Teacher has scared my son and not sure what to do..

Trish - posted on 09/25/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

I have four boys ages, 14,11,8 and 5 years. This year my 5 year old started the big K! Last year and the year before my son was in a pre-k program so this was not new to him. Actually he was looking forward to getting to ride the big boy bus with his brothers. School started out fine and then it has went down his like crazy.
Let me first say being the youngest child he is the wildest, not afraid of anything, always into something and always talking to everybody. Everybody around knows him and he has never met a stranger. He was a "social" child..
The first thing that went wrong was my son was stung by a bee for the first time when walking in the hallway headed to the bus after school. The teacher told him to stop crying, she poured rubbing alcohol on his finger and put him on the bus. She didn't call me nothing so he didn't get home until about 30 min after the sting so his hand was swollen, and he was in pain when he got home. I was not able to get the stinger out because he had held onto his finger the whole way home because it hurt and that started him being very afraid to be bitten by any insect.
My son was peeing in the toilet and a hanging freshener was on the toilet and it fell off. My son didn't want to get in trouble so he picked it up and tried to hand it back on the toilet. When he told his teacher she told him that the freshner was poison and he had to rewash his hands because if he got it near his mouth he could get very sick.
The next bad experience was when the teacher was talking about moms in class and told the class to be nice to their moms because her mom got sick and died. After that conversation my son started asking about 100 times a day if he is going to get sick and die and if everything is poison. I mean EVERYTHING. He is so worried about dying that it consumes our day.
For some reason my son if very afraid of this teacher, she is an older lady and she is very stern but usually that doesn't bother him. Somthing about her terrifies him and in any other class in the school he is fine but when he goes back to her room he gets very upset. His crying is so bad that other people at the school tell me about it and so do moms who are at the school.
What has finally made me very upset was when the teacher told my son that she wanted to take him to get a drink of water and "talk" to him. He went with her and she told him that if he doesn't go to school the police will put his parents in jail. She told me it was to make him stop wanting to leave school to come home. I have only kept him home 1 day and it was because he was sick.
I am very worried because my son is so worried about dying that he will ask you if the food he is eating can make him sick and die, if he sleeps for to long will he die, if he keeps growing older will he die, if there is something bad on his food, if there is poison on his toys that may make him sick ... it goes on and on.
I spoke to the teacher and she says she doesn't know why he is so upset and she didn't mean to upset him by her actions.
I have a meeting at the school next week and I am wondering if should have a member of the school board at the meeting?
It is all I can do not to cry when my son asks me if he is going to die in his sleep because he may grow older and not know it. I have tried talking to him and he has started seeing a therapist who believes it is the teacher who is the problem. Our school only has on teacher though and we are in the woods with no other schools around here.
Help...