Dad teaches him rude words

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My August 2006 son comes home from his Dad's almost every week saying a different rude word. Over the last few weeks I've been called a "little bastard", been told to "piss off", been called a "nigga" and a "gook".

I've said something to his father a number of times, but when I do I'm made out to be the bad guy. He says that our son knows what's naughty and does it for attention, but I can't help thinking that if he didn't hear those words, he wouldn't say them!

I know 4 yr olds are like sponges and pick up everything, that's why I try to be careful with what I say, but I don't use those words at all, let alone around him.

His dad said that the other (older) kids call the cat a "nigga". What kind of example is that setting for our son, and the other kids for that matter??

I'm interested to know what other mums think. How can I nip this in the bud now, before it gets worse? I can punish my son by washing his mouth with soap, but what's the point if he's not discouraged from using bad language when he's not at home with me?

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Krista - posted on 07/13/2010

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First off this is breaking any parenting papers you have and I would highly encourage you to speak with your lawyer.

Secondly, you speaking to your ex is falling on deaf ears, believe me when I share- been there done that..

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Catherine - posted on 06/28/2010

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EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUSBAND THAT HE MAY THINK ITS CUTE. BUT BY TEACHING HIM THOSE WORDS HE IS INSTILLING PREJUDICIAL WAYS. AND AS YOUR CHILD BECOMES OLDER AND CONTINUES TO SAY THOSE WORDS YOUR HUSBAND WILL THEN BE EMBARRASED . AND HE WILL HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT HIMSELF.

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