My six year old thinks she is queen bee!!!

Neely - posted on 11/02/2008 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I don't know what happened to my sweet little angel, but when she started first grade she turned her listening ears off. When I ask her to do something she completely ignores me. Has anyone else had this problem and what consequences works best?

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Lucretia - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi there,i have the same problem with my six year old,they really think they are teenagers.I go from grounding to taking away toys,but she only listeners for that moment and then we back to square one.I hate it if I ignore her but at time it helps.She thinks she is Barbie girl,she has mod swings and then my mother says that she has her period again.Don't know what to do at times

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Now I am wondering if there is something wrong with my 6 year old. Granted, I am her mother and I may be biased, but my 6 year old acts NOTHING like anything like that. She is the sweetest little girl you have ever met. I feel bad sometimes because she does something wrong and I just look at her and she apologized profusely and starts to cry. She is the most tender hearted little girl. She has NEVER talked back or thrown a tantrum. I don't know if it is just her temperment or what, but my 8 year old is the same way, and she never went through this stage. I wish you all good luck and hope that things start to turn around for you. I know that it can be trying (my 2 year old is the one testing my patience right now) and I will write down any advice that comes up because my 2 year old will definately give me a run for my money as she gets older! Good luck!

Tabitha - posted on 02/11/2009

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My 6 year old did the same thing. She has always been strong willed. and now the DRAMA has started! I have found that taking away her privilages (ie-favorite tv show, toy, playdates) have been quite effective. she got a nintendo ds for her bday and in about 2 days she lost it for a week. now i just have to mention the nintendo being gone and she 90% of the time changes her tune!

Maria - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Missy:



mine will be 7 in march... taking things awa didn't work, sending her to her room CERTAINLY didn't work (that's where all their stuff is, right?) and random other punishments went unnoticed. 






while i might jinx it, here is what worked for me.  i know it was sad and pathetic, but i thought it out and planned every second.  when i had enough i waited until she pitched her next big fit... then i sat down in the floor and cried.  i told her i was going to quit being a mommy because apparently i hadn't done something right.  i went on about what a bad job i was doing. 






after a bit she stopped me and told me i was doing a great job and that i couldn't quit because she needed me.  i said i didn't believe her - then SHE started giving me examples of how i had been a great mommy and she had not been a good girl.  after a few minutes of that... it clicked.  she realized that SHE was the one creating all of the drama in her own little life.  now she is great with me, but daddy is another issue.   i think i'll him sit in the floor next time.  :) Good luck!





Yeap...that must of worked.



 I did something simller.My 7 year old son was acting the same way so what i did was as soon as he started i just came right up to him and said:



"Well young man,since you think you are all grown up and know everything its time for you to move on.Theres the door you can now leave and live your life as you please."



So I opened the door.



The funny part was that he went stright out that door,so i closed it behind him,but he didnt leave.He stood there for about 1 minute and then came tramping in shouting:



"I have rights to this house too,so Im not leaveing"
From that day on he has been more behaved then ever.



Has anyone stoped to think that maybe this is a 2002 thing???



I have 5 more kids(older)they never were,like this one,at that age...????

Maria - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Missy:



mine will be 7 in march... taking things awa didn't work, sending her to her room CERTAINLY didn't work (that's where all their stuff is, right?) and random other punishments went unnoticed. 






while i might jinx it, here is what worked for me.  i know it was sad and pathetic, but i thought it out and planned every second.  when i had enough i waited until she pitched her next big fit... then i sat down in the floor and cried.  i told her i was going to quit being a mommy because apparently i hadn't done something right.  i went on about what a bad job i was doing. 






after a bit she stopped me and told me i was doing a great job and that i couldn't quit because she needed me.  i said i didn't believe her - then SHE started giving me examples of how i had been a great mommy and she had not been a good girl.  after a few minutes of that... it clicked.  she realized that SHE was the one creating all of the drama in her own little life.  now she is great with me, but daddy is another issue.   i think i'll him sit in the floor next time.  :) Good luck!





Yeap...that must of worked.



 I did something simller.My 7 year old son was acting the same way so what i did was as soon as he started i just came right up to him and said:



"Well young man,since you think you are all grown up and know everything its time for you to move on.Theres the door you can now leave and live your life as you please."



So I opened the door.



The funny part was that he went stright out that door,so i closed it behind him,but he didnt leave.He stood there for about 1 minute and then came tramping in shouting:



"I have rights to this house too,so Im not leaveing"
From that day on he has been more behaved then ever.



Has anyone stoped to think that maybe this is a 2002 thing???



I have 5 more kids(older)they never were,like this one,at that age...????

Hannah - posted on 02/05/2009

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Oy, I could have written all that's in here myself. Sometimes, I feel like my daughter has selective hearing. I really thought there was something wrong with my mothering skills, but after reading all the posts, I kind of feel better. Maybe it's a phase that kids have to go through. When she turns into a brat, I put her on time out and make her skip count by two (1-100). Or I put her in the corner with nothing to do...This is pure torture for her as she gets bored easily. This tames her in no time. I just wish, though, that she won't give me a reason to put her on time-out. But what irks me most, is that it's usually the same issue over and over again that we argue about.  

Rosie - posted on 01/27/2009

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yep! My sweet 6 yr old gets regularly 'body snatched' by this obnoxious teenage like being! Honestly, i swear she can go from angel to spawn of satan in 2 secs flat! lol I tend to give her 3 warnings during these 'body snatchings'...if after the 3rd, she's still being obnoxious, its off to the norty corner where she cries her eyes out and wails ' i'm sorry mummy, i'll be good now' PMSL

Missy - posted on 01/22/2009

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mine will be 7 in march... taking things awa didn't work, sending her to her room CERTAINLY didn't work (that's where all their stuff is, right?) and random other punishments went unnoticed. 



while i might jinx it, here is what worked for me.  i know it was sad and pathetic, but i thought it out and planned every second.  when i had enough i waited until she pitched her next big fit... then i sat down in the floor and cried.  i told her i was going to quit being a mommy because apparently i hadn't done something right.  i went on about what a bad job i was doing. 



after a bit she stopped me and told me i was doing a great job and that i couldn't quit because she needed me.  i said i didn't believe her - then SHE started giving me examples of how i had been a great mommy and she had not been a good girl.  after a few minutes of that... it clicked.  she realized that SHE was the one creating all of the drama in her own little life.  now she is great with me, but daddy is another issue.   i think i'll him sit in the floor next time.  :) Good luck!

Katie - posted on 01/21/2009

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Sounds like my daughter. She does not like to listen anymore. She acts like she is much older. ( with the attitude) Nice to know that i am not the only one. She used to act like a little tom boy and now she has taken a total 360.

Jolie - posted on 01/19/2009

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We took my daughter's TV out of her room for nearly 2 weeks - did not really make a difference at all. I have no idea what to do either. I am just glad I am not in it alone.

Jen - posted on 01/17/2009

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Ok... I feel like this is normal after reading this because My daughter is exactly like your girls... She is 6 1/2 going on 16... She tries to dress up like a teenager and acts like teens do.. She has mood swings like she is already hormonal... And some days everything is the end of the world... I do really enjoy doing things together but I just can't stand all of the attitude... I have also tried taking away things but it really doesn't seem to help...It just perpetuates the "end of the world" behavior... SO I guess I am asking is there an end in sight?!?! Or is this just the beginning of many more years of torment... ha! (However, my mother thinks its great fun to watch since she says that my daughter is JUST like her mother...ha!)

Laurie - posted on 01/17/2009

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I also have a 7 year old girl (jan 2th) and she is exactly like your children as well, maybe it's the year LOL. I usually take the telephone or her music off her when she doesn't listen but it doesn't stop her for long

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After reading these, I'm glad I only have boys!  Just kidding!!!!  My little man has had his share of attitude.  He has pulled the ignoring thing on me.  Now he knows...I ask him once and if he doesn't listen I get in his face and ask a 2nd time.  If he still doesn't do what I say, something is taken away.  It has been anything from no games, no snack after dinner, no going outside to play, no book at bedtime.  The big thing is stick to the punishment! 

Trina - posted on 01/14/2009

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Oh God!!! You have all just described MY daughter!!! She just turned 7 on the 7th of jan and she is a handful!!!! A huge attitude problem!!! Thinks shes 17 not 7!!! I am dreading puberty and all the extra hormones!!! She cab changes moods in the blink of an eye!!!

Chantee - posted on 01/11/2009

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Geez sounds just like my daughter!  People say all the time how they wish their teenagers were my daughters age and I just laugh and tell them that she is a teenager only smaller.  The things she says, mood swings, everything is just like a teenager.  It drives me bonkers.  I have found that with her the only thing that makes any difference in her behavior is to ignore her.  I have tried everything else...and I mean everything!  This is the only thing that has worked so far.  I just tell her that the way she is acting is not okay and that she needs to stop and that I don't want to talk to her until her attitude has changed.  Some days it takes awhile and others she changes her tune right away.

Tracy - posted on 01/03/2009

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Wow... sounds exactly like my six year old daughter, seems like she's a 16 year old (with attitude!) trapped in a six year olds body!!! I'm still trying to figure out the right consequence... tried taking away things she likes, grounding... I could use some good suggestions to, or atleast a different way to execute the old ones!! :)

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