Clingy 6 year old

Debbie - posted on 01/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My DD is 6 years old and is very clingy to me. It is like she is reversing time and wanting to be a baby. She won't dress herself for school. She sucks her thumb and carries her bear everywhere she goes. She will not do an activity unless I help her to get comfortable. Also, she has an issue with male figures. I think this stems from when she was 3 and needed stitches above her eye. She had a male Dr as well as a male nurse who had to hold her down. It was so horrible that I left the room and my husband stayed with her. This is something that I will regret for the rest of my life. Because I feel that is the day that she changed. I do have a soon to be 2 year old and there is some jealousy there as well. I thought we had a break through a couple of weeks ago because she started basketball with a male coach (A friend's dad). I did go and help out ith the first few practices to help her get comfortable. Things were going well. Then last night was the first game and she would not play because I was not out there. When the coach tried to talk to her, she got upset.She wouldn't even sit with her team.

I am at wits end because I am afraid the other kids will start staying away from her. We are seeing a therapist but I am not sure if it is actually helping. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Is it a phase? I feel so helpless.


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Krysta - posted on 02/11/2011




For the both of you I advise that you just let them have their time with you. My own 6 yro is the same way. It may as topic writer said be from something traumatic. My 6yro goes through phases herself. And I do know it's from some traumatic experiences of her seeing her dad abuse me. She loves my boyfriend like crazy but she'll even pull away from him at times. As I suggested give it time. They'll come out of their shell sooner or later. Good luck and hope to hear some positive stories soon!

Stephanie - posted on 02/05/2011




i have a 6yo son and hes always been a clingy boy always wanting to b wherever i was,even standing outside the bathroom when i was in there,now im getting a divorce and let me tell u he is worse than a hemroid! i love my baby but its getting rediculous,now i have to leave the door open a crack so he knows im in there. but it doesnt help i havent slept in my bed since my husband left so every morning i wake up and hes on the couch next to me! sorry i dont have advice but i had to vent! i wish you luck

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