Sara - posted on 10/21/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
Ok, I really think I know the answer to this question, but I'm stuck. Last Wednesday I ran into an old boyfriend, he said he's been looking for me for the last 5 years and wanted to get back together. He's 8 years younger than I am, which isn't the problem, just some information. On Friday, he came over after work and has been here ever since. I have been constantly asking my children who are 9,6,5, what they think, and how they feel about it. They are my biggest priority, but I have been alone for so long, I dont want him to go, but I dont want to hurt my kids. I am really confused, I have been asking everyone I know what they think. I am getting mostly "how do you feel in your heart?" My dad is understanding of this, and seems to support my decision since I'm not taking this lightly, and not completely jumpin into this without asking myself, and praying about it, and asking everyone I know if this is wrong. I am a recovering addict, have been clean for 3 years. I have been alone for that long too, with the exception of about 3 months when i dated a man who was "just friends." My children haven't seen thier mom giving this much affection to someone else, that they can remember. On the other hand, I havent given my children this much quality time in it would seem years. I am worried about how they feel, but they seem to so far not too affected by it. He is really great with them, play's and such. He is also great at the house, he helps washing dishes, taking out the trash, and cleaning too. I know that this man would love me forever, he has truly loved me for the past 5 years, and his heart is one of gold. It feels comfortable, and like my kids are ok, but there is that sneaking feeling that I am doing something totally wrong. Sorry to write such a big page, but I wanted you to have as much information about the situation as possible, if you have any questions, please ask!