HELP!! My almost 6 year old son will not blow his nose, or wipe his own butt!!

Haley - posted on 07/10/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hey fellow Mama's!! I'm in need of some advice. My son (almost 6) will be starting Kindergarten this fall, and I am VERY concerned. We can not get him to wipe his own butt after using the bathroom. I have tried everything I can think of including leaving him in the bathroom do deal w/ it for 30 minutes. He STILL wouldn't do it...he just cried and cried the entire time. Have any of you other mom's delt w/ this at all???



I am also having a hard time getting him to blow his nose. He just pinches his nose with whatever shirt he is wearing and calls it good. Ahhhhhh!! Five year olds...I tell ya!! Any advice would be much appreciated!!

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Colleen - posted on 03/27/2013

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My son is only four, but my nephew is 7. I am inclined to believe that this is a boy thing. Many of my friends with sons also have a harder time getting the hygene steps to stick. My son will sometimes wipe, but can't get it all clean and that buggs him later, so he does prefer that I do it so he's not feeling icky later. He will blow his nose but only if I make the effort to make him do it. Otherwise it'll be on his sleeve, pillow, or me. But like I said, I see similar behavior from my nephew and hear the stories about others with boys who are same age as well.

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Oh my gosh... Thought I was the only one with this problem. My son was in PreK last year and he had this problem which I wasnt aware of because at home he would wipe, but has recently stopped wiping.
His nose on the other hand, I can get him to use a tissue but he only wipes his nose, he just makes the blowing noise with his mouth, he wont actually blow it.

We have tried everything but cant get him to do either, I dont want him to start school and be the smelly kid in class.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/29/2012

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I also have had this nose blowing problem with my 5 and a half year old daughter. Every time she had a bad cold, she would sniff all the mucus back up into her sinuses. We just could NOT get her to blow. She is very interested in all medical videos, so we even showed her what happens to the mucus when it comes out AND when it stays in. We just couldn't reason with her. Anyway, I came on here to find an answer or help and was reading the posts out loud for her to hear and she said, "Mommy, I CAN blow MY nose. Watch..." and low and behold...she BLEW! Go figure.

Samantha - posted on 05/21/2010

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I got my three (at that time) and two year old boys to wipe their own butt by simply not doing it for them. I told them if they didnt do it their butt would itch. My oldest listen but my youngest had to find out the hard way. After his butt started itching that day and i explained to him again y it itch he then has always remembered to wipe it. He then started using the whole roll of tp being afraid of it itching again. So i then explained to him he has a little butt so he only needs a little bit. Wrap the the tp around your hand and thats enough. He just started getting used to that. He sometimes asks me to check if he got all of it. lol Blowing their nose on the other hand at least he is wiping it somewhere. lol My oldest who is now almost five is picking it and eating it. I explained how burgers are germs but seeing how he never gets sick he doesnt believe me and just laughs when he does it. He even does it in public! I told him next time he does it he is going in the corner. I caught him doing it once today n after putting him the corner he hasnt done it.Which is very good because that finger is always up there

Angela - posted on 04/20/2010

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Unfortunately my son (who is 7) only just starting wiping his own butt recently. Before this momentus occasion though, we gave him flushable wet wipes. They helped, and he would wipe his own with them. About the issue with school, I found my son just wouldn't go at school, it was the first place you would find him after school; in the bathroom.

Angie - posted on 08/14/2009

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Not to be rude but , WOOHOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here I thought that I was the only one who had these two problems .. lol sorry
The whole blowing the nose thing I'm still working on that . I don't under stand why he wont, my girls are better at that and one is 9 and the other is 1, so that I still don't know but if I find something that works I will so let you know..
As for the butt wiping thing I told my son that he would never be about to go to school until he did that on his own, cuz it showed he was old enough to start school. And that his teachers were not able to do it for them cuz they would get fired, and I was not able to go to school with him.. So he came home from school today, and he was telling me about his day and he said " oh and I wiped my butt all by myself today"( in the middle of the store, in that excited loud voice lol ) I didn't mean to laugh but it caught me off guard .. Then he told me ' mom it's not funny" So we did the whole high fives and I told him I was proud of him.. You could try something like that. I wish that I was better help but none of my friends had this problem to no one could ever help me...

Angie

Tracy - posted on 07/21/2009

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I have the wiping butt thing too. The prob is tht he uses to much TP which cloggs the toilet. Still working on that one. sorry

Katina - posted on 07/19/2009

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My son had/has a HUGE problem with the entire pooping process. He hates the smell and actually used to vomit directly after every bowel movement. Once I determined that he had smell issues I was able to get him over the vomiting and in the last 5 months he has finally begun to wipe himself. I was able to get him on board by lighting a match directly after the bowel movement to "take away the smell". I also allowed him to get up directly after and move away. Then we started having him wipe himself away fromt he toilet and gradually moved it closer and closer until now hw will wipe and then run (he still can't flush or look at it!). Once you determine why your son has a strong aversion to wiping you might be able to determine a training program for him. Now I have to get my son to pee standing up- still workign on that one! good luck!

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