how can i get my 5yr old to stop peeing at night?
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Roxanne - posted on 08/03/2009
I am in the same "boat"... our 5 year daughter is still wetting the bed. our doctor said she may do it till she 7 and if she is still wetting the bed after that they will look into other stuff. the hard part is that my husband doesn't understand why it is happening to her, when it didn't happen to our other 3 children, all of whom by the age of 3 were wearing underwear or panties to bed
I had this same problem with my son until a friend recommended I try the Potty Pager. (www.pottypager.com) I was against giving my son medication which is a hormone, and he was afraid to wear an actual alarm. This device clips to the front of underwear and simply vibrates when it becomes wet. It took a few weeks, but he's sleeping through the night without it now and is dry. Worth every penny.
Alicia - posted on 02/14/2010
You can't get him to stop. It's very common for children to wet the bed. My five year old still does. We put plastic on his bed and he wears night pants (like pull-ups). It can go on for several years. As they get older, the doctor might prescribe something to stop it, but for now, it's just something we have to deal with. Kids sleep a lot more soundly than we do, so they'll sleep right through it. Their brain does not alert their body to wake up and use the bathroom. Sometimes they are physically underdeveloped and the muscular sphyncter does not hold the bladder at night. I limit my son's fluids at night, and sometimes try to wake him when I have the energy so he will avoid bet wetting, but it's just out of his and our control, really.
Lorrie - posted on 10/15/2009
our son was having the same problem he is 5 will be 6 in febuary and we had to make sure he put pull ups on at night or his bed would be soaked..but we started limiting how much he gets to drink at night usually a cup at dinner and maybe 1/2 cup of something before 7 then make him go potty before he goes to bed and he has not had any accidents since
User - posted on 10/23/2010
my daughter had the same problem, she goes to bed for school at 9 so anytime after 7 she wasn't allowed a drink, she herself was tired of "accidents" and so whenever she would ask for a drink after 7 i told her no bc i didn't want an accident, and so far with that she hasn't had any accidents and its been 3 months, my friend had the same problem w her 8 year old and she tried it and it worked, also with time mine has stopped sleeping so hard so along side of limited drinks she wakes up in the night now and goes to the bathroom good luck to you
Kari - posted on 10/22/2010
My son is 6 and wakes up very wet everyday, i actually fear that he will be in pull ups long after our 2 year old is out of them. The Dr told us that boys sometimes have to grow into their bladders and not to fret over situation.Easy to say when your not spendin 12 bucks every two weeks on make shift diapers
Trena - posted on 05/14/2010
We are 6 yrs and 1 mo and my daughter still has to wear an overnight pull up. Peditrician says not to worry, she will eventually grow out of it - I am worried to make a big deal about it since it might cause phsych issues. Right now she has a smiley chart and if she goes 7 days with a dry night, she gets to wear panties to bed - we have had only 1 wet night in the last 5....
Frannie - posted on 04/28/2010
I have the same issue with my 5yr old. We have tried the alarm setting, cutting fluids and the whole bit. The doctor said that bed wetting is very normal for a lot of children and that we shouldn't make her feel bad about it because she can't help it. She also said that bed wetting is passed down through the family. I wasn't a bed wetter and neither was my husband but both of my brothers were and his aunt was. The doctor also said that they could wet the bed up to 11yrs old. So be patient with your kiddos Moms because that's all we have control over is our patience. I always try to praise and make a big deal when Kara for wakes up dry. Hope that helps you some.
Claudelle - posted on 04/16/2010
My 5 year old also use to wet the bed. I know how frustrating it can get. Key word patience (not that I had it, he drained every last bit out of me). I was washing bedding at night and in the morning. People told me try reducing is liquid intake (I did even went as low as 3pm to stop the liquid intake), people told me to not give him liquid foods soups etc at night (stopped that), elavate the bed, don't let him drink milk at night (he does not drink milk at all), set your clock to 3 hours after he had gone to bed and take him to the toliet, etc, etc, etc, it was one thing after another which just did not work. Then I was told to try and get him to wash his own bedding. I know it sounds cruel, I felt it was cruel, but I was at my wit ends, so in the morning when he woke up wet, I told him in a nice way, mommy is very tired, I think he needs to help me and take his own bedding off and help mommy wash it. He thought it was fun at first, but after day 4 he told me, mommy I am sooooo tired I think you must do my bedding. I told him no we both do it otherwise I am not going to take it off your bed and you'll have to sleep in the wet bed at night. Well he decide he didn't want to help me, so I left it on. The next morning he took it off and asked me to help him wash it, because it did not smell good and it made him smell stinky. We the bedding put clean bedding on and since then he has gone through the night without wetting the bed. There have been nights where he has woken up and gone to the toilet and some accidents along the way, but I have never had to wash bedding every day, since I gave him the responsibility. Good Luck, hope you have more patience then I had. I am usually a very patient person, but that just took a lot out of me.
Nicola Jane - posted on 04/09/2010
I too am in the same boat, my eldest daughter is soon to be 6 and wets the bed every night! It is really frustraiting as her younger sister has been dry for 2 yrs and i ve used the same techniques on both of them!
I used to use pull ups and she had a dry stage but as soon as i put her in pants it started again!
I dont inderstand it, she goes to bed around half 7 ish every night and i dont give her any luiquids from 4 onwards, she goes to the toilets before bed and i wake her again at 10 and she goes again. i wake her again at 12 and she goes to the toilet again. but she still wakes in the morning with her beds soaked!
I am extreamly frustrated but it does nt seem to bother her at all. My doctor said its not much of a problem till she s 7 or 8!? but im worried she has a small bladder and thats the real reasons shes not catching on, but i guess i'll never find out for a nother couple of years, so dont worry, your really not on your own.
Vicki - posted on 04/09/2010
The best thing i can tell u to do is what worked best for me. DO NOT give any drinks about an hour or so before bed time NO MATTER WHAT!!!!. Ur child probably will not enjoy that but u have to stand ur ground. Then make them go potty before bed. This is what i did for my son. He was peeing the bed almost every night. It took a couple tries but eventually he got it.
Stina - posted on 04/01/2010
Check out askdrsears.com He has some information about bedwetting as well as steps you and your son can take to train the brain and bladder to properly communicate at night...
We are trying (again) to get my son out of pullups. Using some of Dr. Sears tips. The excited happy child who woke up dry this morning was worth the effort on our part to wake him a couple times last night (our first night) Tonight we'll only wake him once at around 4-5ish when the baby wakes to nurse since he didn't need to pee at Midnight last night. In a week or two, we'll see if he wakes on his own or is able to make it till 7:00 dry.
Nadine De - posted on 02/26/2010
sooo happy to hear I am not alone!!
Alicia was 5 in Sept and stil wets her bed I let her slepp with a nappy and when its dry in the morning I praise her for not wetting it, which is not that often but when it is dry I can see by her reaction that she is very proud of her achievement, I don't want to pressure her and make her feel insecure so we keep the night time weewing conversation to a minimal and just put the nappy on until she is ready,
Azza Jamila - posted on 02/12/2010
My son turned 5 last year and sometimes he still wets his bed. I tried limiting his water intake a couple of hours before bedtime but that makes him cranky and he would wake up asking for water. He would sleep at 9pm, I come home from school at 10pm and I'll wake him up at 12am to go to the bathroom. Then I'll set the alarm for 3am for me to accompany him to the bathroom. Now he wakes me up when he needs to go to the bathroom. It takes a bit of work and patience but I know he's learning to control it.
Tanesha - posted on 02/10/2010
Maybe I'm too harsh :) But how I have improved the situation is limiting liquids to dinner time. When he asks for more, reminding him that he may not want to b/c he may have an accident. Always have him use the bathroom right before getting in bed. Then if he wakes up wet, I let him do everything. He has to change his clothes, put the wet ones in the laundry room, wash himself, lay a towel on the bed if needed (usually not), and put on clean pajamas. This is not his favorite nite time past time, especially if he does not have me as an audience. So the occurrence is a lot less frequent now. Like others have said - it's usually when he's too tired and doesn't wake up in time. However, he seems a lot more motivated to get up and use the restroom, to avoid the alternative.
Lilli - posted on 07/21/2009
I don't have any real answers. I'm just glad to know that my daughter isn't the only child still wearing pull ups at night. They are usually soaked too. I"ve tried limiting her liquid intake. I think she sleeps so deeply that she has no idea she is peeing. I thought I would try old fashioned terry cloth underpants to see if that would make a difference. Perhaps the discomfort would wake her up and she'd get on board faster. I'm not going to dwell on it, but I sometimes wonder if it isn't shear laziness on her part.
Lautice - posted on 07/07/2009
I have a 6 year old who sleeps very hard and what we fear may be a small bladder. We have cut his fluids to a certain time, wake him up in the middle of the night, set alarms (which he doesn't hear) but to no avail. Sometimes he'll go for weeks without incident and then starts up again. I know for him he is just as frustrated with himself. It's a process unfortunately with no direct answers. Have you talked with your primary?
Crystal - posted on 07/05/2009
Don't assume she is doing it on purpose. Maybe she is sleeping too deeply to wake up to go or maybe her bladder is just not mature enough yet. Limit fluids in the evening to see if that helps (but not to the point that she gets dehydrated, of course). Make sure she tries to go before going to bed. If all else fails, speak with your child's doctor. My niece had the same issue, but she eventually grew out of it. Be patient. Is your child embarrassed about it or okay with it or what?
Stina - posted on 07/03/2009
I feel for you. My DS will be 5 in September. We finally moved in march to a place with washer/dryer hookups so we stopped putting him in diapers/pullups at night. Used a plastic cover over the mattress and did a lot of laundry for quite a while- our biggest issue was that he would wake in the morning wet and not get out of bed- just lie in it and since I work swings... well you get the idea.
so it's been four months of lots of changing sheets for him and then about two weeks ago, he started waking dry... we limit fluids after dinner... and on the days he wakes wet, he has started to get up out of bed. come to think of it, the change happened when his little sis started to potty train pretty quickly and successfully.
I know it's all very frustrating, but sometimes it takes a while for kids bladders to mature enough to be able to make it through the night- and if they are heavy sleepers, they sleep right through.
I don't know if this was helpful- but you aren't the only one with a kid who is still night wetting.
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