does anyone have a child that still soils.?

Melody - posted on 08/10/2010

Hi, Tanya. I don't know how to add you on my facebook, so can you add me? I went to your profile on circle of moms, but can't seem to figure it out. Can you add me? I see you have a Nathan as well, seems we have something else in common....take care for now :)

Tanya - posted on 08/10/2010

Hi Melody

my son is in night time pull ups too ,my son is in pull ups at school too as he was having so many accidents at school , he is on movicol 2 sachets in the morning & 2 on a night , he was in hospital in June , he opens his bowels in the toilet but still has soiling accidents during the day & at night time as well , he sometimes wets during the night about 4 out of the 7 nights.The school have been great , they do change him , I told them his specialist wants him in pants , but the school say pull ups are more hygenic , as he is really runny & it leaks into his trousers , socks every where , it is his dignity that worries me , he does not know when he has solied either . If you want to add me as a friend on face book you can we can support each other . What do you think it is really frustrating I know , The specialist wants to admit him to Darlington Hospital now which is more than 20 miles away from where we live , we have said he will be admitted , but to our local hospital..take care .

Melody - posted on 08/09/2010

I didn't realize so many other kids had this problem! My son just turned six, and so far nothing medical has turned up, but the doctors have all said with time it will get better. He sees another specialist in September. But, until then, we have to deal with it and it's tough. He will soil his pants when playing video games - so we take them away, but then he'll do it at school during gym or just sitting at his desk or doing anything. It was happening a couple times a week, and we were getting calls to pick him up from school and it was so frustrating. And I can't tell if he's playing with us, when I smell something and ask if he's had an accident, it's always, "i'll go check, mommy" so then I wonder if he really doesn't realize it or if he just doesn't care. He still wets the bed at night too, which we've now just become accustomed to and put him in pull ups at bedtime to avoid doing so much laundry every day. I've had people tell me "oh just let him sleep in his pee then, or let him sit in his poo" but I can't agree with that. We tried sleeping him without pull ups, and waking him in the middle of the night but he either throws a fit and curls up into a ball crying when we wake him, or the odd time I am able to get him to pee in the middle of the night, he still pees the bed after that. I'm at a loss, because, mainly, I don't want him teased in school. Also, my oldest boy was potty trained early (18 months) and had bedwetting problems until just a few weeks ago (he's now 8), but never during the day so I don't know what else to try.

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

Hi Rachel
How is your son now ? My son is no better even after being admitted to hospital in June 2010 , he is not solid , he is very runny & hass been like this since he was admitted to hspital , My school where my son attends have been brilliant , they are trying to get special pull ups for him from the peadiatric incontenence organisation , that helps children , they say he can have them but the specialist said no , I just wish they would listen to us parents as we know our children better than them . hope you are getting the help your child needs.

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

Hi Carisa

I too am really frustrated , my son can not sit on the toliet indefinately like I was told keep him on the toilet till he poo's he opens his bowel at least 4 times a day yet still has accidents , I just wish specailist would listen to us parents we know our children better than any one , but they think they know best . hope you are getting the help you need now .

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

Hi Chrissy

My son was admitted to hopsital in June 2010 , but he is still the same he goes to the toliet opens his bowels at least 3 or 4 times a day , but still messes , he has not been solid since he was dicharged from hospital the specialist wants to admit him again at a hospital which is over 20 miles away , we said no , we have put a complaint in as we feel we are getting no where with the consultant , my son will be 6 in november he has a lovely happy nature , my husband worries so much about him , the primary school staff are brillliant , they are even trying to get specialist pull ups for him as they said it is more hygenic having him in pull ups rather than pants as he is always so runny . if you want to add me as a face book friend please do so , I hope you are getting more help with your little one.

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

Hi Elizabeth ,
My son will be 6 in November & is still soiling he goes to the toilet empties his bowles , but still has at least 4 accidents a day , he was admitted to hospitla in June , but that did not make any difference , it is heart breaking , he smiles all the time , but it is heart breaking seeing him in pain , he is on 4 movicol sachets a day . .If you want to add me as a friend please feel free. from Tanya

Elizabeth - posted on 05/12/2010

I have a 5 daugther at have the same problem .We have know problem going to the toilet.But it hard to get her to take her medicals .The fiber diet is a good diet and I try boost it work to.

Chrissy - posted on 05/12/2010

meg will be 6 in october and i started training when she was 2 and im still doing it now i had has doc apps when she was 3 and was told she was fine it was normal and @4 it was still normal after goin in and shouting at the doctor then crying and abit more shouting he agreed to send her for testing and oh the shock (not) she has a prob, she holds it in to long and then blocks herself up,then when it comes to having to go she is so full and blocked it hurts so she dose not wanna go and holds it in for even longer. its something she can stop doing if she wants to, but she dose not want to as going to toilet will mean she has to miss out on things, others can do as there dont need toilet, i now have a 2 year old and i find myself not wanting to toilet trian her as im so worried it will happen again and with baby 3 on the way i just wish i could get her to stop, she poos at lunch time at school then sits in it until she comes home the teachers dont pick up on it but soon the kids will and then will come the bullys, iv been told how to stop her doing it from sitting her on the toilet from the time she gets up untill she poos, putting her back in nappys and LETTING her mates no so they can take the micky,let her carry on untill she stops, over feed her so she is so funn she has to go, take her off solid foods so she cant stop herself. not the kind of help we need, im just going to keep going my way and hope some people shut up and let us get on with it, sorry didnt mean to have a rant it gets to me some times,

Carisa - posted on 05/12/2010

thank you tanesha i will try that for my 5 year old, hopefully it will help. I am at the point of real frustration especially when everyone else around us likes to comment all the time. i feel like braking down and crying so hopefully that handy hint will change things for us!

Tanesha - posted on 02/10/2010

My son is ok now. But for years he would hold it in. So someone suggested giving Karo syrup to him. I gave him a teaspoon when he got home from school everyday and he couldn't hold it in at all. Really soon (within a week or two) he stopped holding it, b/c he was no longer afraid that it would hurt.

Tanya - posted on 01/11/2010

GLAD i AM NOT ALONE , nice to know there are other parents going through the same as me , if you want we could chat & have idea swapping or just be there for a shoulder to cry on if needed. The new specilist I am seeing is on the 3rd Feb , will keep you posted.

Mahria - posted on 01/04/2010

My son will be six next month. He has the same problems with his bowels. His pediatrician put him on a high fiber diet and I had to "train" his bowels. I must say it is frustrating, but at least he can go to school with kids on the same level as him. I have cried just as many tears watching him in pain as he goes but once he was able to have a normal movement it got a little easier. Benefiber and Myralax were just the beginning and it is still a fight to get him on the toilet, but he would rather go at home then at school, so getting to have a movement before school and when he gets home are very important! And like anything else, try not to show your frustration and fear because it only worsens the situation

Rachel - posted on 01/02/2010

My son still isn't fully potty trained at 5. It's been extremely frustrating - he's scared of the toilet, he's scared of the bathroom, he doesn't want to train, etc. It's been absolute hell trying to train him, and we just gave up for a while, but are back now, working hard at helping him with the potty. I'm sick and tired of scrubbing out his underwear though!