The pitfalls people are making...don't call it going POTTY to a 7 year old, that's for toddlers, not kids in grade 2, make them own their mistakes, that means clean up your own mess, including your underwear by hand (that came from a doctor) and why shouldn't they, if there is no repercussions to making the mess, why stop. Stop cleaning for them, I found out my mother in law was still helping him wipe, to clean up, that blew us away, no one should be in the bathroom with a child of this age, they should be alone in there so they learn its their time, their body, they own it, period. Make a mess, you will have no dessert, no toys, no movie night, something...we have TRIED EVERYTHING AND I want to say we ruled out ANYTHING MEDICAL 1ST. This is pure laziness, and he likes to HOLD it. We were giving him enemas and after awhile he just became even lazier and relying on them. At 7 there is a sensation with having that done, I know parents don't like to hear that but its the truth, I have talked to many experts in varying fields. So he would stop sitting and trying, one day he just looked at me and said but daddy said he was going to give me an enema. We were shocked. That stopped immediately after talking to the doctor. So new thing, he keeps owing his body, if he comes home and made a mess, something is taken away for the night, he cleans up and has to sit until he lets it all out (we check on how long its been before we determine how much should be there and you can tell from how much his stomach is sticking out. ) If he chooses not to go on the bathroom, then off to the hospital. He will go instantly. Its control, and its laziness. Hope that helps. The bottom line is it will stop when they are ready but how we handle it is up to us. Apparently the 'harder' way didn't work. Someone once told me that actors don't act without an audience. So with me, I stopped explaining everything EVERY TIME. I will say you know why your sitting, you have 10 minutes, your body, your choice. Its been x days, if you don't go, the hospital doctors will help you. But you have to willing to get in the car and take him if he doesnt' go and we are. The really tough thing for us, is the Mother WON"T work with us so we know nothing about what's going on there. Very sad but we can't force her. That's another topic, I have that one posted but not sure anyone has responded. Hope this helps.

Meenakshi - posted on 01/15/2013

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meenakshi
Hello,
I face the same issue with my 5 year old son.
He has been diagnosed having ADHD... I tried many ways form soft to hard from talking to him to punishing him but noithing seems to work.

please help , give solution

Meenakshi - posted on 01/15/2013

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Hello,
I face the same issue with my 8 year old son.
I tried many ways form soft to hard from talking to him to punishing him but noithing seems to work.

Maggie - posted on 01/07/2013

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I know how you feel! My son has been doing this for all most a year now and I am loosing my mind. I have tried everything already that people on here have done. I am now looking at the situation that started this pooping in the pants. It seems to me that he started this when i was in and out of the hospital for two weeks. I have now had tip start with the reassuring him that i went leave again and that everything is okay now. The school is now starting to get involved thinking it has to do with his uncle that lives with us. My son is coming up with things to get around the real issue of why he is doing it and putting all of us in danger. Try and see if working on what event or events took place for it to happen if their is one. That is what is starting to help him a little to stop pooping his pants.

Shelly - posted on 01/07/2013

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my son is 8 years old and still poops in his pants but also he has autism. i took him to the dr about it and she told me it is because he is to afraid that he will miss something is why he goes in his pants instead of using the restroom.

Savanah - posted on 01/07/2013

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Hi Janice,

I understand, its very frustrating. My stepson is 7 and still does it. We haven't been able to find a solution yet, but we have tried EVERYTHING, I mean literally everything. It appears he will do it when's ready, period. What I do know so far is that this issue is with boys, not girls (typically). We are at a point where we tell him that its his body and he's responsible for it (we ruled out anything medically 1st before trying any other approach) and so now if he CHOOSES to poop in his pants, he has to clean it himself, I saw one woman say that was terrible, it my opinion its NOT. At these ages, these are decisions they are making, if we clean it for them, wash their underwear, wipe their bums, etc, what is the incentive for them to stop??? and we stopped calling it POTTY...that's baby talk, going to the bathroom...You can see my reply about all the things we tried. good luck!

User - posted on 01/07/2013

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I am having your problem. . . did you fix it yet or find anything out on how to deal with this?? My son poops constantly. Every diaper has some or alot in it. He is coming up on his 5th bday. I want him to be able to go to kindergarten but am so afraid he will be made fun of or kicked out. Did you find any help??

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